Friday, July 27, 2012 4:56 PM
Jacob’s last day for his summer program is today. School starts in less than 3 weeks and I need to take the boys school shopping. Aaron is never home between band and work and a girlfriend. So, I don’t know when I can take him school shopping. Ben, Jacob and I are going school shopping one day next week. At least I’ll be able to get the two of them ready for school. Ben will be watching Jacob next week but I’m not sure that’s a good idea. However, Ben did it last year and they both survived. Aaron will be at band camp next week so he won’t be around at all. I just can’t believe summer’s almost over and I didn’t even get to the beach this year. Maybe I’ll get to go next year. We really didn’t get to do anything fun this summer. Not that we ever go on a big vacation but we usually go to NJ to see my family. We didn’t even do that this summer. How and why is life getting away from me? I need to take some time to “smell the roses” as they say. If I can only figure how…
Monday, July 23, 2012 4:57 PM
Its official, we have a cat…Snuggles. She is white with large gray spots. I tried to convince Jacob to name the cat Patches but he wouldn’t change his mind. I know Jacob should be the one to name the cat what he wants to name her. I just thought in a few years when Jacob is 12 or 13 he may not want to call the cat…Snuggles. It is just a hunch…but a good one. Since Snugglse is a female and will be outside, she needs to be fixed and have her shots also. I don’t need to have 15 cats running around my house. So, I’m working on locating an assistance program to aid in the cost of this. I have 2 possibilities which is a start. Hopefully, I can get Snuggles fixed soon before it’s too late. BTW…how do I explain that one to Jacob???
Its official, we have a cat…Snuggles. She is white with large gray spots. I tried to convince Jacob to name the cat Patches but he wouldn’t change his mind. I know Jacob should be the one to name the cat what he wants to name her. I just thought in a few years when Jacob is 12 or 13 he may not want to call the cat…Snuggles. It is just a hunch…but a good one. Since Snugglse is a female and will be outside, she needs to be fixed and have her shots also. I don’t need to have 15 cats running around my house. So, I’m working on locating an assistance program to aid in the cost of this. I have 2 possibilities which is a start. Hopefully, I can get Snuggles fixed soon before it’s too late. BTW…how do I explain that one to Jacob???
Wednesday, July 18, 2012 5:10 PM
Well, I think we have a new pet. I feed a stray cat on Sunday night and now it’s living on my porch. What was I to do? The cat was meowing so loudly because it was starving. Ben told me not to feed it because it would never leave. I knew he was right but I had pity for her. So I gave the cat some milk and some dog food. The cat came back Monday night and had some more milk. Then the cat played with Jacob for a while. Jacob is soooo excited he already loves this cat. I told Jacob in 1 week if the cat was still coming around our house, he could name it. Jacob wants to name the cat Snuggles. When I got up yesterday, the cat was sleeping on my porch. I stopped at the store yesterday and bought cat food and a dish for Snuggles. I guess she’s staying but outside. We have a dog in the house who wants to eat the cat. Really…so the cat has to stay outside. I think this cat was an indoor cat because she keeps trying to sneak in the house. As long as the cat doesn’t jump in my pool and drown, I think Jacob will be thrilled with our new pet.
Friday, July 13, 2012 4:43 PM
Aaron is at the DMV taking his driving test as I sit here at my desk working. I’m so nervous almost as much as Aaron is. I’ve been saying a prayer for him to pass the test all week. I even have my fingers crossed. Aaron and I went to the DMV to practice last night and I think he’s really ready this time but wouldn’t you know it….it’s raining todayLAaron hasn’t driven much in the rain so I’m a little worried. I know…I know…he’ll be fine.
So, an hour later…Aaron is actually taking the driving test. I text his dad to see what was going on because I couldn’t wait any longer. Aaron was parallel parking and his dad wasn’t watching so I guess I wasn’t the only nervous parent. Guess what…Aaron passed his driving test! What a relief! I’m so happy for him. Now there is an entirely different type of worrying that has begun.
Tuesday, July 10, 2012 8:40 PM
I’ve felt extremely bad for Aaron all weekend because he failed his driving test. I didn’t sleep well at all. I know Aaron didn’t sleep well either but I think he’s doing much better now. I showed him where everything is located in the car and we’ll go over it again before he retakes his test. I think he’s got it now. Aaron wants to take the test again on Friday afternoon. Since we were at the DMV for 2 hours last week, I can’t take Aaron and spend that much time away from work again. So, I think Aaron’s dad may take him to try to get his license. I know I should be happy about this but I’m not. I’ve been the one who has taught Aaron to drive 100%. His dad hasn’t taking Aaron driving one time. Not once. He hasn’t helped with anything at all. So, I’d like to be the person there when Aaron passes the test. I want to see the joy and excitement on his face. I know that sounds a little selfish. I should just be happy Aaron will get to try again…and I am.
Friday, July 6, 2012 5:50 PM
Why do I feel as if I failed my kids? I try and try to be a good mom yet I seem to struggle so much. Ben is a good hearted child but he is always so miserable…or is it just an act for attention? Aaron is a good son also who doesn’t get in any trouble. My main complain about Aaron is that he doesn’t pay attention. I have to repeat myself to him constantly. Well today was one of those times where I know I’ve told Aaron before yet he forgot or just didn’t pay attention. I took Aaron for his driver license but he didn’t pass. He couldn’t remember where the high beams where in the car. I felt terrible for him yet I know I’ve shown Aaron. I will say he hasn’t driven a lot at night and has never used the high beams before but I thought Aaron knew where they were. It would have taken me just a few seconds before the test to show him where they were but I didn’t think of it. Aaron is embarrassed now and doesn’t even want to talk about it. My poor son will have to live with this the rest of his life. I know once he passes the test he’ll feel much better. He has to wait 1 week before he can try again. So wish Aaron luck!
Friday, June 29, 2012 4:55 PM
Wow! It sure is hot. Jacob’s at the pool today thank goodness. He gets to go swimming on Monday, Wednesday and Friday each week at his summer program. If today wasn’t a pool day I would have kept Jacob home with Ben and Aaron. They would have protested about that but it’s just too hot to be outside unless you’re in water.
Aaron still hasn’t gone to take his driver’s license test. We’ve decided to go one day next week. I sure hope he passes because I really need him to start driving. Band practice starts in a week and a half. He’s also working at Wal-mart on the weekends now and I’m tired of taking him places. I’m just not sure I’m ready for him to have that kind of freedom. I shouldn’t worry about it so much because Aaron is a good kid or should I say young man.
Ben on the other hand is a handful. He is extremely stubborn and abrasive. What I mean is this…he doesn’t consider other people’s feelings. It’s all about what Ben wants and what he doesn’t want. How do I make him understand that he can’t have everything his way all of the time? He almost sounds spoiled but I assure you I don’t give him everything and I never have. On the other hand, Ben is a hard worker and determined to do a good job. Maybe I need to give him a little more credit. That’s sure something to think about…
Tuesday, June 26, 2012 3:02 PM
I REALLY need Aaron to get his driver’s license. I’ve had him driving me everywhere and he’s gotten much better but I’m still not sure he’s ready to be set free. How do you know when they’re ready? Do I just put my faith in the DMV? If Aaron passes, he passes and if not keep trying? Do you know what’s a really scary thought…trying to teach Ben to drive. I’m not ready for that at all. UGH! I’ve also been trying to teach Aaron to Parallel Park which is very difficult because I suck at it. We both watched a video on “you tube” which really helped us both but Aaron still needs a little more practice. I’ve include the link below so you can learn or teach someone to parallel park. Wish us luck!
Friday, June 22, 2012 5:23 PM
The weekend is finally here. It’s always tough at work the week after vacation but I made it…barely! Jacob has enjoyed his first week of summer camp mostly because of the swimming. Ben has been home part of the day yesterday and today by himself so he’s happy. Aaron went on a boat at the lake today with some friends so he’ll be tired for work tonight. I need to go grocery shopping again. Those kids are eating me out of house and home. When I buy a bag of Doritos, I better open them in the car before I get home and have a few or I won’t get any at all. I’m serious. Those boys of my sure like to eat but you can’t tell it by looking at them! I may need to get a second job just to feed them this summer…. TGIF!!!
Tuesday, June 19, 2012 5:07 PM
I hope all of the “dads” out there had a Happy Father’s Day! It takes a certain type of man to be a real dad and I know many of them. I also know some men who should be ashamed to call themselves “dad”. Since I’m raising 3 young men on my own, I have come to realize the importance a male role model is for young boys. I suppose I fulfill that requirement to a certain degree but I know “mom” is not the same as “dad” and vice versa. Boys tend to idolize their fathers even if that man doesn’t qualify as a role model. From what I see, in some boys this creates an internal conflict. They are torn between what they know to be right and what they see. Being a parent isn’t easy but neither is being a child. Who is the adult??? If you are one of those parents who are truly a role model for children, you should be proud of yourself.
Happy Father’s Day!
Thursday, June 14, 2012 9:19 PM
Vacation or staycation has been great! We haven’t done much other than be lazy. The kids did have a few doctors’ appointments and I had some car maintenance done. Aaron got glasses for the first time but he’ll only need them to drive. Aaron also got a job at Wal-Mart and went for orientation yesterday. I think I’m more excited about his new job then he is. Aaron won’t be working much just mostly on the weekends so he’ll still be able to be in band. Ben has been playing the X-box mostly with Jacob. They fight occasionally but it’s going better then I expected. Ben also read the 1st book of the Hungry Games in less than a week so I’m really happy that Ben did something other than play X-box. Jacob and Aaron went swimming in the pool but the water is still a little green. For some reason, I’m having a lot of trouble getting the pool clear this year. I think my filter needs new sand…UGH!
Friday, June 8, 2012 4:57 PM
I remember when I was a kid, in the summer I use to play outside. My friends and I would ride our bikes, play UNO, or find something else to do. We didn’t sit in the house all day watching TV or playing the Atari. Yeah, I said the Atari. I remember listening to the radio outside while we played cards or just talked. Today, my kids just want to sit around the house all day. They watch TV, play video games or get on the computer. Rarely do my kids say, “I went outside to play today”. So last night after dinner, I told the boys to go outside to play. I heard a lot of whining and complaining from them but I told them to go out for 30 minutes. They all actually went outside. Aaron shot some hoops while Ben and Jacob wrestled around. When 30 minutes were up, they were all right back in the house. My hope was once they were all out the door they would stay there for longer then 30 minutes. So I guess that was a mistake and next time I won’t give them a time limit.
Do you have the same problem during the summer with your kids?
Wednesday, June 6, 2012 5:03 PM
Teenagers…UGH! I can’t wait for summer vacation to be over already. I know I shouldn’t be so negative but the kids are already fighting. The boys are going through snacks and cereal like they’ve never seen food before. They want to stay up all night and play the x-box then sleep until noon. So, if the boys stay up late I have more difficulty sleeping. I can hear them talking or in the bathroom. I’m having trouble getting Jacob to bed at a decent hour because Aaron and Ben are staying up later. I need sleep….I’m a busy women and I’m getting old. I almost wish school was in session year round. I believe kids should have a break but is 12 weeks really necessary? I’m beginning to believe it’s not at all. What do you think?
Friday, June 1, 2012 10:14 AM
Today is the last day of school…finally. Ben just missed going to summer school by the skin of his teeth. If it wasn’t for the group project the teacher assign and the final he would be in summer school. It’s Ben’s own fault. Ben doesn’t apply himself as he should in school. In middle school, Ben was able to slack a little then play catch up with his work but high school is different and Ben had trouble catching up. The fact that he was in honors classes probably did help him either. My hope is that next year Ben will apply himself. He certainly won’t be taking anymore honors classes. What bothers me is that I know Ben is capable of doing the work, he just won’t. He is the most stubborn person I have met other than myselfJMaybe this summer school scare is what he need to get his self in gear with school. Only time will tell.
Tuesday, May 29, 2012 5:32 PM
So after 5 days on steroids, Aaron is still itchy but not as bad as he was. I sure hope this medicine stops the itching completely. I’m a little worried because I think after 5 days of steroids most of the itching should be gone and it isn’t. Aaron is still taking Benadryl also which makes him sleepy. I really have no idea what is causing this reaction in Aaron. I’ve bought him hypo-allergenic shower gel and changed the laundry detergent to a free and clear detergent. My sisters are allergic to soaps and detergents so I thought this was a good place to start…but no luck. What next? I’ll wait another week until Aaron’s finished with the steroids. If he’s still having issues I guess I’ll have to have him allergy tested. What else could it be? I’m at a loss. Any suggestions?
Shot in the rear
Friday, May 25, 2012 4:15 PM
Poor Aaron, he has had a rash or hives since March. It’s not a constant issue but it has gotten worse lately. He will beak out randomly on his hands, arms, neck, chest and also his head. Then suddenly, it will go away. I took him to the doctor last month and was told Aaron had hives and was an allergic reaction to something. The doctor told me to give Aaron Benadryl. The other night Aaron got in the car and immediately took his shoes and socks off and started scratching his feet. The poor kid was extremely miserable. So, I took him back to the doctor it hopes of getting Aaron put on a steroid to relieve the itching. The doctor agreed with me about the steroid but instead of pills she gave Aaron a steroid shot in the rear. I couldn’t help but chuckle because I’ve had one of those shots before and it burns. I felt as if my butt was on fire. Aaron was a little nervous about it but he did just fine. It only burns for 5 or so minutes but that feels like an eternity. Unfortunately, the shot didn’t solve the problem and Aaron is still itching all over. So, now Aaron’s on steroid pills for 12 days. I sure hope they work. The boy is so itchy he has been getting cold showers to try to sooth the itch. I don’t know what else to do for him…UGH!
Tuesday, May 22, 2012 4:56 PM
Jacob has trouble falling asleep sometimes at night. He’ll toss and turn and flop on the bed. A few months ago, I told him to count sheep to help him fall asleep. Jacob didn’t know what I meant so I explained it to him. I told Jacob to picture a fence with sheep jumping over it and to count the sheep as they jumped. Jacob thought I was being a little strange but I assured him it would work. So, he tried it but Jacob had trouble the first few times he tried to count sheep to help him sleep. He actually told me he couldn’t picture the sheep so he couldn’t count them. I told him to try again and make sure his eyes were closed. I don’t know If this idea ever worked for Jacob or not but I thought he should try it.
So, last night Jacob was having trouble going to sleep again. I told him once again to count sheep. Jacob said, “I’ll try”. Next thing I know I hear him talking but I can’t make out all of what he was saying. He repeated it for me. This is what Jacob was saying, “I have my meadow and a fence. Now I have hay bails and my sheep”. I thought this was too cute. I told Jacob he was all set to count his sheep. Then he added, “There are a few horses over there and a few wolves behind the trees”. “Wolves” I said. Jacob replied, “Yup”! I told him I didn’t think the wolves were a very good idea but I liked the rest of his scene. I don’t know if Jacob ever counted the sheep but he fell right asleep. What a great imagination that boy has. I hope Jacob uses it in the future.
Friday, May 18, 2012 4:37 PM
Jacob and I got to go on his class trip on Wednesday. Apparently, his teacher was trying to scare him into being good in class. Guess what…it worked. He was very good. We went to Prickett’s Fort for the day and what a beautiful day it was. All of the 2ndgrade classes went on the trip. Jacob was very interested in the presentations that were given that day. He even bought his camera. When the blacksmith began his presentation, Jacob got out his camera. I thought he was going to take a few pictures but no, Jacob video taped the entire presentation. I was amazed. I’m not sure if he was actually that interested in the presentation or if it was the camera that had Jacob’s attention. Regardless, Jacob listened and watched intently. At the next stop, the farmer, Jacob began video taping the presentation but his SD card was full so he had to stop. I think Jacob would have recorded everyone there if he could have. I guess I need invest in a video camera for him. Maybe he’ll have a career in video production one day.
Tuesday, May 15, 2012 5:08 PM
Jacob and I are going on his class trip tomorrow…I think anyway. Last week I signed up to chaperone the trip because Jacob wanted me to go. I thought it would be nice to spend the day with him. Jacob informed me on Sunday night he may not be allowed to go on the trip because he was bad for the substitute teacher last Wednesday but he was good for her on Friday. So, I asked him why he was bad. Of course, Jacob didn’t know why he was bad. I had a long talk with him and told Jacob how it was extremely important for him to not disrupt his class. Also, I really wanted to go on the trip with him so he needed to be very good in school the next few days so we could go. So, I expected him to be good yesterday in school but he wasn’t. I don’t know what to do with Jacob. I’ve tried rewards and punishment but nothing works. I guess we’re still going on the class trip tomorrow since I haven’t heard anything at all from the teacher. I suppose she was trying to scare Jacob into submission. I don’t think it worked…
Happy Mother's Day
Friday, May 11, 2012 3:55 PM
I really don’t remember a Mother’s Day in which I spent it with my mom. Sadly, I lost her very tragically at a young age. I remember Christmas and Easter and even a few birthdays but not Mother’s Day. As a child, I didn’t realize I would miss having a mother to share such a holiday with. I am certain that my boys don’t have any idea what it would be like and I hope they don’t have to know for a long time. Until recently I hadn’t given it much thought either. I’ve always blocked out the fact that I’ve grown up with out my mom. As my boys get older I’ve started realizing that very soon 1 or 2 of them may move out or go away to college. Things will never be the same once that happens. Life will once again change dramatically for me and this time for them. So I’ve decided to find a way to make our Mother’s Day special for all of us. I’m not sure how or what to do in order to make it special. Maybe I need to get some input from the kids.
How do you make your Mother’s Day special?
I really don’t remember a Mother’s Day in which I spent it with my mom. Sadly, I lost her very tragically at a young age. I remember Christmas and Easter and even a few birthdays but not Mother’s Day. As a child, I didn’t realize I would miss having a mother to share such a holiday with. I am certain that my boys don’t have any idea what it would be like and I hope they don’t have to know for a long time. Until recently I hadn’t given it much thought either. I’ve always blocked out the fact that I’ve grown up with out my mom. As my boys get older I’ve started realizing that very soon 1 or 2 of them may move out or go away to college. Things will never be the same once that happens. Life will once again change dramatically for me and this time for them. So I’ve decided to find a way to make our Mother’s Day special for all of us. I’m not sure how or what to do in order to make it special. Maybe I need to get some input from the kids.
How do you make your Mother’s Day special?
Wednesday, May 9, 2012 4:57 PM
Jacob had a wonderful time at his birthday party. I wish I knew where 8 year old boys got their energy. It’s as if it is all bottled up inside of them. This was even before we had cake and ice cream! I could really use some of that energy right now. They boys played outside for a while but when they started wrestled on the ground I had to organize a kickball game. Aaron was the pitcher and Ben was the referee. They all had a blast! Some of them were really good kickers and crushed the other team. I’m glad the party was for only 2 hours because that was plenty of time and I was completely wore out afterwards. I did a basketball theme for the party which Jacob loved. After kickball we had cake and ice cream but the kids barely sat still long enough to eat it. Then Jacob opened his presents. I was so proud of him; he actually read all of the birthday cards out loud to all of us. He got some really great gifts and a few I think I’d like to return from my girlfriend. Not really but Jacob will be beating up his brothers with a few of them. Oh well, I’m sure he owes them a few.
Happy Birthday Day!
Friday, May 4, 2012 3:32 PM
Yesterday was Jacob’s 8t birthday. I can’t believe how fast the time has gone and how my life has changed since then. Actually, all of our lives have changed so much since Jacob was born. There have been many adjustments and sacrifices but we’re doing fine. Tonight I’m having a birthday party for Jacob. I hope it doesn’t storm tonight because I’d like to play some games outside with the kids. Jacob is so excited for his friends to be coming over to our house. Aaron and Ben are naturally a little less excited about having a bunch of 8 year olds around the house tonight but I’m sure everything will be fine. I have cake and ice cream for the party. I’m also getting pizza for dinner even thought I don’t think here will be too much interest in dinner. I don’t have much time after work to get the pizza and get home so I’m hoping the traffic won’t be bad. I picked the birthday cake up on my lunch and it’s sitting right next to me. Do you think it would be noticeable if there was a small piece missing for the cake? I’m really tempted…
Happy Birthday Day Little Man!
Thursday, April 26, 2012 5:10 PM
Today is my Friday…yeah! The boys don’t have school tomorrow because the county is trying to make up for the lack of snow days. I really don’t know why the county didn’t let the kids out of school early at the end of the school year instead. That’s my preference anyway. So, tomorrow all of the boys have a doctor’s appointment for a physical exam. We may also go to lunch but that’s all of the fun we have planned for tomorrow. Aaron and Jacob haven’t had an exam for about 2 years. I feel just awful about it but it’s extremely difficult to fit everything in when you work. A lot of the time when the kids don’t have school the doctor’s office is closed. At least they are all going tomorrow. We’ll be there half the day…UGH!
Tuesday, April 24, 2012 4:16 PM
Aaron and Ben both worked last night from 6-10 PM keeping score at volleyball matches here in town. It was a little tough for me to get across town, pick them up at home, then get Jacob from school and finally get them to work but I did it. There isn’t enough time for me to get Jacob afterwards…I’m pressed for time as it is. Fortunately, there wasn’t much traffic at all yesterday. Also, I had to go pick them up at 10:00 PM which meant I had to take Jacob with me. So Jacob got to bed a little late last night and was a little of a bear this morning. I sure can’t wait until Aaron gets his drivers license so I don’t have to do so much running around. Being a single mom is tough sometimes and this is certainly one of those times. I think most parents share in the responsibility of their children especially if there is more than 1 child. It can get challenging to have 3 kids in 3 different places and be the only person who can get them or to have a younger child who should be in bed but he can’t be left alone. I didn’t realize how difficult it can be on single parents until I became one myself. Hang in there…kids are only young once!
Friday, April 20, 2012 11:13 AM
The weather here as been crazy. One day it’s 85 degrees the next 50 degrees. My allergies are just terrible. I don’t know how to dress myself let alone the kids. Aaron and Ben of course pick out their own cloths but occasionally I’ll tell them they should wear pants vs. shorts if it’s going to be cold. Jacob on the other hand, I pick out his cloths. Sometimes I don’t know how I should dress so how am I supposed to dress Jacob? This morning when Jacob and I got in the car it was a little chilly. He was wearing shorts and I’m wearing Capri’s. I told Jacob it was going to warm up to 81 degrees today. Jacob said to me, “Why do you have pants on then?” I told him I didn’t have pants on, they are Capri’s. Jacob then said, “Why aren’t you wearing shorts if it’s going to be hot today?” I told Jacob I had to go to work. Jacob said, “So, you should wear shorts.” I told Jacob I couldn’t wear shorts to work. Jacob seemed a little confused but I explained that we had rules at work and one of those rules is that we are not allowed to wear shorts. Jacob was satisfied with that answer for now anyway. It would be nice at times to wear shorts to work but I’m happy just to be wearing Capri’s today. Enjoy the sunshine...
Tuesday, April 17, 2012 4:39 PM
Ben has been pestering me to get his driving permit since he turned 15 in March. I’ve told Ben repeatedly he has to pull his grades up if he wants to drive. Ben says he’s trying and I think he is but it’s only been 2 or 3 weeks since he got his report card and 1 week of that was spring break. So, at the end of the school year I’ll decide if he can get his permit. I’m not sure if I can handle teaching Aaron and Ben both how to drive. Aaron almost gives me a heart attack when he drives as it is. He hasn’t gotten to drive much over the winter so lately Aaron has been my chauffer. The boy tried to drive through a bush last night. Aaron said he thought he could clear it. I really don’t know how Aaron thought that was going to be possible…the front end of the car was headed straight for the large bush. UGH! Aaron’s turns are terrible also because he goes to fast. This is turning out to be a very painful process for me. So, why would I be in a hurry for Ben to get his permit when I haven’t survived Aaron’s driving yet? I’m not!
Friday, April 13, 2012 4:36 PM
Aaron is doing very well after having his wisdom teeth removed. He went back to school on Tuesday but was a little weak. I bought him protein drinks to take with him for lunch but he forgot his lunch on Tuesday. I raced back to the house from the bus stop like a mad woman to get it. However, I didn’t make it back to the bus stop in time to give the lunch to Aaron. Fortunately, Aaron and Ben made the bus but with no lunch. I was in my PJ’s with a towel on my head….yeah…pretty picture. I ended up taking Aaron’s lunch to school for him. Poor boy has to be starving by now. I couldn’t let him go all day with nothing to eat. All he can eat is soft food still but I think he’s doing great. I can’t imagine having 4 teeth cut out at once. Most people don’t like going to the dentist and I can’t blame them at all. I believe that following the oral surgeon’s instructions for post-surgery was the best I could’ve done for Aaron. So…listen to your doctor!
Monday, April 9, 2012 4:56 PM
Aaron had all 4 of his wisdom teeth removed on Friday. I felt so bad for him. I scheduled the surgery 2 months ago. We were hoping to have it done before his Florida trip but we decided it would be best to wait until after the trip. So, spring break became the perfect time for Aaron’s surgery. The day before the surgery it was determined that the doctor wasn’t in network. What that basically means is instead of paying $25.00 co-pay per visit plus 10% of the bill, I have to meet my deductible of $500.00 and then pay 30% of the bill. What! The insurance company told me this particular doctor was in network now the doctor isn’t…really? Apparently, no oral surgeon in town is in network. So, I decided to foot the bill and proceed with the surgery. What other choice did I have? I hope they’ll take payments. Any way, Aaron is doing great after the surgery. He’s eating mashed potatoes and macaroni & cheese mostly. I bought him some protein drinks for his lunch at school this week. He can also have applesauce, pudding and yogurt. Aaron didn’t even swell much at all. He’s been sleeping in the recliner in the living room because he feels better being propped up. I’m very please with the oral surgeon and Aaron progress.
Tuesday, April 3, 2012 4:25 PM
The kids are on spring break this week. They’re just lounging around the house in the PJ’s, watching TV or playing the X-box. Yesterday, I warned all of them that when I got home from work we would be doing yard work but not until after I told them we were having pizza for dinner (a favorite for them). I did have to crack the whip a little after we ate dinner. The back yard needed mowed so bad I thought they would need the weed whacker to get through the forest back there but Ben insisted the lawn mower would work. It did work but I think the grass needs cut a 2ndtime but that wouldn’t happen. We all worked hard…even Jacob. I had him spraying the weeds. We’ll see what else he killed in the process. Hopefully, he sprayed the weed killer good on the pompous grass. I hate that stuff! There is still more work to do in the yard but I feel much better now. I (I guess I should say “we”) dread all of the yard work we have in the summer. Ben and I also had a burn pile that we took care of last night. I honestly think he enjoyed that. I suppose that’s all the fun we have planned for the week…
Friday, March 30, 2012 3:54 PM
ISS…do you know what that means? I do now and I’m not happy about it. ISS is internal school suspension. I’ll give you 1 guess who has ISS. It’s not for what I’d call a serious offense…fortunately. Yes, Ben is the guilty party here. Ben has been late to gym class 10 times this year so now he has ISS. Ben and I have discussed this issue in the past. He doesn’t have enough time in between classes to get his gym cloths so he’s frequently late for class. I’ve told him to get his cloths sooner so he wouldn’t be late. Of course he didn’t listen to me. Now that Ben has ISS he has been getting his cloths earlier in the day. If Ben is late 2 more times he will have afterschool suspension which better not happen. I am a little upset with the school because Ben’s 10thlateness was on March 8th. I just received the letter in the mail yesterday which was 1 day shy of 4 weeks after the lateness. Ben’s ISS day isn’t until April 11th. I think that is way to long to wait. I fell I should have been notified much sooner about this situation. What takes so long for the school to send out a short letter? I decided to write a short note on the paper letting the assistant principal know I was unhappy. My note won’t do anything but at least I let him know how I felt. So for part of Ben’s punishment, I had him clean the underneath of the push mower yesterday. I’ve decided that work and lots of it will be his punishment from now on.
Tuesday, March 27, 2012 4:57 PM
Aaron had a great time in Orlando. Universal Studios was his favorite part or more specifically The Harry Potter section. The trip took them about 20 hours on a charter bus which included a few stops along the way. I’m so glad Aaron had a great time. Ben finally admitted to me over the weekend that he was a little upset that Aaron got to go to Florida. I knew Ben was a little jealous but then again so was I. Aaron had a great opportunity and Ben would have had it also if he had quit band a few years ago. Over all though, I think Ben handled the jealousy ok. Jacob didn’t say too much about the trip other then he wished he could go too.
Tonight I’m taking the boys to see the Globetrotters. To my surprise, even Ben wanted to go watch the show. We have seen them perform before so Ben knows it will be a good show. Jacob told me to bring $20.00 so I could buy him something. Little does he know…$20.00 won’t buy very much there. I hope we don’t get home too late, I’m already tired and it’s only Tuesday. I guess it’ll be a long week.
Friday, March 23, 2012 12:14 PM
Aaron made it to Florida…what a relief. Now if he can just manage to survive the weekend. Aaron told me he had too much to remember so I would need to text him while he was away so he wouldn’t forget. I traveled at his age and didn’t have a cell phone and I managed just fine. I think Aaron has become to dependant on me. This trip will be good for him. The band has a busy trip planned with not much sleep allotted for the kids. I’m sure it’ll be fine…they’re young.
Ben is watching Jacob for me today since there’s no school. I’m a little concerned since they fight so much. Jacob woke up just as I was trying to leave for work this morning so I had to wake Ben up. I’m sure he wasn’t too happy. I’m planning to take them to the movies this weekend since it’s going to rain. I also need to take Ben shopping for summer cloths which will be a nightmare. We have some yard work to do but I really want to try to have some fun with Ben and Jacob this week end but it doesn’t look as if the weather is going to cooperate so the movies will have to do. I need to find a movie that is suitable for the both of them. Any suggestions?
Tuesday, March 20, 2012 5:20 PM
I did it! I shopped and shopped for Aaron’s Florida trip. I bought cloths, toiletries and snacks. Everything fit him except 1 pair of shorts. I spent way too much money also. It’s truly amazing how much vacation supplies cost for 1 person. Of course, I did buy the travel size toiletries. I think it would have cost me about the same amount of money if I had bought the regular size items. Isn’t that ridiculous??? He’s all packed and ready to go. He is so excited and I’m excited for him. Aaron has never been away like this before. I remember when I was in high school and going to Florida. WOW! What a long time ago but we had a great time. I can’t believe Aaron will be 17 years old in a few weeks. Where does the time go? One minute I’m rocking my baby in the chair and the next I’m packing to send him to Florida. Enjoy every minute with your children because they will be grown before you know it.
Friday, March 16, 2012 4:16 PM
I have a billion things to do to get Aaron ready for his Florida trip next week. I went over the itinerary with Aaron but I will need to do that again with him before he leaves for Florida. Aaron admitted to me that he was only partially listening…UGH! I started making a list of items I will need to buy at the store this weekend just for Florida and the list is larger than I thought it would be so now I’m panicking. The boys are with their dad this weekend which is good and bad. The good part is I won’t have to cook or take care of the boys so I will have time to shop. The bad part is Aaron needs black pants so I’ll be shopping without him and he is hard to buy for. Aaron is tall and thin so wish me luck. I’m also trying to figure out much money Aaron will need for the trip. I know the food is expensive in the parks and of course he’ll want a few souvenirs. There are lots for me to do this weekend. Jacob also has 2 basketball games I need to fit into my schedule besides cleaning and regular grocery shopping. I guess a mom’s job is never done…
Tuesday, March 13, 2012 4:59 PM
I wish I had video taped Jacob playing basketball this past weekend. Sunday he was absolutely remarkable at defensive. Jacob forced the walk, double dribble and stole the ball almost every time the other team headed down the court. Jacob is learning to read the players and what their next move is going to be. He has even starting shooting the ball and this is a big accomplishment for Jacob because until now, he would rather have just passed the ball to one of his teammates. Jacob made 4 points in the game in Saturday and took several shots with the ball. Add in the great defense and I’m thinking scholarship! Way to go Jacob!
Saturday, March 10, 2012 8:36 AM
I need to find a new approach when it comes to Ben and his attitude. I think part of the attitude is simply just because he’s a teenager. Another other part is due to my divorce from his dad. Let’s not forget he’s a middle child. Ben craves attention regardless if it’s negative. I need to find a way to flip this into positive attention. I’m just not sure how to do this. Maybe I need to back off a little because coming down on him hasn’t helped or has helped very little. Ben thinks I compare him to Aaron and I suppose in some ways I do. After all they are brothers. Ben doesn’t understand that I love him for who he is and what he is capable of and because he’s my son. He is a rebellious child and very strong willed. Ben wants to be independent. I’ve tried to tell Ben one day he will be able to do as he wishes but for now I’m in charge. I have more experience and knowledge than he does. Why are kids so stubborn? What can I do to get through to Ben?
Wednesday, March 7, 2012 4:39 PM
Friday, March 2, 2012 5:56 PM
I can see it now. The headline reads, “Mother arrested for chasing school bus”. Single mother of three boys gets arrested for reckless driving while chasing down the school bus this morning. Woman narrowly misses running over her 15 year old son in the process. Apparently, the family over slept and missed the bus so mom decided to catch the bus at the next stop. After cutting off a few cars and honking her horn, the crazed woman nearly runs over her son all in an effort to get the kids to school.
Wow! What a crazy morning. If you can’t figure it out. We missed the bus by 30 seconds this morning and I had to chase it down so Ben and Aaron could get to school. I forgot to mention I was still in my PJ’s with my hair pulled up. Thank goodness it was still dark at 6:30 this morning. I must have looked like a mad woman in the car. I wasn’t unsuccessful stopping the bus at the first stop but had victory at the next one. Poor Ben must think I’m nuts especially since he had to hop into the car as I started to pull away. I didn’t notice he had gotten out of the car so when the bus pulled away, so did I. Luckily, he wasn’t harmed. I then followed the bus to the next stop and Aaron and Ben were able to get on it there. The high school is 25 minutes from my house. They would’ve been really late for school if I had not caught up with the bus. However, next time I will be more cautious and less crazy….
Friday, February 24, 2012 4:33 PM
I will have my hands full this weekend. There will be five boys and one mom in the house. Do you think I may be in trouble? Ben’s birthday is next week so I told him he could invite 2 friends to spend the night on Saturday for a small party. What was I thinking? I guess I wasn’t…lol! I’m sure it won’t be too crazy in the house. Ben and his friend’s will probably play the X-box most of the time and stay up all night. I bought some snacks and a cookie cake for us also. There probably won’t be any food left by Sunday morning with five boys. I’m just not sure what I’m going to do with Jacob. Maybe I’ll rent him a movie from the Redbox. Jacob wants to see Dolphin Tales so maybe I’ll rent that to keep him busy. I could also try to talk Aaron into helping me with Jacob. They are little buddies after all. I think it will be a fun weekend for everyone!
Tuesday, February 21, 2012 5:05 PM
Aaron has been working on his class schedule for a week or so. He has been debating what classes to take and if he should have a study hall which I recommended. Aaron has discussed his schedule with me at length and actually wants my opinion. I guess I shouldn’t be surprised but I am a little. He finally finished his schedule today. What a relief! Apparently, Ben should have been working on his class schedule for next year also. He never said a word to me and the schedule is due tomorrow. Ben left the papers in his locker at school. Really? Didn’t he think it was important to bring them home? I thought Ben’s schedule was due after Aaron’s since Ben will only be a sophomore but I was wrong. I think the real issue with Ben is that he wants to be in control of his life. Ben believes he should be old enough to make all of his own decisions. Yea…right! Ben doesn’t realize that a sign of maturity is to listen and take advice from other people. Plus the fact that I need to sign his school schedule as his “parent” for approval. Kids! At least he and Jacob have been getting along better lately. Ben seems a little more willing to help Jacob but he still doesn’t have a lot of patients with Jacob but Ben is trying. UGH!
Friday, February 17, 2012 4:02 PM
I am kid free this weekend but I’ll be spending most of the weekend cleaning the house. It looks as if a bomb were set off in it. I had a bad cold this past week so absolutely nothing has gotten done in the house. Well, I did make dinner and do some laundry but that’s it. When I asked Aaron and Ben to do a few chores around the house you’d think I was asking them to clean the entire house. They get home from school about 3:30 everyday and I don’t think it’s asking too much for them to do a few chores for me. I mean it takes them no more than 15 minutes and some days I don’t ask them to do anything. Maybe I need to make a list of chores I expect them to do regularly without needing to tell them to do them. They’re old enough to be responsible for chores without being told….right? I do a lot for them so I feel the boys or young men need to pitch in and help. Am I expecting too much?
Tuesday, February 14, 2012 12:22 PM
Aaron came home from school yesterday with all of his information regarding his senior class schedule. WOW! A senior! I can’t believe my baby is going to be a senior next year then college. It seems like yesterday he was just this little boy in my arms. Where did the time go? I’m very excited for Aaron yet I’m sad because you can never get those days back. So cherish all of the little moments while you still can. I know that’s hard to do with work, school, homework and sports but we need to try to find the time to stop and smell the roses. I wish I’d taken more pictures of all of the boys. I’m sure I have lots of pictures but they are probably still on my SD card. I’m really bad about printing out pictures of the kids. I think I’m going to take a day when the boys are with their dad and just print, print, print! That will definitely be an all day project but worth it.
Friday, February 10, 2012 4:58 PM
Jacob sure was bear when he woke up this morning. He would talk to me or tell me what he wanted for breakfast. Finally, after several minutes he woke up and became more pleasant. I was actually waiting for the tears to start but that didn’t happen. By the time I dropped Jacob off at school, he was in a good mood. I was beginning to feel sorry for his teacher since she would have to tolerate Jacob all day but I think he snapped out of it.
Aaron has a cold and sounds terrible. At least it’s Friday so he can rest this weekend. I sure hope no one else in the house gets sick. It’ll probably be me, I’ll be the one sick next week. Aaron is probably more prone to colds dues to his allergies. I finally scheduled Aaron’s surgery to have his wisdom teeth removed on April 6thwhich is during spring break. I hope he’s not sick at that time. I’d hate to have to reschedule the surgery.
Wednesday, February 8, 2012 4:53 PM
Life is short or at least it can be. My kids are the most precious part of my life. I know I complain about taking them here or there but at the end of the day I wouldn’t trade them for anything. They make my life complete in so many ways. In the last few months, I have seen several unexpected deaths which have made me examine my own life. I hope to be around a lot longer for my children and someday in the distant future my grandkids. What worries me the most is that I really don’t care of myself. I don’t exercise regularly but I do watch what I eat to an extent anyway. I’m getting older and I have a good deal of stress in my life. I need a plan but it’s difficult to find the time required for regular exercise. I suppose 30 minutes 3 or 4 times a week would be a good start. Maybe I can get Jacob involved in an exercise plan with me. Also once spring arrives, I’ll be able to get outside to get some exercise. I love being outside in the spring and Jacob will love it also.
Tuesday, January 31, 2012 5:15 PM
We were watching the Mountaineer basketball game last night and Jacob was so adorable. I was bouncing back and forth between the kitchen and living room because I was busy getting our lunches made and doing dishes. So I missed an important play by one of the Pitt players. Jacob told me the player missed the hoop completely. I said, “Air ball”. Jacob insisted on giving me a live replay of the missed shot. He has one of those small hoops on his bedroom door and Jacob was too eager to give me a replay of the shot…3 replays actually. I wish I had recorded his play by play action. It was so cute to have a live replay by a 7 year old. He made me smileJJacob didn’t make it to half-time watching the game but at least he had an interest.
Friday, January 27, 2012 3:16 PM
Aaron informed me last night that he and a few of his friend are getting a band together. You know what that means don’t you? Since Aaron plays the drum, they will be practicing at my house. They want to practice on Sunday afternoon for a few hours. I told him it was fine. Actually, I told Aaron they could practice whenever they wanted. Maybe I should by some ear plugs before Sunday. I also told Aaron in the spring they can practice in the garage. My neighbors are going to love me. I’ll just make sure they don’t practice late in the evening. I’m sure it’ll be fine.
Yesterday I met with a few of Ben’s teachers. Unfortunately, I didn’t have time to meet with all of them so I picked the classes I felt Ben is struggling in due to goofing off with his friends. His grades are ok but they should be much better. So there were 4 teachers I met yesterday. They all indicated the same thing to me. Ben likes to be social and wander out of his seat to talk to his friends ever chance he gets. Ben wants the attention but is not a bad kid and he doesn’t work up to his potential. I wasn’t surprised by the teacher’s comments. I had a talk with Ben when I got home. He admitted easily that his teachers are right and he will try harder. High school is completely different then middle school. Hopefully, Ben will take school a little more seriously in the future.
Friday, January 20, 2012 3:41 PM
My morning started off with the phone ringing to let me know school was canceled for the day due to the snow. As I struggled to find my phone, I glanced at the alarm clock which said 5:00 AM. I still had over an hour to sleep this morning but thought about getting up to let Aaron know school was closed. Well, Apparently I dosed back off because the next time I woke up it was because of Aaron. He opened my bed room door and said, “Mom get up”. I was startled but managed to open my eyes to see him dressed and almost ready for school. Oh no, I thought. “Ahhh, there’s no school today” I said to Aaron. “Go back to bed”, I told him. He looked a little surprised but turned and went back to bed this morning. I had to get up so I could get ready for work. I had already hit the snooze button a few times which is why Aaron didn’t know school was canceled. I felt bad Aaron had gotten up for school and partially ready but at least he got to go back to sleep…right?
I found out the hard way that the 4-wheel drive in my car isn’t working. I couldn’t get up the small hill near my house this morning. I had the same issue a few weeks ago but it was extremely icy that morning so I thought that was the problem. My wonderful neighbor backed my car down the hill. He then tried 3-4 times to get the car up the hill. Finally, he got it up far enough for me to help by pushing the car up the hill. We got it! I made it to work but I don’t know what I’m going to do now. I really need a new car but I can’t afford one but I’m not sure it’s worth it to get this one fixed because there are other issues with it. Maybe I just need to buy horse!
Black nail polish
Tuesday, January 17, 2012 5:10 PM
When I picked Jacob up from his after school program the other day, I was surprised to find him wearing black nail polish. He thought it was cool so he let the girls polish his fingernails. Apparently, he and a few other boys let the girls polish their nails. I didn’t get angry with Jacob but I told him I didn’t think little boys should wear nail polish. He just smiled a crooked at me. I also let Jacob know there better not be a next time with the nail polish or I will be very angry. He wanted to keep the polish on overnight which I allowed Jacob to do. I took it off the next morning. When I told my sister about the nail polish issue, I told her I wasn’t too concerned since the polish wasn’t pink. If it had been pink or purple that would’ve been a completely different story. I hope this isn’t a sign of what’s to come.
Not a snow day
Friday, January 13, 2012 3:52 PM
The boys were extremely disappointed today that they didn’t get a snow day. Aaron and Ben stayed up late last night assuming they would get to sleep in this morning. I bet they were tired at school today but at least they had a 2 hour early dismissal. Jacob was the worst this morning. He was so upset that he had school. Jacob stays at the after school program every day since I’m working. Because of the 2 hour early dismissal today, Jacob will be at the afternoon program for 4 hours which upset him. I would think that would be better than sitting at desk in a class room all day. Jacob actually had tears rolling down his cheeks this morning. He wants me to pick him up early. Jacob sure knows how to pull at my heart strings. I told him I would try my best to get him a few minutes early. I really don’t want him to be the last child at the school because he’ll be so upset with me if that happens. Hopefully, the after school staff will have some fun activities planed for the kids so the day will go by quickly. Hey…at least it Friday!
Tuesday, January 10, 2012 4:58 PM
Aaron and Ben got their report cards yesterday. Ben hasn’t been applying himself at all. He should be an “A-B” student not a “B-C” student. He rarely has homework yet when I check edline (school site for grades) Ben has missing assignments. He doesn’t study or doesn’t study enough for his tests. Ben is an extremely smart kid and I don’t know why he doesn’t seem to care about his grades. This attitude of Ben’s got bad in 8thgrade mostly in his algebra class. This year in 9thgrade he has a bad attitude about several classes. I noticed there are parent-teacher conferences in a few weeks. I guess I need to go and take Ben with me to try to get to the bottom of this. I’d like to hear his teacher’s perspective on the matter.
Aaron on the other had has done a great job. He struggled in his Algebra II class the 1stterm and got a “D”. The second term Aaron stayed after school for tutoring which helped him tremendously. He got an “A” in the second term. All of his other grades were “A’s or B’s”. He has been working really hard to keep his grades up so he can get a scholarship for college. I think he’ll be just fine.
Friday, January 6, 2012 4:30 PM
My new year hasn’t gotten much better since the dryer issue. On Tuesday morning, the roads were icy and snowy. The boys still had school with no delay. We all got up on time and I didn’t even need to yell at Ben to get out the door. Everything was going great until I got stuck on the ice and Aaron and Ben missed the school bus. The boys pushed my car up the small hill on the ice. Once I made it to the top of the hill I parked at my neighbor’s house. We all walked home. Did I mention it was 6:30 AM and I was in my PJ’s? So there was no school for Ben and Aaron on the first day back after Christmas break. I considered driving them to school late but it’s a 25 minute drive from my house and since I couldn’t even make it to the end of my road, I decided it wasn’t a good idea to drive them to school. Nick and I did make it to school and work that morning but at least it was daylight by then and I wasn’t in my PJ’s anymore. What a day! I sure hope this year gets better!
Not a good start
Tuesday, January 3, 2012 5:02 PM
I guess it’s too much to ask for to start the New Year out on the right foot. I started having trouble with my clothes dryer on New Year’s Day. It just shut off on me in the middle of the cycle. It did start again and then shut off again. The dryer is over 13 years old so I shouldn’t be upset. I decided to clean the vent and the wires in the back of the dryer to see it that made a difference. I’m happy to report the dryer is still working for now at least. What a relief! Although, I feel like I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop because I know it’s only a matter of time before the dryer dies. Then, the washer will follow because that how it happens. So I’m trying to baby the pair in hopes that the washer and dry will last a while longer. I should’ve babied them from the beginning.
Wednesday, December 28, 2011 12:07 PM
Well, it’s over for another year and I survived Christmas Eve without the boys. I had lunch with an old friend and co-worker on Saturday. I really enjoyed catching up on life with her. She is older and doesn’t have much family so I’m extremely glad I asked her to lunch. Then I went home baked lots of cookies and watched Christmas movies until really late. I had finished all of my Christmas preparations by noon that day so I could relax that night.
The boys came home at 2:00 o’clock on Christmas Day. I watched a movie to help pass the time that morning. Of course, I waited for them to open any presents. They insisted I open a present before they did which made me feel loved and appreciated. The boys had already opened presents at their grandparent’s house on Christmas Eve and at their dad’s house Christmas morning. Maybe just maybe…they are growing up after all. So, I opened 1 gift and then had them open theirs. We all had a great Christmas with a few surprises and laughs. I am glad the holiday is over for another year. It’s so much work…
Friday, December 23, 2011 10:40 AM
Sometimes being divorced is difficult and other times it’s great! Christmas is one of those difficult times for me. The boys are already with their dad and won’t be home until Christmas day at 2:00 PM. I realize they are still excited to be spending Christmas with their dad regardless if I’m there or not. I try not to let the boys know how sad it makes me for them to not be with me on Christmas morning. I want them to enjoy the morning even if I can’t be there with them to celebrate. My x-husband and I don’t get along well enough to celebrate Christmas together. The kids and I will have our own opportunity to celebrate Christmas when they get home. However, I wish the situation was different but we all live with the choices we make. I did make the right one.
Tuesday, December 20, 2011 12:07 PM
They say, “Mommy knows best”. Why is it that you can’t convenience a teenager of that? Teenagers are stubborn and rebellious. In my case, I’ve always tried to be understanding and fair yet I have rules in my house. I’m afraid that the boy’s dad doesn’t maintain rule in his house. Also, being a woman trying to raise 3 men is a very difficult situation. My boys aren’t bad by any means but I do feel out numbered at times. Aaron doesn’t usually give me much trouble but last weekend he felt the need to express himself. I realize he’s getting older and wants more freedom but I am still in charge. Right? I get to make the decisions! I don’t like him riding all over town in his friend’s car especially at night and when it’s flurrying. Aaron didn’t see an issue with that situation. We got into a small argument over this issue. Am I over reacting or being over protective? How do you let your children go and grow up? I explained to Aaron that I got to make the decisions and I would to be the one to live with the decisions if something happened. I did let him go with his friend reluctantly. I hope Aaron understood my dilemma
Friday, December 16, 2011 4:51 PM
Last night Jacob and I were sitting at the kitchen table doing his homework. I looked through his backpack to see what else was inside of it. Jacob had 2 library books both of them were about polar bears. I held them up to Jacob and asked him which one he wanted to ready first? Jacob looked at both of the books then pointed to one and said, “That one, K**T.” (Use your imagination) I was shocked and said, “What did you say?” as I looked at he books. Jacob repeated what he thought was the title of the book. I said, “Oh Jacob that’s not what it says and that’s really not a nice word. Please don’t say that anymore” The book is Called “Knut”. Poor Jacob, he said, “I didn’t know that was a bad word.” I know Jacob had no idea he was saying something bad but it was kind of funny after the sock wore off. He’s learning to read fairly well or so I thought. Apparently, we need to practice reading more.
Tuesday, December 6, 2011 5:29 PM
Ben has been happier lately than he has been in such a long time. I think it’s a combination of events that have occurred over the last few months. His grades we slipping and he decided not to wrestle this year. I became very concerned about him and discussed counseling with him. Ben has probably always blamed me for the divorce since I’m the one who proceeded with it. I also think his father helped assist with the resentment which didn’t help Ben. Over the last few months Ben has seen some of the characteristics in his dad that I dislike. Over the last few years, I have tried to maintain discipline in the house which is really tough with 3 boys. Ben had been a little withdrawn recently. He would bounce between the X-box downstairs and his laptop to watch Netflix. So, I got rid of Netflix. Ben hasn’t been playing the X-box much lately because he doesn’t have the latest game to play with his friends. All I hear from Ben is how bored he is and he has nothing to do. Well, I told him to clean his room or I can find other work around the house for him to do. Ben usually finds something else to do. In the last few weeks, Ben has been spending more time in the living room and less time being isolated. I also took him shopping with me on Black Friday and he helped with the purchase of our new TV. His attitude has improved greatly. Ben will stop me in the kitchen or living room and give me a hug. I hope this lasts for more then a few weeks. I made a deal with Ben. If he can get all A’s and B’s on his report card, I will get Netflix back. I know he can do it, Ben is very smart.
Friday, December 2, 2011 4:27 PM
I am still exhausted from our trip to see our family over Thanksgiving. I’ve been running Jacob for basketball and Aaron for band and to see his girlfriend all week. Tomorrow all I want to do is sleep in and watch TV. That will never happen but I can dream can’t I? Ben wants his friend to spend the night but I said, “No”. My house is very dirty, I have little food in the cabinets and Aaron is in the Christmas parade tonight. How am I supposed to whip the house into shape so I can decorate for Christmas? There’s only 23 days until Christmas day. I really don’t know how I can manage it this year. I need a helper around the house just part-time but I can’t afford it. Maybe I should play the lottery…I guess I’m just dreaming. Maybe I can bribe the kids to do some extra work around the house this weekend. Yeah that’s what I’ll do then I’ll have 3 helpers. Great idea!
Black Friday Shopping
Tuesday, November 29, 2011 4:57 PM
Ben and I did it. We went black Friday shopping at Wal-mart. The two of us arrived at the store about 9:15 PM and it was already packed with people. I didn’t waste any time at all. I found an associate and asked him where I could find the 40” TVs that were in the ad. We were just 3 aisles away from the “line” for the TVs. Ben and I hurried over to the line just in time for the head count. We were #35 of 40 people who would be getting the 40” TV. Yeah! I was a little worried that we wouldn’t get what we wanted because people were camping out at Best Buy for TVs and other electronics on Thanksgiving Day. So, Ben and I decided to go to Wal-mart for our TV but with little hope of actually getting it. Ben and I waited and waited and waited. At 10:00, the associated passed out our tickets for the TV but we still had to stay in line. UGH! Since Ben was there, I left him in line and I went around the store to grab…literally grab a few other items I wanted. I returned to the line and let Ben go check out some things he wanted. Finally at 11:30, the associate let us leave the line but we couldn’t pay for the TV until 12:00 AM. Once I paid for the TV, I had to drive around to the back of Wal-mart to pick it up. It was totally worth it for the savings. Ben really enjoyed shopping with me and I was happy because we were home by 1:10 AM.
Tuesday, November 22, 2011 4:51 PM
Ben wants to go shopping with me on Black Friday. He’s really curious to see what really happens in the stores. Ben wants to see if people push and shove each other or if a fight breaks out in line. He has been searching the internet for the good sales and has been really excited all week about shopping. I think this will be a good opportunity for the two of us to bond a little. He has been bored out of his mind since I’ve canceled Netflix. However, Ben has been hanging out more in the living room and he is more sociable. So if I take Ben shopping with me on Black Friday is what it takes to bond with him then I’ll do it. I’ve let him know he has to be in this shopping trip for the long haul. In other words, shop til you drop! We’re trying to get a flat screen TV for the living room. We’ll need to be in line by 8:00 or 9:00 PM in order to get one but we can take turns going to the car to get warm or rest if necessary. I’m excited…I love to shop on Black Friday.
Friday, November 18, 2011 4:48 PM
I use to hate texting because I think is so impersonal. Many teenagers today lack communication skills because of all the modern technology. They are either on the computer, the X-box or texting on their phone. My boys are perfect examples of this. I will call their cell phone and get no answer. If I text them, they reply and right away. It gets so frustrating for me sometimes. Our family room and Aaron’s bedroom is downstairs in basically the basement. I use to go down when I needed them for something but as I’ve gotten older and busier being a single parent, I started just yelling down to them. Well, that got old quick. They wouldn’t be able to hear me because the X-box was so loud or they were wearing head phones. I found myself constantly trying to get their attention for dinner or when it would be time to leave the house for some reason. So, I’ve started texting Aaron and Ben if I need them. If they’re in their bedroom, downstairs or outside, I send them a text which usually gets me a quick response. Recently, Ben has been complaining about the way I text. Apparently, he hates when I do ….. in a sentence. It doesn’t bother Ben at all that I want him to do something like change the garage. Last night I sent Ben a text which started like this, “Hi….” he sent me a text back telling me he hates when I do that. I said, “Do what?” This was his response, “Son….hi….stop” So I text “LOL…” Then Aaron started texting Ben with ….just to annoy him. I didn’t do it on purpose at first….oh well. I guess I’ll try to not use…so much. What do you think?
Tuesday, November 15, 2011 5:09 PM
Aaron got it trouble at school a few weeks ago. Well actually, it was during a football game while the band was on the field. He and the other members of the drum line decided it would be funny to yell out the other school “sucks” during the halftime show. A parent from the other school called to complain to the band director who hadn’t heard the remark at the game. He quickly pulled the tape of the game and found the complaint to be valid. The band director was furious! There are 13 students in the drum line who in my opinion are being punished to severely. The principal and the band director agreed on the students’ punishment.
Apologize to the other school in a letter to the principal
Apologize to their own school
Receive an unsatisfactory conduct grade on their report card in band class
The students need to work 4 hours helping collect seats, or working the food drive (a good cause)
I just feel this is extreme punishment. These kids never get in trouble and are good kids who were just having fun. I do realize the school is trying to use these band students as an example but this is excessive. However, Aaron does not have a choice but to abide by this punishment or quit band. So, I guess he’ll be working the food drive.
44 days until Christmas!
Friday, November 11, 2011 4:24 PM
Guess what? Its 44 days until Christmas day. My sister has been counting down to Christmas since September. I’ve been telling her that it is a dirty word and I don’t want to here anything about Christmas. I’m a single mom with 3 boys and Christmas is somewhat of a burden for me. Every year I manage to pull it off but with lots stress. I always shop for sales, clearance and with store coupons and I get some really great deals on Christmas presents. I even shop on black Friday. I know its crazy but I actually enjoy it. Even with that the savings, I still spend too much money on Christmas. Finally, a few weeks ago I broke down and started Christmas shopping. I’ve ordered a few items online and went to the mall. I need to go to Game Stop soon to get Aaron and Ben a game for the x-box. At this point, I’m not too stressed about Christmas. It will be Christmas before I know it but I think having ideas for gifts helps decrease the stress of the holidays. I’d really like to be done shopping about a week prior to Christmas so I better get busy!
Friday, November 4, 2011 5:07 PM
After going without a dishwasher for more then 4 months, I finally have a new one! Yeah! I (not the kids) have been washing all of the dishes by hand. I was afraid they wouldn’t get them clean. Also, I didn’t feel like telling the kids 10 times to do the dishes. I don’t like having the sink full of dishes and I’m a little particular. So, I decided it would be better for me and the kids if I just washed the dishes myself. Over the last few months we have used lots of paper plates and I’ve cooked on the grill a good bit over the summer which reduced the dish load. Ben was the first person to unload the dishes from the new dishwasher. He told me the new dishwasher works great and the dishes were really clean. I was surprised Ben even paid any attention to the cleanliness of the dishes especially since he is a 14 year boy. However, Ben washes his hands all the time. He will not eat or drink after anyone. So I guess I shouldn’t be surprised at all.
Trick or treating
Tuesday, November 1, 2011 5:17 PM
Jacob has been telling me he might want to go trick or treating with his dad for Halloween this year for about a week. Jacob also told me he didn’t want me to be upset if he went with dad because he went trick or treating with me last year. Of course, I told Jacob I wouldn’t be upset at all. According to the divorce, Jacob’s dad gets the boys this year for Halloween. I don’t have a choice but Aaron and Ben don’t go trick or treating any more. However, the boys’ dad has never taken them trick or treating…not once...Aaron is 16. So, I wasn’t surprised when I didn’t hear from his dad about trick or treating. Jacob did mention trick or treating to his dad over the weekend and was told he would see about taking him. So after school yesterday, Jacob kept insisting that dad was taking him. I told Jacob when we got home he could call his dad to ask him. Jacob left him a message. His dad did call back but he had never listened to the message…he had to work and couldn’t take Jacob out trick or treating. When I told Jacob, he started to cry. He wanted to go trick or treating in his dad’s neighborhood because there were more houses then in mine. Wow…Jacob just wanted to go trick or treating at his dad’s for more candy! I did settle him down after a few minutes. Jacob asked me if I’d take him trick or treating …of course I did…in the rain…cause that’s what moms do.
Friday, October 28, 2011 5:29 PM
I took Jacob trick or treating at the mall last night. What a mistake and a mess. I think the whole town was there. Jacob had fun even though he didn’t get much candy. I guess that was one of the reasons for going and the other being the candy. We were in line for ½ an hour and didn’t even get ¼ of the way through the mall. Finally, I told Jacob we were leaving. He didn’t complain at all which surprised me a little. I told Jacob I would go buy him candy. Is that terrible or what? I don’t think we’ll be doing this next year. Jacob dressed up as Ironman and he looked so cute. He wanted to be a Transformer again this year but since his costume from last year didn’t fit him, I talked Jacob into something else. Ironman won!
Missing the bus
Friday, October 21, 2011 5:02 PM
After working all day yesterday, I picked up Jacob and went home. Aaron was already home but Ben had practice after school. I told him to ride the city bus home because I knew I’d be busy and probably wouldn’t be able to pick him up. I walked in the door, got changed then my cell phone rang. It was Ben…he missed the bus at the high school. UGH! He was waiting inside the school because it was cold outside and the bus didn’t stop. Ben knows he needs to be outside to catch the bus. The problem was he was wearing shorts yesterday and it wasn’t even 50 degrees out. I was mad! It’s a 25 minute drive from my house to the high school and 25 minutes back home. After I yelled at Ben, I quickly got Jacob a bite to eat and sent him down stairs with Aaron so I could go get Ben. I was starving myself but decided I didn’t have time to feed myself. Ben was waiting outside for me when I arrived at the school. I calmly explained to Ben that he had to NOT miss the bus anymore or he wouldn’t be staying for practice. I told Ben I knew it wasn’t done on purpose but he needed to be responsible for getting the bus after practice. I think he gets it because he waited for 2 hours after practice for a ride home…
Tuesday, October 18, 2011 4:56 PM
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck
If a woodchuck could chuck wood?
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck
If a woodchuck could chuck wood?
How much wood would a woodchuck chuck
If a woodchuck could chuck wood?
This is what I heard all last night. Jacob has just learned this tongue twister and kept repeating it all night. He told me it was addicting to keep say it…and I have to agree because I’ve found myself saying it in my head all day! I had to laugh at him because I remember when I was about his age saying all sorts of tongue twisters with my friends. I also remember this one:
She sells seashells by the seashore.
The shells she sells are surely seashells.
So if she sells shells on the seashore,
I'm sure she sells seashore shells.
We probably drove all of our parents crazy. I guess its payback time.
Friday, October 14, 2011 5:05 PM
Well, Ben has finally done it and it’s only taken him 2 months. I received a call from the vice principal today because Ben got in trouble in gym class. Apparently, Ben was being rowdy and jumping on other kids during gym. When he was told to stop and sit down as a punishment, Ben didn’t stay seated. So, the gym teacher wrote him up for insubordination. Which lead to the phone call from the vice principal today. Now, this actually happened on Tuesday and it took until Friday for me to get a phone call. The vice principal explained the situation to me and asked if I wanted to talk to Ben. So I did and Ben was a little short with me on the phone. He wasn’t really rude or anything to me but the vice principal did notice a little attitude anyway. I am disappointed in the school process. Ben could have been punished for a few days already. He has been playing the x-box all week. Is a delayed punishment as effective as an immediate one? Ben didn’t get a school suspension or anything since this is his first offense but next time he will. So that’s what I have to look forward to…great!
Tuesday, October 11, 2011 4:50 PM
The boys and I had such a wonderful yet busy weekend. The weather was perfect fall weather. We went to the high school football game on Friday night. Then on Saturday, we went to the WVU game. So we were all wore out by Saturday night. I promised the boys they could sleep in late on Sunday morning since we got up early on Saturday but they would have to do yard work that afternoon. Jacob is really the only person who didn’t have any work to do around the house. Aaron and Ben mowed grass, helped clean up the pool area and put the lawn furniture away. They only spent about an hour doing yard work but to them it seemed as if they spent all day on it. I worked on cleaning the garage for a few hours. What a mess! I am happy to say that I’ve managed to clean about half of the garage so I can now park my car in it. Yeah!!! Jacob did practice riding his bike some more and he is getting much better. It won’t be long and he’ll want to ride around the neighborhood…look out!
Friday, October 7, 2011 4:44 PM
Jacob pestered me for a month to buy him Transformers 3…the movie…before it was released. Every time there was a commercial on TV, he would call me into the living room to remind me that it would be released on 9/30/11. Jacob even wrote the date down on paper so he wouldn’t forget the date. I had to laugh at him because that is something I would do. I have post it’s everywhere! So, the week the movie was to come out Jacob asked me who he was with on Friday…the 30th (mom or dad). He was with his dad that weekend. Jacob didn’t want me to buy the movie without him and he wanted me to get the movie on the 30th. I tried to explain to Jacob that since he was with his dad that night…I couldn’t take him with me. Jacob insisted that I was not allowed to by the movie without him. We went round and round. Finally, Jacob gave me the “Ok” to buy Transformer 3 without him. I would have anyway…
Wednesday, October 5, 2011 5:03 PM
I spent a good part of the weekend cleaning my house since the boys were with their dad. Not the entire house got cleaned but I spent time cleaning the kitchen, living room bathroom and doing the laundry. I guess what I left out was the bedrooms. The boys didn’t have school yesterday or Monday so now the house is a disaster again. When I got home yesterday, the sink was full of dishes and Nick had dart guns in each room of the house. There was also an empty milk jug on the floor next to the overflowing garbage can….UGH! I am however happy to report there were no bodily damages to any of the boys. They had all eaten, brushed their teeth and were dressed. I guess I call that a successful day!
No more training wheels
Friday, September 30, 2011 4:44 PM
Jacob has been asking me to take the training wheels off if his bike for a while. I kept giving him excuses why I couldn’t take the wheels off. Honestly, I wasn’t sure his little legs were strong enough to peddle the bike. The road in front of my house is gravel so it’s a little rough. Finally, the other day I did it…the wheels are off. I had Aaron come outside with us in the front yard to help. The grass had just been cut so I thought it was a good place to start. Jacob was wearing his helmet (just in case). I starting pushing him while holding the seat and handle bars. The boy was so wobbly I thought there was no way he would be able to ride his bike yet. He was really leaning from side to side. I would let go of him briefly but he didn’t go far. After a while, I had Aaron help Jacob because my back was killing me. Getting old really sucks! Aaron wasn’t as cautious as I was with Jacob but he did have Jacob riding the bike further across the yard in a short time. Then, I took over again. By the time we were finished, Jacob was riding across the front yard. He still can’t steer the bike well but it’s a start. I’m happy to report he didn’t have any major crashes on the bike. Jacob was so excited to finally be riding his bike without training wheels. I wish I would have thought to video tape him.
Tuesday, September 27, 2011 5:04 PM
I had a great time at the WVU football game the other night and I didn’t have to choose between one of the boys. My friend, Tammy was able to go with me to the game. Fortunately, her mom volunteered to babysit her kids for her. Yeah! We’ve been friends since college but we don’t get to hang out very often since we both work and have children. She has 4 kids who keep her very busy. So it was nice to have some catch up time without the kids constantly interrupting us. Plus, we got to go to the football game and see Landau Eugene Murphy sing the national anthem. What a treat! We also tailgated for a while prior to the game. I have to admit…I did feel a little guilty for leaving the boys at home and going to the game without them. I know I shouldn’t because I spend most of my time taking them places and I need some time to relieve stress.
Friday, September 23, 2011 4:56 PM
I sort of have a problem. In my possession, I have 2 tickets to the WVU vs. LSU game for tomorrow night. That doesn’t sound like much of a problem does it? The problem is…there are 4 of us. I really didn’t want to take Jacob to the game anyway since it’s an 8:00 kick off. So, now there are 3 of us. Who do I take with me to the game Ben or Aaron? Ben isn’t always interested in going to football games but I think it would be nice for the 2 of us to spend time together. On the other hand, Aaron really enjoys going to the football games. So what do I do? Then there is a 3rdoption. I could take a friend with me to the game but I haven’t had much luck finding someone who needs a ticket to the game or someone who can find a babysitter. There are still a few possibilities but I may not know until tomorrow. I really hate to have to choose between Aaron and Ben. Maybe I’ll get lucky and one of them won’t wanna go to the game. It could happen!
Wednesday, September 21, 2011 4:33 PM
Ben got in trouble again. This time I took his cell phone, the x-box and computer for a week for lying to me. The thing about it is…I think it was a dumb lie. He was goofing off on the school bus which got a little out of control. This resulted in his shirt getting torn…basically ruined. The lie however, was that the tear happened in gym. Don’t get me wrong, I’m mad about the incident on the school bus but I am really mad that Ben lied to me again! I don’t believe he was fighting with the other kid on the bus but Ben shouldn’t be having these issues on the bus. I told him if he got kicked off of the school bus he would be riding public transportation to school. Ben’s not thrilled about riding the public bus but he has to a few days a week now that he’s weight lifting after school. So, I’m hoping that all of these punishments and threats will have an impact on his behavior. I’m hoping…
Friday, September 16, 2011 4:18 PM
Aaron has the opportunity to go to Florida in the spring with the band to march in the parade at Disney World. The school has set up a payment plan for the trip which is a great idea to assist parents in paying for the trip but in my situation it doesn’t help much. Right now…a few months before Christmas is not the time for me to start paying for a trip to Florida. Aaron has never been to Disney World or Florida and really wants to go. He is willing to take the car money he has been saving to help pay for the trip. It breaks my heart…he is such a good young man who deserves to go on this Florida trip. Hopefully his dad will make a contribution to Aaron’s Florida trip. Once band is over I want Aaron to get a part-time job but I’m just not sure how he’ll be getting to work. Yes I do…me! I guess I’ll be spending less on Christmas this year…
Friday, September 9, 2011 5:00 PM
TGIF!!! It has been such a long week for me. At least tomorrow the boys and I get to go to the Mountaineer Football Game. I can tell you now Ben will complain and try to get out of going to the game but I’m not going to give him a choice. Aaron will be exhausted by tomorrow night. He has a band competition after the football game then he’s spending the night at a friend’s house so “his band” can practice. Yes…I said “his” band. At least Aaron is dedicated to practicing. Jacob will complain because Aaron won’t be home. Jacob is Aaron’s “little buddy”. Ben will complain because he will need to entertain Jacob. It’s a never ending cycle in my house. We have a busy weekend ahead of us. I hope I survive.
Friday, September 2, 2011 4:55 PM
Jacob who is 7 years old and in 2ndgrade asked me what happened a long time ago on September 11th. It’s hard to believe 9-11 was 10 years ago. For Jacob, this is something he is learning about in the history books. I explained to Jacob some bad men stole a few airplanes. How else do you describe the events that took place so many years ago to a 7 year old? I told him 2 airplanes were crashed into The World Trade Towers and thousands of people were killed. Then I proceeded to tell Jacob another plane crashed in PA not far from where we live and a 4thplane crashed in to the Pentagon. I told Jacob at first, everyone thought the 1stplane might be an accident but once the 2ndcrashed in to the Twin Towers everyone was very afraid. Jacob responded with, “Oh yeah, the Twin Towers…I know what you mean”. I was a little surprised to hear his response. I tried to think of how to explain the Pentagon building to Jacob. All I could come up with was it was located in DC and government people worked there. Jacob once again surprised me by saying, “You mean where the generals and army people work?” I agreed with him…good answer. Aaron was 6 and Ben was 4 on 9-11. I remember being terrified about what was happening to our country and for the safety of my family. I was glued to the radio that day and to the TV that night. My heart goes out to the families and friends of all the victims of 9-11.
Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:06 PM
Since the boys have started back to school, I’ve been exhausted! I can’t fall a sleep at night then I don’t want to get up in the morning. I’ve been over tired now for about 2 weeks. Aaron and Ben have been staying up later then I want them to and I can hear them in the bathroom when they are getting ready for bed. It’s so frustrating! They need to go to bed earlier anyway because they get up for school so early. Jacob doesn’t want to go to bed either. He whines and cries when its time for bed no matter what time it is. Why do I have so much trouble getting the boys to bed? I know they are all tired. Maybe in a few weeks things will settle down and we’ll be into more of a routine. I sure hope so! I need sleep!
Wednesday, August 24, 2011 4:24 PM
So far so good with high school…Ben has only complained about his Geometry class. He doesn’t like it because there are mostly sophomores in the class. Basically, the problem for Ben is that he is not in class with all of his friends. That was a big problem for Ben last year in his Algebra class. All of Ben’s friends were in his Algebra class and he just goofed off most of the school year. I, on the other hand, am extremely thankful Ben isn’t in class with all of his friends. Maybe, he’ll actually pay attention in class this year. Ben has had homework the last 2 nights in Geometry and has even brought home his book to actually do it. So, I think Ben’s off to a good start this year!
Jacob is such a little handful in school. He is a very bright child but has a difficult time controlling all of his energy. He is trying not to get a “bad mark” in school but Jacob got one yesterday. The school had a fire drill and Jacob got in trouble for not being in line. I told him it was important to stay in line during the drill. Jacob’s response was, “Mom there were lines everywhere”. Now…how could I be upset with that response? Poor kid…I felt bad because Jacob is trying.
We did it!
Friday, August 19, 2011 4:11 PM
We did it! The boys made it to school yesterday and today. I say “we” because it definitely takes team work to get myself and 3 kids out the door in the morning. Aaron and Ben get on the bus at 6:28 AM…crazy…but high school starts at 7:24 AM. I’m really proud of Ben for getting up the last 2 mornings on time. I was extremely worried Ben wouldn’t get up at all for school. Jacob doesn’t start school until 8:45 AM so he goes to a before school program. This year it’s very different in the morning because Ben and Aaron are both gone by the time Jacob wakes up for school. Jacob has done a great job getting ready for school the last 2 mornings. I really feel bad because now Jacob is eating breakfast by himself since I’m busy getting ready for work. I’ll need to try to rearrange my schedule so I can sit with him sometimes while he’s eating breakfast. I have no idea how I’m going to do that but I need to figure something out.
Back to school
Wednesday, August 17, 2011 4:40 PM
I am so happy that school starts tomorrow. The boys are starting to drive each other crazy which makes me crazy. We went to the “Back to school bash” last night at the high school. What a mess! The open house was from 5pm-7pm so the students could get their schedules, lockers and find their class rooms. So…I thought we would get there just before 5pm, get our stuff, and get out of there. No such luck. For over an hour, we stood around waiting and waiting to get into the auditorium. We weren’t allowed into the auditorium until 5:50 PM. Then we listened to the principal’s speech. Finally at about 6:30 PM, we were split into groups by homeroom teacher so we could get all of the necessary information. Then Ben had to find of his locker and classrooms. Of course, he didn’t want help from Aaron. By the time we were finished at the high school it was 7:15 PM. When I finally got home at 8:00 PM, I felt I had just wasted my time. The school should be much more organized. Maybe the boys had fun socializing with their friends but I certainly didn’t enjoy the “bash”.
Friday, August 12, 2011 5:03 PM
Ben has finally admitted to me he is nervous about starting high school. He has been extremely particular about the school cloths I’ve been buying him to the point I don’t care if he goes to school naked. Well…that’s not really true but that’s how I feel sometimes. When did “Nike” become not good enough? Aaron has never been as particular as Ben. I guess I should consider myself lucky for that. I still need to buy the boys a few items for school but for the most part I’m finished…for now. Summer has just flown by for me. I really can’t believe school starts in less then a week. I’m not sure if I’m ready to battle homework with Jacob. Although, I think he’s excited about starting 2ndgrade. Jacob told me last night that he was going to be in 2ndgrade and that 2ndgrade class rooms were on the 2ndfloor of the school. I thought WOW…he is excited about school. Great!
Thursday, August 11, 2011 8:41 AM
I have always thought Aaron was a very smart child. As he has gotten older I have realized as smart as he is, he lacks common sense. I have proof to back this belief up. This is the most recent example of his lack common sense. The other day, Aaron was getting a ride from a friend after band practice to my work so I could take him home. I reminded him where my office is located (which he should know by now). I also reminded Aaron that I’m on the third floor and to just come to my office once he arrived. Easy…right? The next thing he said truly amazed me and had me laughing all day. Aaron said, “I’m not sure how the elevator works”. I had to do a double take at him while I was driving. Really??? He is 16 years old. I was shocked! Aaron defended himself by saying that he doesn’t ride the elevator very often. I had to explain to Aaron step by step how the elevator works. When I was finished, he looked at me and said, “That’s what I thought”. Do you think I’ve sheltered this boy a little? What in the world am I going to do with him?
Saturday, August 6, 2011 2:11 PM
This week has been a little stressful for me. Aaron has been at band camp all week. They don’t spend the night but he is gone from 7:40 AM to 9:30 PM…so all day. Jacob’s summer camp ended last week so I decided to let Ben watching Jacob this week. I really didn’t have any other choices. I was really concerned about the arrangement since they fight all the time. I had a little chat with each of them explaining what I expected from them a few times before and during this past week. Jacob thinks Ben is mean to him and Ben feels Jacob is spoiled. They are both correct. Surprisingly, the week went extremely well. They did have a few small fights at least I was told they were small but for the most part they actually got along. I didn’t receive 1 phone call at work from Jacob complaining or crying about Ben. I was completely shocked and I am very proud of the both of them for making this work. Ben had such a different attitude this last week. Maybe having a little more responsibility was just what he needed.
Wednesday, August 3, 2011 4:51 PM
The boys and I went to Sandcastle Waterpark on Saturday. We had a great time…well at least 3 of us did. Ben and Aaron really didn’t want to go to the park on Saturday. Ben didn’t want to go swimming at all and Aaron just wanted to go on a different day. I explained to them there were not many weekends left in the summer and we needed to go to the waterpark when we could. It didn’t matter to Ben at all; he just didn’t wanna go swimming. Aaron on the other had decided he wanted to go to Sandcastle. Jacob of course was exited to go. Ben kept insisting he didn’t want to go to the waterpark and that he wasn’t going swimming. However, I thought he would change his mind once we got there. Well, he didn’t. Ben spent all day just sitting by the pool. He refused go on one slide. When we got home, Ben said he had fun at the waterpark. How could he have had fun? I don’t get it! I really don’t know what is wrong with that boy. Is he being stubborn or is just trying to torture me? Should I be concerned or is this because he’s a 14 year boy? I’m not sure…
Breaking my heart
Friday, July 29, 2011 4:38 PM
Today is the last day for Jacob’s summer program. Apparently, yesterday Jacob’s AM program had a talent show and end of summer party which the parents were invited to attend. I never received the invitation since we were on vacation last week. My X and I found out about the event on Wednesday evening. There was just no way I could go the next morning since it didn’t start until 8:30 and went until 10:15 in the morning. Jacob’s dad said he would try to attend the party but he wasn’t able to make it. I found out yesterday afternoon Jacob cried and cried when his dad dropped him off at the school and couldn’t stay with him. I felt so bad because Jacob was that upset. By the time I picked Jacob up yesterday afternoon from the pool, he seemed to be doing better. He had a bag full of items he made during the last 6 weeks of his dinosaur class. After dinner last night I had him show me every item in the bag. I think the display helped Jacob feel even better. He was so proud of all of his dinosaur crafts he made and had done a great job. I wish I could have been there for him yesterday.
Tuesday, July 26, 2011 4:45 PM
We had a nice vacation last week but it went by to quickly. The boys and I spent a few days at the Jersey shore before the heat wave hit…thankfully. My friend drove up to AC to spend the night with us at the casino. Her and I took the boys swimming and to the arcade. They really enjoyed staying there even though it was just 1 night. Later that night my friend and I went downstairs to play the slots. Of course we didn’t win any money but we still enjoyed ourselves.
The next day we meet my sister and nieces on the beach for the afternoon. The ocean was still a little cold considering it’s the end of July but the beach was hot. Jacob is getting braver in the ocean water. The waves still scare him but he has become a little more adventurous. Jacob and Ben buried Aaron in the sand…he looked so silly. Ben complained he didn’t want to go to the beach and he didn’t want to swim but once he was there he had a great time. That boy complains about everything all the time. He is never ever happy. I’m wrong…Ben is happy when he plays the x-box as long as no one bothers him. You would think a few days on the beach wouldn’t begin to compare to the x-box. The beach rocks!
Friday, July 15, 2011 4:32 PM
This has been such a crazy week. I’m on vacation next week so I’ve been trying to get extra stuff done at work and home before I leave town. We’re going to NJ to visit our family. Aaron also has had band practice every night this week. Ben and I are trying to get the yard mowed before we leave in the morning. I have laundry to do so I can pack for the 4 of us. I’m afraid if I don’t pack Aaron and Ben’s cloths they won’t bring everything they need or they’ll wait until tomorrow morning to pack. Jacob thinks he should be able to take every toy he owns with us for the car trip. I did put gas in the car today but I still need to go to the bank. I’d like to get an early start tomorrow because we have a 6 hour drive but I know Aaron and Ben will be difficult to wake in the morning. Hopefully, I‘ll be able to get the boys up early tomorrow so we can get on the road. If they would all fall back to sleep it would be awesome so I could have some peace and quite but that is very unlikely...
Fun in the pool
Tuesday, July 12, 2011 4:58 PM
Ben has been stuck to the x-box all summer. When the boys came home from their dad’s house on Sunday, I told them all no x-box. Jacob wanted to go swimming in the pool with Aaron and Ben. Aaron said he would go but Ben didn’t want to go swimming. As a matter of fact…Ben hasn’t been in the pool all year. I told Jacob he had to wait until after dinner to go swimming. So, after dinner Jacob and Aaron got ready to go swimming and Ben disappeared downstairs…where the x-box is located. He thought he was going to be able to play. I tried to get Ben to go swimming but he refused although he did agree to go outside. At this time Aaron and Jacob were already in the pool. Well, it took Ben about 5 minutes for Ben to change his mind to go swimming. I was really hoping he would change his mind once he got outside. I think Ben has been a little depressed lately and swimming would be great for him. I think I was right; all of the boys were having a great time in the pool. I need to find some other activities for Ben this summer but I don’t know what…
Saturday, July 9, 2011 5:05 PM
Jacob and I have been enjoying our pool. Aaron and Ben have no interest in it because it is only 4 feet deep. They would much rather play the x-box. I've been teaching Jacob how to swim. He can dogie paddle and will swim a short distance under water with his goggles. Jacob will also swim to the bottom to retrieve something out of the pool. He really looks adorable in his goggles. However, Jacob will not jump into the pool yet. I guess he's still a little afraid of the water. The other day Jacob and I were swimming...well I was holding him in the water. I told Jacob I was going to dunk him. He wasn't sure what I meant so I told him to hold his nose because I was going to put him under the water. Oh no! Jacob didn't want any part of it. I explained to him the I wouldn't hold him under at all. He still refused. I continued to tell Jacob I was going to dunk him. All of a sudden he said, "No, don't! I'm going to tell". I laughed immediately and asked who he was going to tell? Jacob realized the situation and laughed then said, "The mayor". We both laughed and I never did dunk him. I felt he must have really been scared if he was going to tell on me. We had a lot of fun that day.
Wednesday, July 6, 2011 3:11 PM
The boys and I had a great weekend! We went to see Transformers 3 in 3D and it was worth the extra money for the 3D. All of us thought it was a great movie. Jacob is ready to see it again and he wants the DVD when it comes out. I told him he would have to wait until Christmas for it which will be here before I know it. We also went to see the fireworks on Monday night. Aaron and Ben weren’t very interested in them but Jacob was thrilled. He took his camera so he could take pictures but his camera isn’t very good and they didn’t turn out very well. I took a few with my phone and they didn’t turn out to bad. We got to bed late and Jacob and I were very tired yesterday. Aaron and Ben are still sleeping until noon so it didn’t bother them.
Yeah!!! Aaron doesn’t have band this week. What a relief! He will have band practice next week and then for the rest of the summer. Ugh! At least he’ll have a ride to the high school and I will just need to pick him up. I’m sure one day I miss all of this craziness in my life…well…maybe.
Friday, July 1, 2011 4:03 PM
TGIF…band is almost over for the week. Honestly, Monday was the worst day. Aaron’s dad has been helping with the transportation issue but I have been doing most of it. Next week, Aaron doesn’t have any band practice…thankfully. The following week I was able to set up a carpool for band practice. Having the carpool will be such a help to me. I wish I had one this week.
Jacob has been waiting to go see Transformers 3. Everyday for the past 2 weeks he has asked when we’re going to the movies. I explained to Jacob I had to work on 6/29 the day the movie came out so we’d have to wait until Saturday to see it. Jacob was upset but I promised him I would take him Saturday. Well, last night Jacob told me I should stay home from work today so we could go see Transformers 3. I told him I couldn’t stay home…Jacob told me to tell my work I was sick so I could stay home. I was shocked! I told Jacob I couldn’t lie about being sick. He understood but I laughed to myself. I can’t believe he wanted me to fake being sick…lol! I guess I better keep an eye on him during the school year or he’ll be faking to be sick…
Wednesday, June 29, 2011 4:24 PM
This week has been terrible. Aaron started band practice and he has to be at the high school by 6:00 PM every night this week. After work on Monday, I had to pick Jacob up at the pool which is where his afternoon summer program is located. Then, I had to go home to pick Aaron up so I could get him to the high school. Once Aaron was at the school, I decided to stop and get something quick to eat for dinner. Jacob went to sleep in the car while I was on my way to Burger King to grab us dinner before going home. It took me 2 hours to do all of that and I still had to go back and pick Aaron up at 9:30 PM that night. Also, I bought Jacob the wrong kids meal at BK so he started crying because I didn’t wake him up to ask him what he wanted. I even bought myself a kids meal so he could have 2 transformers toys that came with it. Jacob cried again because they were the same toys and not different ones. We were both tired at that point. Jacob cried for about 20 minutes. Finally he settled down and ate…what a relief! I hurried to get everything ready for the next day. While I was doing that, Ben cut some grass then got a shower. I quickly got Jacob a shower and we flew out the door. At 8:00, I met my brother in law at the mall parking lot. He drives a truck and was going right thru town. We visited with him for about an hour before he had to get back on the road and I had to go pick Aaron up at the high school. I finally made it home at 10:00 PM and was completely exhausted. My head and my eyes hurt. I couldn’t wait to get in bed…1 day down and 4 more to go…UGH!
Staying up late
Friday, June 24, 2011 4:24 PM
Aaron and Ben have been staying up half the night. The next day they’re sleeping until noon or later. They are totally off schedule…I guess it doesn’t matter since it is summer vacation. The problem their dad hasn’t set any rules regarding bedtime so I have a difficult time enforcing a bedtime on them. I’ve been awaking at 3:30 AM by them talking in the living room. I still need to get up to go to work in the morning so this is becoming an issue for me. I’m not sure what the solution is to this problem but I need to find one fast!
Jacob’s summer program started his week. He got to go swimming yesterday for the 1sttime and he loved it! There are a few of his friends who are also in this program which has made Jacob very happy. When I picked him up yesterday Jacob was so exhausted he went to sleep in the car on the way home. I’m really glad Jacob likes this summer program I just hope he likes it for the rest of the summer.
Friday, June 10, 2011 4:34 PM
The storms in this area have been extremely bad lately. I’ve lost power at my house 4 times in the last 2 weeks. The first time it was out for 24 hours. Last night, the power was out for just over 2 hours. That wasn’t too bad but it was starting to get hot in the house and it’s really hard to entertain a 7 year without electrical devices. It was a good thing the DS was charged. The portable DVD play was dead. I needed to use my phone as an alarm clock and it was nearly dead. So I had to charge my cell phone on my laptop which thankful had a full battery. I had candles all over the house and it was still dark. Jacob was really bored and wanted to play Uno but it was just to dark to see the cards. Aaron and Ben had their iPods to listen/play with so they survived the outage. I finally decided to put Jacob to bed around 10 PM and he crashed almost immediately. Not long later, the power was on! Yeah! I was soooo happy the power was back on so I could wash my hair today…it’s the little things that make me happy!
Tuesday, June 7, 2011 5:19 PM
This year, I’m having a tough time getting my pool open. There was a pond on the top of my cover with a million tad poles on it. The boys and I really struggled to get the cover off. Then, I broke my pool pump on Saturday. I’ve ordered the new part but it’ll take several days to arrive. So by then all of the work I’ve put into the pool won’t matter. The pool will be green by the time I get the part. I’m really disappointed and so was Jacob. He’s been dying to get into the pool. Jacob had his feet in the pool while I was trying to clean it and the next thing I know, he was soaked from his chest down. The poor child just can’t wait to go swimming. Aaron and Ben aren’t as crazy about the pool as they used to be because it’s only 4 feet deep. Ben wants me to take the pool down because he’s tired of helping with it. All he does is help with the cover! The pool is extremely old so this maybe the last year for it anyway. Jacob will certain be disappointed then.
Thursday, May 26, 2011 4:58 PM
Jacob loves to fish. He and his dad go fishing at his Pap’s pond a lot in the summer. A few years ago my sister bought Jacob a pretend fishing pole which doesn’t have a hook on the end but it does have real line. He still plays with the pole in the yard when he’s bored. Last week, Jacob decided to fish in the pool. The cover is still on the pool and there is lots of water on the cover. There are even toads in the water. At this point, the pool really looks like a pond. So I can understand why it’s so appealing to him. Jacob has been fishing almost every day. He is so adorable. Saturday morning he was standing on the porch in his PJ’s fishing. He had a blast pretending he caught a huge fish. As I watched him I wished I could have frozen that moment and kept him 7 forever!
Friday, May 20, 2011 5:05 PM
Let’s see…Jacob has only received 1 star at school since his field trip on May 1st. He has been bad and just not listening to his teacher. This really isn’t like him. Jacob pointed scissors at a few kids in his class. I’ve explained to him how dangerous this behavior is and that I don’t think he would like it if someone did that to him. We’ll see how today goes…Jacob might be spending a lot of time in his room this weekend. It needs cleaned anyway so this will be a good opportunity for him do it.
Tuesday, May 17, 2011 4:34 PM
I finally did it! I moved Jacob’s huge box out of my living room and to the downstairs on Sunday. The boys were with their dad for the weekend so I took the opportunity to clean my house…what a job! It rained a good bit over the weekend so I decided it was time to spring clean. I cleaned the kitchen, living room, bathroom and even my bedroom which is usually last on the list to be cleaned. I didn’t clean any of the boy’s rooms. Aaron and Ben are old enough to clean their rooms but Jacob needs some help. I didn’t touch Jacob’s room though because it’s such a mess. I need a few trash bags with me when I finally get in there to clean it. What a mess!!!
Well, my clean house lasted all of 2 minutes once the boys came home. There were shoes and backpacks everywhere. The boys are extremely bad about cleaning up after themselves. I made a pile of their junk for each of them to put away or throw away when they got home. Now that the house is clean, I need to stay on the boys to help keep it that way. That will be a job in itself!
Friday, May 13, 2011 4:22 PM
Ben has me really upset because he is failing his Algebra class. He has 3 weeks of school left to pull his grade up to passing. I told Ben last night if he doesn’t pass this term, I’m taking his cell phone for the summer. I am sooooo furious with him. He is very smart but obviously hasn’t been trying in Algebra at all. Ben doesn’t like his teacher and I think a few of his friends are in the class with him. I’ve been trying to get Ben to try in this class most of the year but for some reason he refuses. Last year he did extremely well in math and I know he can do much better than he is but at this point I bet he’s completely lost and doesn’t want to ask for help. I’m not sure how or if I can get through to him. I need to call his dad tonight and fill him in on the situation. If we are both on the same page regarding Ben, we’ll have a better chance of getting through to him. I really am at a loss with Ben lately. Tough love may just be the answer. I need to remember…I’m his mother first and his friend second!
Wednesday, May 11, 2011 12:50 PM
Ben and Jacob have been getting along much better the last several days. I think it’s because Ben has been punished and he’s afraid to rock the boat. Ben has even been taking Jacob into the front yard to play with him. Jacob has been on a search to find a bird’s nest. I’ve heard some chirping coming from the garage area but Jacob and I weren’t able to see a nest anywhere. The other night he and Ben were playing ball in the front yard. They were outside for a while before Jacob came running into the house. He was so excited because he found a bird’s nest in the bush out front. Jacob took me outside to show me the 4 baby birds in the nest. He told me all about how he found the nest and pointed to the mama bird on the phone wire near by. I explained to Jacob that he couldn’t touch the birds or the mama wouldn’t take care of them anymore and he might make her angry. I told Jacob we would check on the birds everyday to make sure the mama was caring for her babies. I’m glad he found the nest because it made him so happy.
Thursday, May 5, 2011 12:09 PM
I took a day off of work to go with Jacob on his 1stgrade school trip. Wow! What a day. We went to the Children’s Museum in Pittsburgh. I spent over 2 hours on a school bus one way with a bunch of 7 year olds. The bus ride really wasn’t that bad. However, I wasn’t very impressed with the museum. I felt it wasn’t well organized. Basically, the kids were taken to a room with several different activities and let loose. There wasn’t any structure at all. So, I was left trying to watch 3- 7 year old boys who went in 3 different directions. They were all wearing a blue shirt…UGH! Also, none of the teachers went along for the museum tour. The teachers just left the students to be watched by the parents. I couldn’t believe it. In the end, I was really glad I decided to go on the trip with Jacob. He had a great time on the trip and I took several pictures. Also, his birthday was the next day so I got the chance to spend extra time with him. I guess what I’m saying is …it was completely worth it.
Friday, April 29, 2011 5:00 PM
Jacob brought home a sunflower he planted at school yesterday. It’s about 2 inches high and in a very tiny planter. Jacob wants to plant it outside. I tried to explain to him that the sunflower was still small to put outside but he kept insisting. I finally had to tell him it would get ran over by the mower if we put it outside now. I explained to Jacob that we needed to replant the sunflower into a larger pot so it will grow. So now, I need potting soil and a new planter for this sunflower. I don’t know if the sunflower will survive or not but it would be perfect at the end of the garden. Well, that is if I plant a garden...I hope to. I know Jacob would really enjoy it. I wonder if I can get Ben and Aaron to dig up a small area for me. Yeah right! I can barely get them to mow the grass. I guess I’ll need to bribe them….
Tuesday, April 26, 2011 4:54 PM
We all had a very nice Easter. Our dinner was Saturday night since the boys went with their dad on Sunday. I did make a bunny cake for dessert. It was a yellow cake with chocolate icing…thus a chocolate bunny. I decorated it with jelly beans and coconut. It turned out really nice and Jacob thought the cake was great. Jacob and I died some eggs without spilling any dye. Jacob also painted some Easter sun catchers. He really had lots of fun. Aaron and Ben played along with the Easter bunny for Jacob and even went on an egg hunt with him. Why wouldn’t they…more candy is a great reason. BTW…I bought too much candy this year…what was I thinking. I was supposed to cut back not increase the candy intake. Oh well… Jacob got a pillow pet from the Easter bunny while Ben and Aaron got an iTunes gift card. The pillow pet is a dog with a blanket and it’s so soft and cuddly. Jacob has been sleeping with it every night. Adorable!
Friday, April 22, 2011 4:23 PM
Jacob told me he didn’t want to go see the Easter Bunny this year because he’s not a kid…lol! He’s still only 6 years old. I told him lots of kids who are 6 or 7 still go see the Easter Bunny. He told me that the bunny at the mall wasn’t the real Easter Bunny and he would pass on seeing the bunny. Honestly, I’m a little disappointed but I’m not going to force him to go see the Easter Bunny.
I have so much work to do to get ready for Easter. I need to go grocery shopping so I can make Easter dinner. It will only be the 4 of us but I still need food. I also need to get the boys an Easter gift. I always buy them a small present along with their candy. The good news is that I have all of the candy bought. I’m going to make a bunny cake and I have all if the stuff for that. Jacob and I are going to color eggs tomorrow but I need to buy the eggs. I better make a list for the store or I’ll forget something important. I hope to accomplish this after work today. I hope I don’t forget anything. Happy Easter!
Friday, April 15, 2011 4:33 PM
So, I did a little reach regarding teenagers and sleeping patterns. What I discovered is that Ben is a typical teenager. There have been many studies over the years about teenagers requiring more sleep. Apparently, the latest research indicates that the need for sleep in teens is a biological issue. Teenager’s internal clock tends to naturally want to them be up later at night and sleep in later every morning. The schedules we have in our society don’t work with this biology. Ben stays up late on the weekend then will sleep until noon if I let him the next day. When Monday morning arrives, he has to wake up by 7:00 AM. This change in schedule creates a sleep deficit. The research states that by the end of a given week most teens have a minimum of 10 hours sleep deficit. This pattern (which is normal) messes up teen’s internal clock. This is why Ben will come home after school and crash by mid week. After a few days, Ben doesn’t need a nap after school to function. I thought I would find information to support that Ben was just “growing” so he needed more sleep. I am definitely less worried about Ben now. See what a little research can do.
Sleeping too much?
Tuesday, April 12, 2011 5:09 PM
Ben has really been sleeping a lot. I think it’s just because he’s growing but he sleeps all of the time. I’m trying to decide if I need to be concerned or not. I know teenagers need more sleep but I’m a little worried about him. How do you know when the sleeping is too much? When do I get concerned enough to take Ben to the doctor? I don’t believe I’m at that point yet but I’d rather be safe than sorry. I don’t think Ben’s depressed or doing anything he shouldn’t be doing but I feel that I need to keep a watch on him just to be sure. His attitude has even been better in the last month or so. I don’t know what has caused the change but I like it. Maybe I should do a little research on the internet. Google is a wonderful tool if used in moderation. I think I’ll take sometime tonight to search the internet on teen sleeping. Hopefully, I’ll learn a few important facts that I should know and I can use on my boys.
Friday, April 8, 2011 4:50 PM
This box of Jacob’s has been in my living for a month and ½ now. It’s really driving me crazy because it takes up so much room but I really don’t have any other place to put it. Jacob now has a chair, more pictures and an air freshener in his box. It’s actually really adorable. He loves it and I don’t have the heart to trash the box. I was sort of hoping the box would fall apart or get destroyed some way. I know that is a terrible thought but the box needs a new home or I need a smaller box for Jacob to play in. Maybe when Jacob goes to his dad’s house for the weekend, I can get rid of the box. I’m afraid that Jacob would get very upset with me if I did that to his little house when he wasn’t around. I’m really stuck here with this box. I need help!
Tuesday, April 5, 2011 5:04 PM
This morning, I was trying to rush Jacob along so we could get out the door for school/work. He was being a little busy body and wouldn’t go brush his teeth. He picked up one of my earrings and asked me how they pierce my ears. I explained to Jacob that they used a gun to pierce my ears. Jacob wanted to know if it hurt me. I told him that there was a pinch and it hurt a little but I didn’t cry. I also told Jacob that I was about 7 years old when I had my ears pierced. A minute later, Jacob told me he wanted to pierce one of his ears. His friend has a pierced ear so he wants one. I told him I didn’t think that boys at his age should have their ear pierced. Jacob was insistent about wanting it done. So, I told him to we would have to talk about it later and that he had to ask his dad. Also, I added that it did hurt and I don’t think he would want it done. I didn’t have time to argue with him this morning but there is no way Jacob will be getting his ear pierced at age 6!
Friday, April 1, 2011 4:12 PM
Yesterday was Aaron’s 16thbirthday. Wow! There’s nothing like your son turning 16 to make you feel old. He’s almost ready to get his driver’s license but I’m not ready for him to drive. Every year on the boys’ birthday, I tell them their “birthday story” about the day they were born. I include the time they were born and what the weather was like the day they were born. I tell the boys what they weighted and how long they were at birth. They’re at the point that they all know what it was like when each of them was born. I started this “birthday story” because I really don’t know much about when I was born. I only have my siblings to ask and they don’t remember too much about the day I was born. So, I thought it would be nice for the boys to hear a story every year, a story that’s just about them. When they were younger the boys would really get into the story. Now, they pretty much know all of the answers. My hope is that my boys will remember their story long after I’m gone and share their children’s “birthday story” with them.
Tuesday, March 29, 2011 4:33 PM
Since I took the day off on Friday, I decided to take the boys tubing at Wisp Resort. We packed our snow pants (some I had borrowed) and loaded up the car. Jacob was so excited even though we weren’t sure if he was old enough to go tubing by himself. Aaron and Ben were looking forward to it as well. Out of the four of us, Aaron is the only one who had been tubing before. He kept insisting we didn’t need the snow pants because he was warm when he went a few years ago. So, I drove us the hour to Wisp Resort. Once I figured out where to go, I parked and got our stuff out of the car while Jacob cried he didn’t want to wear his snow pants. I sent Aaron and Ben up to the door to make sure we were in the right place as I argued with Jacob about the pants. It was colder and windier at resort then it was at my house but that’s what I expected. I figured if we went tubing from 1:00 PM -5:00 PM it would be the warmest part of the day and 3-4 hours was plenty of time. Well…guess what? There wasn’t enough snow for tubing so Wisp wasn’t going to open until 5:00 PM. At 1:30 PM in the afternoon what is a person supposed to do with 3 boys? I tried to think of something we could do for a few hours but there really was nothing else over there to do. Plus, it would have been much colder at night. So, we left while Jacob cried some more. I felt terrible but I had no idea they would run out of fake snow! We were all disappointed….
Thursday, March 24, 2011 4:35 PM
Day 2 of spring break went much better. Aaron woke up with Jacob instead of Ben. I’ve had Aaron and Ben taking turns getting up with Jacob so they can each have a day to sleep in until about noon. Aaron and Jacob hardly fight at all. Jacob looks up to Aaron not only as a big brother but as role model also. I’ve told Aaron that Jacob is his “little buddy”. Jacob constantly wants to hang out with Aaron. It’s really adorable. Most of the time Aaron doesn’t mind however, occasionally he will complain to me and I will make Jacob give Aaron some space.
Day 3 of spring break was not as bad as day # 1 but wasn’t as good as day # 2 either. Ben woke up with Jacob again on day # 3. I received another phone call shortly after they woke up. Jacob called to ask me who was the “bigger boss” in the house…Aaron or Ben? What…why, I asked. Jacob proceeded to tell me that Ben thought he was the “bigger boss” and not Aaron. I explained to Jacob that since Aaron was still sleeping, Ben is the “bigger boss” at the moment. Of course, Jacob wasn’t satisfied with that answer. Jacob just wanted me to tell him that Aaron was in charge no matter what. I told Jacob he had to listen to Ben because Aaron was still sleeping. Jacob doesn’t want to listen to Ben because he’s not the “bigger boss”. UGH!!!
Day 4 of spring break has had no issues at all that I am aware of. Aaron woke up with Jacob…
Day 5 of spring break…mom has taken the day off of work to spend time with her boys. Wish me luckJ
Tuesday, March 22, 2011 5:00 PM
The boys are on spring break this week. We’re off to just an “ok” start this week. Yesterday morning Jacob called me to complain about Ben. Apparently, Ben wouldn’t allow Jacob to eat his pop tarts and milk in my bedroom while watching TV. Let me first tell you that Jacob knows how to use the house phone but not a cell phone. So, Jacob called me at work from the house phone to complain. I sided with Ben…of course. Well, this made Jacob mad and he hung up the phone on me. I was shocked, my 6 year old hung up on me! I decided I would need to deal with Jacob when I got home that night. About 15 minutes later, I got a call from Ben’s cell phone and it was Jacob. The first thing he said was, “I’m sorry mommy.” I told Jacob that it wasn’t nice of him to hang up on me but I forgave him. I also told him not to do it again. Jacob said, “Ok” and began to cry. I felt terrible and had to tell him it was ok and that I loved him. Jacob did settle down and he let me talk to Ben. Apparently, there was a little more fighting going on at my house in between phone calls but it had all been worked out. Thank goodness! The final call of the day was Jacob again; he was complaining that he wanted his turn on the X-box also. As I was talking to Jacob, I could here Ben and Aaron arguing in the back round about whose turn it was on the X-box. I reassured Jacob that he would have his turn and then I spoke with Ben again to explain they all needed to take turns on the X-box. So at this point, I was concerned with how the rest of the day was going to go because these three calls came in less than 1 hour…Thankfully, there were no more issues yesterday. We all survived!
Friday, March 18, 2011 5:05 PM
Jacob and I have come up with a new reward system at home in conjunction with his reward he earns from school. So far, it’s been only slightly successful. Jacob brought home a sheet of star stickers a few weeks ago. These sticks are multicolored and were very appealing to him. So, I decided to use these stars on our calendar at home if Jacob received a star at school. I explained to Jacob he could pick which color star he would put on the calendar each night. Jacob thought it was a great idea. So far…there aren’t too many stars on our calendar. He has managed to get a few more stars this month than he had all of last month. I guess you could say it’s a work in progress. I really have exhausted all of my ideas regarding Jacob’s behavior in school. Don’t get me wrong…Jacob is not what I would call “bad” in school…just ornery. Anyone have any suggestions?
Tuesday, March 15, 2011 5:02 PM
Jacob thinks the greatest invention EVERY is a cardboard box! I purchased a cabinet for my bathroom and the boys (all of them) wanted me to keep the box the cabinet came in so they could play in it. I was reluctant because the box is huge but my sister convinced me to keep it for a while. Well, I’ve now had this box or Jacob’s “house” as we now call it for a month. This box has migrated from my kitchen to the living room. It takes up too much space in my house but it has been well worth the trouble. Jacob has lights, carpeting and shelves in his house. He lies in the box and plays in it all the time. After searching for Aaron the other day, I found him sitting in the box. Ben was the one who suggested I keep the box and he’s in it the least (as far as I know). This box is certainly getting use so I’m glad I kept it. I told Jacob I was just going to buy him another box for his birthday and nothing else. Jacob had a shocked look on his face but I told him I was only kidding with him. He loves this box. I think I should get him a playhouse for outside. I bet he’d really love that! Well…after looking online at the playhouses, I think Jacob will need to stick with the cardboard box. Those houses are outrageous! I’m very disappointed.
Wednesday, March 9, 2011 4:19 PM
Jacob and I went to the book fair at his school last night. I bought him several books recently so I told Jacob he wasn’t getting too many new books last night. He had a list of books he wanted to buy because the children had visited the book fair one day last week. We gathered all of the books Jacob wanted to purchase but some of them were too difficult for him. I was very proud of Jacob because after carefully examining the books he chose 1 book to buy which was right at his reading level. Jacob chose a book about Sea Horses. Jacob also wanted this fancy pen they had there. It’s blue with a bird on top of it, when you squeeze the bird its eyes pop out of its head. Last night, after dinner, Jacob read me his new book. He’s really interested in learning more about Sea Horses now and even wants to go to the pet store so he can buy a Sea Horse for a pet. Can you even do that??? I really have no idea if you can buy a Sea Horse at a pet store. I guess we’ll be looking at the pet store this weekend.
Friday, March 4, 2011 5:00 PM
Everyday is a challenge when you are a single parent. Anyone who hasn’t been in this situation can only imagine how difficult it can be. There is no one to turn to for decisions or assistance with the children, the house or school. Let’s not forget to mention going to work and supporting yourself and kids. When you wrap all that together, it can be overwhelming and draining emotionally.
The other day I was on the phone to my sister which is almost a daily occurrence. As usual, we discussed our personal issues such as men and kids. Our children are around the same age so we can really relate to one another. There is one difference; my sister has been married for 20 years. She gave me a big complement which surprised me because we don’t always agree on issues. She told me that I was a strong person and that I was doing a good job with the boys. I really don’t see myself as a strong person…just a mom doing what I need to do. Thank you sister for the encouragement!
Tuesday, March 1, 2011 4:20 PM
Today is Ben’s 14thbirthday. I can hardly believe that 14 years ago he fought his way into this world. We were living in Ohio at the time he was born which seems like a lifetime ago. It was a fairly warm and stormy day on March 1, 1997. Unseasonably warm sort of like yesterday. I’ve always heard that March comes in like a “lion” and goes out like a “lamb”. For the last several years, I’ve found that saying to be very true. You see, Ben was born on March 1stand Aaron was born on March 31st. Ben or the lion is trying to be king and Aaron (the oldest son) is a lamb but will always be king (according to Ben…anyway). The funny part of this is that Aaron isn’t bothered by any of this. Ben however is extremely bothered by the fact that he is not the oldest and since Jacob was born...he is now longer the youngest either. I love all of my boys for who they are and what they will become. Like I tell my son…you are my favorite 14 year old! Happy birthday!!!
Friday, February 25, 2011 4:45 PM
Ben and I are having a disagreement…imagine that! He wants me to buy him sandals for his birthday. I know what you’re thinking…what a birthday gift. He asked me to get them for him because they’re fairly expensive and Ben knows I wouldn’t normally spend that much money on sandals for him. So, I agreed to buy him these Air Jordan sandals for his birthday. A few days later we were looking on the internet at the sandals when Ben told me he wants white ones. I didn’t think Ben was serious at first but he insisted he was. I told Ben there was no way I was buying him white sandals because they will get dirty very easily…Ben will get them dirty in a day. Oh, he also wants to wear black socks with the sandals. What a look! Well, Ben is upset with me because I said, “No way, I’m not buying those sandals!” After a little disagreement, Ben informed me he would ask his dad to buy the sandals instead. So, now I’m angry with Ben because he’s going to play me against his dad. Do you think I’m wrong or being mean for not wanting to buy white sandals for a boy? I suppose Ben’s the one who has to wear them…not me. I don’t think I can do it…sorry son.
Tuesday, February 22, 2011 4:32 PM
My friend and her daughter from MD were in town for a visit over the weekend. We had a nice time catching up on what’s been happening in our lives. We chat on the phone often but that’s not the same as hanging out together. I miss having her here in town. I can’t believe it’s been over 10 years since she moved away. I really need to go visit her sometime this summer. Maybe, I’ll make a girls weekend out of the trip! Although, I think the boys would be disappointed if I went without them. She lives at the beach so I think it would be very selfish if I went to the beach without them. I’ll have to figure out when I’m able to take vacation this year and start planning. We all love the beach and the boardwalk. I can’t wait until summer. I’m really excited just thinking about being on the beach in the sun. Jacob likes playing in the sand while Aaron and Ben love to boogie board. Unfortunately, I have a very small budget for a trip to the beach. So I guess we’ll just have to survive off of PB & J for the week! There are worst things…right?
Friday, February 18, 2011 5:11 PM
I’m a little concerned about Jacob’s hand from the break because it’s still slightly swollen. He goes back to the doctor next week to have it checked out but I was hoping he would be able to play in his last basketball game tomorrow but I’m not sure if he should. The team is going to Dairy Queen after the game tomorrow for ice cream. Jacob is with his dad this weekend so I hope he takes Jacob to get ice cream with his friends. I know Jacob wants play in the game and get ice cream; hopefully it all works out for him. Maybe, if Jacob’s dad doesn’t want to take him to DQ… I can.
Ben hasn’t been working very hard in his Algebra I class. He has turned his work in late several times. So now is grade is a “C” and he’s missing a “B” by .04. Of course, the “C” is not his fault. Ben is an extremely bright boy but he refuses to apply himself. I’m not sure what to do about it. I recently told Ben if his grades didn’t improve, I would not be renewing his X-box live account. I hope the threat of no X-box live will be enough of a push on Ben to improve his grades.
Tuesday, February 15, 2011 5:24 PM
Valentine’s Day can be a terrible holiday for some people. I even know a few people who struggled through the holiday this year. I can completely relate to people who are alone on Valentine’s Day. I guess I should say ‘women’ who find Valentine’s Day to be depressing. This year I tried to find the positive aspects of Valentine’s Day which of course lead me to my boys and particularly Jacob. On Sunday, he wrote out his Valentine’s Day cards for school. He also wrote one out for me, his dad, and brothers. Jacob also attached candy to the cards for each of us. He laid my card in my bedroom and told me not to open it until Monday. So I didn’t touch it. Monday morning…Valentine’s Day…Jacob gave me the card as soon as he woke up. He gave me a big hug, a kiss and said I love you mommy. This was the best present I could ask for… I hope everyone else found joy like I did.
Tuesday, February 8, 2011 5:42 PM
Jacob had his cast removed yesterday. However, his hand is not quite healed so the doctor has him wearing a splint for a few more days. I hope that the splint is enough protection for his hand. Six year old little boys are rough on themselves. Jacob’s not allowed to participate in gym for 1 more week. Hopefully, that will be long enough for his hand to heal completely. I almost wish the doctor put his hand back in the cast so it would be more protected. I suppose it’s only for a few more days but I had to lecture all of the boys about NOT rough housing. I’m sure that went right in one ear and out the other just like everything else does that I tell my kids. I hope Jacob heals ok in the next few weeks because I’d like to take the boys tubing. I’ve never been tubing before and I think it will be lots of fun for all of us.
Friday, February 4, 2011 5:10 PM
Aaron had a terrible cold last week which he was nice enough to share with me. He was ill for several days. I felt horrible for 2 days and actually missed work on Wednesday due to my cold which is rare for me. I’m starting to feel better today so hopefully by the time the weekend is over, I’ll be completely better. I just hope the other 2 boys don’t get this nasty cold. It really knocked me down. With my luck, it will turn into a sinus infection. Aaron and I have been taking Nyquil so we can get a little sleep. I felt like the people Nyquil commercial…the one where the people were passed out on the bed with tissue surrounding them. Nyquil did knock me out for a while but unfortunately, this time my head was so congested that I woke up in the middle of the night and couldn’t get back to sleep. Usually, Nyquil works well for me even though the stuff tastes nasty. Honestly, it was well worth the taste to get some sleep.
Tuesday, February 1, 2011 5:32 PM
The boys and I survived the weekend with a cooler in the kitchen. It wasn’t too bad actually. If you’ve ever been camping…I mean really camping in a tent last weekend was much better. I didn’t even have to buy ice. I just shoveled snow into the cooler to keep our beverages cold. The refrigerator repairman arrived yesterday but he was 2 hours and 10 minutes late yesterday. It took him about 20 minutes to repair the fridge and cost me $131.39. I’m just glad he showed up last night, that he fixed the fridge and I felt the price was reasonable. I think I should have received a phone call from the repairman’s office letting me know that he was running behind and that he had been all day. The man was very nice and new what he was doing but a phone call would have been nice. I do have other things to do such as pick Jacob up from his after school program and cook dinner. Both of which I was able to do but I had to call his office to see if he was still going to come to my house for my repair. I suppose I should be happy and I am.
Friday, January 28, 2011 4:45 PM
Well, I’ve had more bad luck this week. My refrigerator is broken. On Wednesday night at 11:00 PM, I opened it to get something out for dinner the next night. Guess what I found…everything inside was completely thawed out. Do you believe my luck? At 11:00 PM, what are you supposed to do at that time of night when this happens? I wanted to cry but I didn’t. Fortunately for me, my old refrigerator is in the “detached” garage. So, I loaded everything I thought I could salvage in to plastic bags and put it all in the garage refrigerator. What a nightmare! The good news is that I found a repair man who can come out on Monday to fix it….Monday! So, I guess the boys and I will have to survive through the weekend with a cooler in the kitchen. I’m just thankful I kept my very old and dirty refrigerator in the garage for such an emergency.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011 5:06 PM
Ben and Jacob fight all the time. I have been warning them that someone was going to get hurt. Well, it finally happened. Jacob got mad at Ben on Friday night because Ben ate the piece of candy he wanted. Apparently, it was Jacob’s candy and the last piece. I wasn’t there at the time because the boys were at their dad’s house. So, Jacob hauled of and punched Ben in the head. Thankfully, Ben is just fine…hard headed as he is. Jacob however, fractured his hand and is now sporting a cast. Jacob didn’t get his cast until Monday afternoon. Fortunately, for Jacob he will only have to wear the cast for about 2 weeks. Jacob is so proud of his cast and he can’t wait to get everyone to sign it. I’m hoping that will be long enough to teach Jacob that it’s not ok to hit anyone. It’s a hard lesson to learn but a necessary one!
Where is spring?
Thursday, January 20, 2011 4:46 PM
I am soooooo tired of all this snow! I’m ready for spring and spring flowers and I don’t want to wait 2 more months for them to arrive. The boys love the snow and I know I did also when I was a kid. As an adult, it’s very difficult for a working parent to deal with the school closings and delays. At this point, I’m fortunate that Aaron and Ben are old enough to watch Jacob on snow days. When there is a delay, Ben watches Jacob until I come home from work to take them to school. It takes my lunch hour round trip but at least I’m able to get them to school. I wish I had a neighbor who could take the boys to school for me. I only live about 5 minutes from the school but most people work or have their own children to get to school. I’ll need to figure out something for next year because Ben will be in high school with Aaron and I certainly can't leave Jacob home alone.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011 4:38 PM
The boys and I went to the WVU Basketball game over the weekend. We had a really great time. I bought us all a water ice and popcorn. Jacob made such a mess. He spilled the water ice under his chair which proceeded to melt throughout the game. I cleaned it up as best as I could but it’s difficult with those cheap napkins they have. Then, he spilled the last of the popcorn on the floor. It was the first basketball game we’ve went to this season so I wanted to treat the boys to snacks but I felt like it was such a waste of money because the snacks are so expensive at the games. The game was really exciting and Jacob got right into the craziness with the crowd. Aaron and I like to watch the games a lot but Ben isn’t the biggest fan. I basically had to make him go to the game. Once we were there, Ben got into the game (I knew he would). We stayed for the entire game because it was so close and exciting. Once we left, it took us almost an hour to get out of the parking lot after the game. I suppose it was well worth the wait…the game was great!
Friday, January 14, 2011 4:32 PM
Ben asked to go to the Snoop Dogg concert next month without adult supervision with one of his friends. Aaron is going to his first concert in a few weeks without adult supervision. However, Aaron is almost 16 and is not a problem child. Ben on the other hand is almost 14 but he has been getting into some trouble recently. I have been telling Ben for some time now that if he didn’t straighten up and start listening, he would not be allow to do some of the things he would want to do. Well, that time has finally arrived. I explained to Ben that he has been getting in trouble at school for talking and his grades have dropped a little. Ben also gets smart (or mouthy) with me at times. I was very surprised by Ben’s reaction when I told him “No”. He just said, “Ok mom”. Ben didn’t argue with me at all. What a surprise! I also explained to Ben that I knew he really wanted to go and I wanted him to go to the concert but I had thought long and hard about this but had to say, “No”. I really hated being the bad guy in this situation but A little part of me also wanted to say, “I told you this would happen son”.
Friday, January 7, 2011 5:07 PM
Ben had a choice to make regard his health class assignment. Option #1 was to write a 500 word essay on the “Complications of Pregnancy”. Option #2 was to bring home a fake baby for 2 nights. Guess which option Ben chose. He chose the baby. So, for the last 2 nights he had to care for this new born baby boy. The baby cried, needed fed, rocked and diapers changed. I tried to offer assistance to Ben the first evening when he seemed to be struggling but he was grouchy and didn’t want it. So, I told Ben he would have to care for his baby himself! Later that night Ben apologized to me. In the mean time, Jacob was dying to hold and rock this baby but Ben wouldn’t let him because he would be graded for his proper care of the baby and was afraid that Jacob would drop the baby. Finally…Ben gave in and let Jacob rock the baby. OMG…Jacob was so cute. He rocked and kissed the baby. I took a few pictures because it was just so adorable. Ben on the other hand, wouldn’t allow me to get his picture with the baby. This baby even woke Ben up in the middle of the night to be fed and rocked. I didn’t hear the baby cry the first night but did hear it the second night. Needless to say, Ben has been exhausted the last few days. I love it…great birth control!
Time to relax
Monday, January 3, 2011 3:10 PM
I can’t believe the holidays are over. All of the craziness of shopping, working, cleaning and cooking is finished until next year. Last week just flew by for me. I’m really glad it did since the boys were with their dad all week. They came home Saturday afternoon to find that we had no cable or internet all day. Thank goodness for video games and movies to occupy the kids. I was even bored out of my mind so I watched “The Bucket List”. I hadn’t seen it for a while and it’s a good movie so I curled up on the bed and watched it.
I played “Just Dance” for the Wii for the first time over the weekend. It’s really a lot of fun! I played with some friends on New Year Eve…what a blast! So, I decided to buy the game for me and the boys. I wasn’t sure if they would enjoy it but I thought we could try it out. Ben and I tried it out together first. He really got into it with me. Jacob didn’t want to play until he saw how fun it was. Not only is it a fun way to interact with the kids, its great exercise. The game is also challenging on many levels. Ben, Jacob and I all enjoyed the game. Aaron didn’t give the game a chance. He wasn’t interested in the game at all. I’m not giving up on him…I’ll try to get him to do the moves 1 more time.
Tuesday, December 28, 2010 12:33 PM
Aaron and Ben helped play Santa this year for the first time. Not only were they a big help, I also enjoyed having them around. Playing Santa by yourself really sucks! I think Aaron was the one who was the most excited other than Jacob of course. Jacob got a new camera for Christmas from my sister. I let him open it a few days early since he would be leaving to go to his dad’s house in the afternoon on Christmas Day. He drove me crazy with the camera. He was upset because it would only hold 20 pictures. He dropped the camera, the batteries came out and he lost all the pictures. Jacob cried and cried. I told him we’d tape the bottom so it didn’t happen again which helped to settle him down. Then Jacob wanted to set the camera up so he could take pictures of Santa putting the presents under the tree. Thank goodness he forgot all about that by Christmas Eve night. All in all we had a great holiday. I’m sad that the boys will be with their dad all week but next year it’s my turn.
Wednesday, December 22, 2010 4:52 PM
Christmas tree up….√
Christmas presents bought…√
House cleaned…yeah right!
Cookies baked… not yet!
Food for Christmas dinner…haven’t a clue!
Mom loosing her mind…√
I hope everyone has a very Merry Christmas!
Tuesday, December 21, 2010 5:21 PM
I think I’ve finally lost it. Last night Ben told me he wanted to get up at 3:00AM because there was a once in a lifetime opportunity for him. He asked, “Do you know what that is?” I said, “Yes, you want to see the lunar eclipse.” I was right too. Ben decided to set his alarm clock so he could wake up at 3:00AM. I told Ben to wake me up so I could see the eclipse with him. Crazy right? Well, that’s not the worst of it. Ben didn’t wake me up at 3:00AM but I woke up on my own at 3:15AM. I decided to look out the window to see if I could find the moon. No such luck! So, I put my boots and coat on and headed out the door into the front yard. There was still no moon. Really??? I’m outside at 3:20AM in my PJ’s to see the lunar eclipse and all I could see were clouds. I went back inside and went to bed a little disappointed. A half an hour later, Ben woke me up. I quickly explained to Ben that I was already outside and it was to cloudy to see the moon. He went right back to bed. What a night. I hardly slept at all. I did however get to see pictures on the internet of the lunar eclipse. I should have done that in the first place!
Friday, December 17, 2010 4:56 PM
This has been such a hectic week. I’m trying to pull everything together for Christmas. The weather has turned bad and the boys got out of school early yesterday. Aaron spent nearly 2 hours on the bus trying to get home. Finally, the bus stopped at the middle school to get more kids. He called me to ask if I would drive down to the middle school to get him. I did but this was after I already picked Ben up from the middle school and Jacob from the elementary school. The roads were awful and there was unbelievable traffic. I spent 2 ½ hours on the road in the middle of the snow storm yesterday. It was not fun at all. In all of my travels, I only saw 1 snow plow. Where were all of them? Once I finally made it home, my neck was sore and stiff. I hate driving in a snow storm especially when I have the kids with me. I’m just thankful we all made it home safely. Unfortunately, winter is just getting started so there will be several more snowy days. I can’t wait until spring!
Tuesday, December 14, 2010 5:20 PM
I finally have a Christmas tree in the house! Most of the presents are bought but still need to be wrapped. Jacob and I baked cookies on Saturday but they are almost gone at this point. With 3 boys in the house, I’m surprised there are any cookies left at all. I’m actually guilty of eating my fair share as well. I’ll have to bake more cookies before Christmas so Jacob has some to leave for Santa. The boys have begun their count down to Christmas. All of them are excited for Christmas. I hope they like their gifts. This year, there is a “big” family gift not a “big” individual gift. I think Aaron and Ben will be happy with it. I’m not so sure about Jacob but I have bought him a few extras to help out. Jacob and I have been discussing the reason for Christmas. He knows why we celebrate Christmas but it’s really cute to hear him describe it to someone else. Jacob says, “Christmas is Jesus birthday that’s why we get presents”. I know there is so much more he needs to learn and he will...
Running out of time!
Friday, December 10, 2010 5:16 PM
My brother left for Arizona yesterday. I was sad to see him leave. The boys liked having him around the house. Ben’s attitude was even better while mu brother was visiting. I guess you could say he was on his best behavior! Greg has a long trip a head of him I hope he doesn’t have a problem while he’s on the road. Greg is supposed to keep me up to date on his location though out his trip. I’m not sure how long he’ll be in Arizona but if he likes it there Greg is going to buy a house. I guess the boys and I can visit him then but I doubt he stays there…it’s hot.
Is everyone ready for X-mas??? I’m not! I hope to be ready after this weekend but I have lots of work to do to pull that off. Our X-mas tree isn’t even up yet. I have not 1 decoration in the house for X-mas. I did manage to get some wrapping done a few days ago. I have a few more presents to buy and cookies to make. Then, I’ll be ready for X-mas. I better get ready because I’m running out of time…fast!
Friday, December 3, 2010 4:17 PM
I have had a terrible week. My car broke down which is never a good thing especially right at the holidays. I have purchased hundreds of dollars in parts alone in order to repair my car. Fortunately for me, my brother is here visiting and he’s quite a mechanic. Thank goodness. He fixed my car and let me drive his to work while he was repairing mine. I couldn’t imagine having to pay a repair shop and renting a car right now. I was concerned that maybe I destroyed the engine since the water pump was bad but I think its ok. I can’t afford another car at this point so I’m praying my car will last a little longer. What a great brother. I bet it will be a long time before he visits me again. I’m not sure how long he’ll be visiting. I hope he’s stays for a little longer since we haven’t had the opportunity to do anything or go anywhere except Advanced Auto Parts and Wal-mart.
Tuesday, November 30, 2010 5:25 PM
Ben is giving his Algebra I teacher a hard time. He continually talks I her class. I know Ben isn’t the only one in the class that talks a lot however, he can be very disruptive. I’ve spoken with his teacher twice this week. She is extremely understanding and nice about the entire situation. Ben got a zero on his test for talking just prior to Thanksgiving. Ben was not cheating just chatting to his friend after the test. His teacher is willing to give him a 50% on the test instead if Ben will do extra work in her class. I think that’s a fair deal for Ben. However, Ben is still talking. So, I told his teacher to send him to the principal’s office if he doesn’t stop the talking. Ben needs to learn that there are rules which he needs to be following. If Ben is sent to the office he will not be allowed to go on the reward trip which is ice skating. Ben has been looking forward to going ice skating for a few months. Hopefully, the threat of not getting to go ice skating will make Ben stop the chatting during his math class. I am at a loss on how to discipline him. Any suggestions???
Monday, November 22, 2010 4:50 PM
It hasn’t gotten any easier over the last few days. This will be the 1st year ever in which I haven’t spent Thanksgiving with my boys. The entire situation is very depressing. Aaron and Ben seem fine with the fact that they will be with their dad because he’s going to take them hunting at some point. However, Jacob is a little upset that he won’t be going with me to visit our family. When I was wrapping Xmas presents the other night, Jacob realized he wouldn’t be going with me to take the presents. His eyes welled up and Jacob looked so sad. Jacob told me he wants to go for a visit at Xmas since he can’t go for Thanksgiving this year. I had to tell him that isn’t possible either because they go with their dad at 2:00 PM on Xmas day. It broke my heart to see Jacob like this. I promised him we would go for a visit soon.
Yesterday, I cooked Thanksgiving dinner for me and the boys. It was nice but lots of work. I roasted a turkey (of course) because we all love turkey. Surprisingly, Ben was the child who was really into out little Thanksgiving Feast. The other 2 boys we happy about it but Ben went on and on about how mom cooked in the kitchen all day for us. It was definitely nice to feel appreciated for something…finally!
Friday, November 19, 2010 4:25 PM
Ben has been so tired from wrestling practice. He doesn’t get home until nearly 9:00 PM every night. Then, he gets a shower, a snack and goes to bed. He’s also a little grouchy. On the flipside, I believe Ben’s extremely happy to be wrestling and I’m just as happy for him. I hope this will give him a reason to feel good about himself. I don’t have a schedule yet so I hope his meets are at a reasonable time. Jay has been a terrific help with practices. He will be out of town the week after Thanksgiving so I’m not sure if Ben will be able to get to practice everyday. I’ll have to try to work something out…
I’ve been a little depressed lately because the boys will be with there dad most of the week for Thanksgiving. This is one part about being divorced that really sucks. I hate giving up the boys on the holidays. Their dad and I had agreed to share the boys on the holidays which I think is normal. The judge decided himself how we should share the holidays. The 2 specific holidays I’m complaining about is Thanksgiving and Christmas. The boys go with their day from Tuesday-Sunday for Thanksgiving instead of 2:00 PM Thanksgiving Day as WE stated and then next year I would get the boys at 2:00 PM. There is a similar situation at Christmas, actually worse. I really hate the arrangement the judge made for us. My X and I don’t get along well enough to make any changes to our divorce decree ourselves. I don’t have the money to go back to court. So, what can I do? Grin and bare it I suppose!
Tuesday, November 16, 2010 5:08 PM
Ben talked to his friend about having his dad take him to wrestling practice. As I was afraid of, his dad, Jay, is going to help coach the wrestling team. Jay will still take Stephen and he will bring him home every night but 2]. I was hoping to be able to help with the transportation. I really feel bad that Jay will doing all the driving but I am very happy that Stephen gets to wrestle. However, there is a chance that practice will be moved to a closer school which will be better for everyone. I hope someday I get to repay people in my life who have helped me over the years with the boys…
I had to take Jacob to the doctor’s office last night after work. Jacob has bronchitis not a sinus infection like I thought. Jacob barely had a cough at all. What made me concerned was Jacob told me his chest hurt when he was running during his basketball game. He’s on an antibiotic now for 5 days. I have to drop the Rx off at his dad’s house tonight and hope he remembers to give it to him. Then I have to get the Rx back from him on Thursday. I just hope his dad remembers to give Jacob his medicine. The doctor said Jacob should be able to play basketball on Saturday. I’m sure glad I listened to Jacob’s very minor compliant and took him to the doctors because he could have gotten much worse over the next few days. Sometimes it’s hard to pay attention to everything your child complains about. This one was important one.
Friday, November 12, 2010 5:06 PM
Aaron and I have been lucky this week because we both managed to escape the stomach virus that was going around my house. Thank goodness. We also survived our crazy week of band, tests and dentist appointment. Well, I suppose I was just the taxi driver but it sure feels as if I did more than just drive Aaron all round town this week. So…TGIF!!!
Ben is really upset about wrestling this year. The middle school team has a new coach because their old coach is now coaching the high school team. So, the new coach is now having middle school practice at the high school. The team will practice every night at 6:00 PM. The bad news is that I don’t get home from work and picking up Jacob until 5:45 PM. It takes me 25 minutes to get back over to the high school which is close to my work. There is just no way for me to get Ben to the high school every night for wrestling practice. Ben was looking forward to wrestling and now he’s crushed. Ben understands why he can’t wrestle this year but he’s still angry. Actually, so am I but what can I do??? I’m going to have to call a few parents who live near me to see if they can take Ben with them to practice but I’m not sure I’m comfortable with asking them to take Ben on a daily basis. I’ll need to think about this over the weekend. I really want Ben to wrestle…he needs to wrestle.
It's starting already
Tuesday, November 9, 2010 4:52 PM
Saturday was Jacob’s first basketball game and they lost but they all looked so cute. On Sunday, Jacob was sick with a fever and stomachache. He missed his basketball game that day. I knew Jacob wasn’t feeling well when took a nap at noon on Sunday. He wouldn’t eat or drink anything until later that afternoon. Jacob’s fever broke that night so I sent him to school yesterday. I felt like a horrible mother doing so but it’s an extremely busy time of month at work and I really needed to be at work. I honestly think Jacob was fine or I would have stayed home with him regardless.
So this morning at 5:00 AM, Ben woke me up to tell me he had a bad stomachache. A few minutes later, I dragged myself out of bed and down the hall to find Ben in the living room watching TV. He told me he felt as if he was going to be sick. So, I told Ben to go sit in the bathroom and then I felt his forehead to see if he had a fever and he didn’t. I gave him a Pepto bismol to chew and I returned to bed. Not long later, Ben started getting sick. I felt so bad for him. He stayed home from school today but I hope he’s able to return tomorrow. I guess Aaron and me next on the list to get sick. I sure hope that’s not the case, he and I have way too many things to do this week. Aaron has a Veteran’s Day Parade and the band is going to the playoff game this weekend. Plus Aaron has a few tests at school this week. Maybe he and I will get lucky this one time!
Friday, November 5, 2010 4:44 PM
Aaron got is first report card for this school year on Monday. He actually got his first “C” ever in his honors algebra II class. I can’t believe he’s in 10th grade and has never ever had a “C”. I’m just a little disappointed but not in him rather for him. Aaron works so hard to do well in school and he is obviously very smart. His GPA is a 3.8 with this “C”. I’ve considered moving him out of the honors class but after speaking with the guidance councilor, I’ve decided to send Aaron to tutoring 1 day a week after school instead of taking him out of the honors class. Aaron wants to go to engineering school so I think he needs to learn how to get help of he finds school work difficult. I was also concerned about the Promise Scholarship for Aaron. However, I was informed of the current requirements and feel comfortable with Aaron’s grades at this point so I’m not going to push for any changes at this time. I sure hope this is the right decision.
Friday, October 29, 2010 4:42 PM
Jacob is so funny without even trying sometimes. The other morning, I was getting ready for work and Jacob was in the hallway trying to moon walk. He said, “Mommy, watch me moon walk”. I watched just like I did the last time he tried to moon walk. A few minutes later, Jacob asks, “Is it called the moon walk because Neil Armstrong walked on the moon?” Ben was in my room lying on the bed and we both busted out laughing. I explained to Jacob who Neil Armstrong is and what he did. I also explained to Jacob that Michael Jackson created the moon walk. Jacob’s response was, “Oh”. Ben and I jiggled again. It’s so funny how kids try to figure out all of these things.
Aaron still hasn’t been able to get much practice driving. It’s been even more difficult to take him driving because it’s getting dark earlier. I still need to make a schedule like I’ve been thinking about. Maybe I’ll have the opportunity to do that this weekend. I suppose the worst case scenario is that Aaron will have to wait a few extra months to get his driving license next year. I hope not but the longer he has to wait, the less my car insurance will be. Aaron will need to get a part-time job next summer so he can help pay for the insurance. I have no idea how I’m going to make that work…I’ll have to worry about that next summer.
Friday, October 22, 2010 4:48 PM
Last night was parent/teacher conferences at Ben’s middle school. The conferences were more like an open house. We followed Ben’s school schedule and meet with a few teachers. This began at 4:00PM and went on until 7:00 PM. Unfortunately, Ben and I weren’t able to get there until 6:30 PM so we were unable to meet all of his teachers due to lack of time. Ben’s teachers didn’t really surprise me with what they had to say about Ben. They said, “He is a very smart boy but he likes to talk and be out of his seat. Ben disrupts class at times and worries about what his friends think of him.” All of his teaches said the same thing, “If Ben would apply himself just a little he would go far.” Ben is an A/B student now but he could have all A’s. What’s funny about that is I just told Ben the same exact thing 2 weeks ago when he got his report card. Ben is satisfied not striving to do his best in school; doing well is good enough for him. Last night may have been a turning point for Ben. He heard lots of feed back from his teachers which reinforced what I’ve been telling him. After we left the school, Ben and I discussed the positive and negative points that were pointed out to us. Ben agreed to try harder in school and to apply himself to his school work. I really hope Ben will apply himself now so he will be in a routine for high school next year. I’ve determined there is power in numbers and that I will take Ben to every parent/teacher conference from now on if that what he needs to gain the confidence in himself in order for him to taking school seriously.
Tuesday, October 19, 2010 1:34 PM
I need to find a way to relax in the morning and not flip out as I’m trying to get Ben and Jacob out the door for school and work. I suppose I stress out because we can never be on time in the mornings. I end up yelling at one or both of the boys then I feel terrible especially if they are going to their dad’s that night. I don’t really know what to do. Sometimes I feel like I’m drowning with the 2 of them. If they’re not fight over something really dumb than I’m yelling at one of them. Maybe they just need to go to bed earlier so they can get up earlier then we won’t be as rushed in the morning. I don’t know…but this is definitely a problem for me. I feel as if I have become this temporary crazy person in the mornings. It’s not fun at all and I dread every morning. I seem to be in a rut and I’m not sure what else to do to get out of it but I need to figure something out before my kids really hate me.
Friday, October 15, 2010 5:03 PM
Ben doesn’t seem to understand what a parent’s responsibilities are. He thinks he should get to do what he wants. He actually asked me why I get to make all of the decisions about his life. After arguing, I tried to explain to Ben that I love him and it’s my job as his parent to know what is best for him and protect him. He wanted to spend the night at a friend’s house last night and I wouldn’t allow him. I have never met this friend or his parents plus we had plans to go to the WVU game. I explained to Ben that last night wasn’t a good night for him to go to his friend’s house. Ben wasn’t satisfied with that as an answer. Ben was really upset with me and called his dad to complain about me. Of course, this frustrated me. Ben ended up going to the game kicking and screaming…well not literally. We all had fun at the football game. I bought the all of the boys’ candy as bribery. Before Ben went to bed, I hugged and kissed him. Then I explained to Ben that this was family night out for us and sometimes we need to do things we don’t want to do. As a family we need to try to have fun when we can together even though it might not be exactly what we want to do that night. We had a good chat and I think I may have gotten through to him…I hope.
Not the parent
Tuesday, October 12, 2010 4:54 PM
Lately, I’ve been feeling like a referee again between Ben and Jacob. I told them that’s what I was going to be for Halloween…a referee! They laughed at me but I was completely serious. What I’ve realized about the situation between Ben, Jacob and I is that I don’t have control over them. Both of them do not want to listen to me and they both think they can do what they want. I have also noticed that Ben tries to “parent” Jacob even when I’m correcting Jacob and playing parent myself. This has become a major issue with Ben. I know Ben is trying to be helpful and doesn’t want Jacob to do something he shouldn’t BUT this has started to create a conflict for all of us. Last night, I explained to Ben why he needed to stop trying to correct Jacob all the time. I told Ben, “I am the parent and Jacob needs to learn to listen to me first. I know you care about Jacob but if he is doing something wrong, you need to get me.” I also told Ben, he needs to grow up and stop acting like a 6 year old. He’ll be in high school next year and it’ll be very difficult if he doesn’t act his age. I’m not sure if our talk was a success or if I was too rough on Ben.
Friday, October 8, 2010 4:36 PM
This week has been better as far as Jacob and me getting along. I haven’t yelled at him so much and Jacob seems to be responding in a positive way. Don’t get me wrong when he’s tired, he is much more difficult to reason with. I have put him in the corner and sent Jacob to his room a few times in the last week which he doesn’t like it at all. I think remaining calm and being consistent with Jacob will result in even more improvement in his behavior.
Aaron hasn’t had anymore driving lessons this week because he’s been busy with band and homework. He has had a lot of homework lately but Aaron doesn’t complain. He just does it. I think he’ll be able to practice driving on Sunday. We should also have more time next week since band practice will be only 1 day a week (finally!!!). I really hope Aaron can get several hours of driving in before winter hits because I won’t let him practice in the snow and ice if he doesn’t. Actually, I probably won’t let him anyway…
Ben has been trying to play with Jacob without fighting lately but he still has a short temper. I believe Ben has good intentions when it comes to Jacob, he just has difficulty expressing his anger and/or frustration without being to harsh. I’m trying extremely hard to work on this issue with Ben. Hopefully, I’ll have success with Ben but I’m not sure how to help him control his temper. Maybe controlling mine is the first step.
Friday, October 1, 2010 12:17 PM
Well, it’s finally happened. Aaron has his driving permit. I took him to the DMV the other day after school and he passed his written test. Do you think this is why I’ve had a headache the rest of this week? When we were all finished at the DMV, we got into my car (I was driving) to leave. The car parked in front of me was leaving so I decided to wait for the car to back out of the spot so I could pull though the spot as opposed to backing out. After the car left the spot, I proceeded to pull through the parking spot. Then, there was a big thud. I had just run over the concrete barrier. There was a man walking across the parking who started laughing at me. I was so embarrassed. But I couldn’t help laughing at myself. Aaron told me to pay attention. I was but I was also in a hurry. In my defense, the barriers are a concrete color so they don’t stand out and very few places in town have these barriers in their parking lot. I told Aaron that this was driving lesson #1 of what not to do in the car….take note!
Wednesday, September 29, 2010 11:53 AM
We had a busy day on Saturday. Aaron had a band competition and he had to be at the school at 1:30 in the afternoon. The band didn’t return until 11:05 PM. After I dropped Aaron off at the school, Ben, Jacob and I ran a few errands which included going to Target. Jacob got his Halloween costume at Target. Guess what he’s going to be??? A transformer…Optimus Prime…big surprise. I am happy to have found a costume that he loves and it wasn’t expensive. I guess if you don’t wait until the last the minute you have a better chance of finding what you want at a good price. When we finally got home, Jacob wore the costume around the house for the rest of the day. He looked so cute and was extremely happy. Jacob is at such a great age for Halloween. I can’t wait to take him trick or treating this year. I wish Ben would go trick or treating with us but he thinks he’s too old for that. Maybe he is too big…but I don’t think he is.
Friday, September 24, 2010 4:24 PM
I spent 1 & ½ hours last night pretending to be an Algebra teacher to Ben last night. Thank goodness I was always good in math when I was I school. Ben is extremely bright when it comes to doing mental math but when he has to write the steps out to show you how he got the answer…forget it! So, it took me at least ½ an hour to review the lesson so I could begin to work the problems. I was relieved to find the answers to the odd numbered problem in the back of the book. It took me a few tries to be able to get the correct answer on the 1st problem. Once I felt confident regarding my math capabilities, I tried to explain it to Ben. What a challenge! If you have ever tried to teacher (school work) your kids…you know how well this actually went. Ben, as most kids, believes his mother doesn’t know anything especially about math, science and girls. After yelling and threatening Ben, he finally settled down and listened to what I was explaining to him. I ended up helping him with most of the homework problems (11 total). Hopefully, Ben was able to grasp what I was trying to teach him last night. If not, it’s going to be a very long school year.
Friday, September 17, 2010 4:41 PM
Ben got his new Halo game for the X-box 360 this week. He absolutely loves it. I find it amazing how many 13 year olds get these new $60.00 games when they first come out. Ben did buy the game with is own money but when I was his age I didn’t new games every month or 2. I have been limiting Ben’s time on the X-box since school started which he complains about. Big surprise…right? He is allowed 2 hours a night. I think that is long enough. Aaron doesn’t have the opportunity to play the X-box as often as Ben. So, if he hasn’t played for a few days, I will give him a little extra time on the X-box. I was surprised that Ben allowed Aaron to play is new Halo game on the 1st night he got it. However, there was 1 rule. Aaron was not allowed to pass the last level Ben had completed in the game. Aaron was upset about that rule but I explained to him that he wouldn’t like it if Ben went farther in his new game then he did. So, as far as I know…Aaron did as Ben instructed. All Jacob has done the last few days is cry and whine because he isn’t allowed to play Halo. Sometimes, I wish the boys had never got the X-box 360…
Tuesday, September 14, 2010 4:49 PM
It was challenging…but I did it. I pulled Jacob’s tooth on Sunday night. He had all weekend to work on getting the tooth out but didn’t really work at it. Jacob kept saying he wanted dad to pull his tooth out and honestly so did I. Jacob’s tooth was so loose I was afraid he was going to swallow it in his sleep which happened to Aaron when he was Jacob’s age. I gave Jacob until 8:00 o’clock on Sunday to get the tooth out or I was going to do it. Well, 8:00 o’clock came and went. I enlisted the assistance of Ben to help me. What an ordeal! Jacob cried, whined and fought me for about 15 minutes. Ben tried to hold down Ben’s arms so He wouldn’t pull my hand away. I felt so bad as if I was torturing Jacob. At one point, Jacob said, “Wait a minute, I need to breath.” I hugged him and tried to convince Jacob that everything would be ok. He calmed down slightly. So, I tried again. This time Jacob’s head went back and Ben had his arms so I was able to put my fingers in his mouth and 1 pull and the tooth was out. What a relief! Jacob was suddenly calm and excited. He put his tooth under his pillow so the tooth fairy would bring him money. Thank goodness that ordeal is over.
Friday, September 10, 2010 4:40 PM
Aaron has a cold which I think maybe turning into a sinus infection because he has a terrible cough. Aaron has a band competition tomorrow so I hope he doesn’t get any worse. I gave him a half of dose of Nyquil last night so he could sleep which pretty much knocked him out. Maybe by Sunday he’ll be feeling much better. I hope no one else (such as me) catches his cold.
Jacob is ready to loose his other front tooth. He looks completely adorable. His tooth is so loose; I’ll be surprised if he makes it through the day before it falls out. Actually, I hope it does fall out because I get a little nauseous over the whole ordeal. I’ve been lucky so far because the other 3 teeth he’s lost have not been at my house. Actually, I would like to play the tooth fairy for Jacob. So, I guess if he still has his tooth tonight, I’ll have to work on getting it out by Sunday night.
Ben thinks he should be able to do his homework during his 1st period class instead of bringing it home the night before. That’s not really a good habit to get into. However, I’m not quit sure how to make him bring home his homework. I guess I wouldn’t mind if Ben was finishing the work the day it was assigned at school but he’s waiting until the next morning to complete it. Once his grades come out I think I’ll have more of an argument with him about this issue. Hopefully, his grades will still be good.
Wednesday, September 8, 2010 5:02 PM
I have decided that expecting Jacob to get 5 stars in a week is expecting too much. He has been off all summer running wild and crazy. Now, I want him to sit at a desk all day, be quite and be on task. I must be insane...he's only 6 years old. So, I have decided Jacob needs to get 3 stars a week for now. My hope is that I will gradually be able to increase his star count to 4 a week. I feel that is very reasonable decision.
Ben seems to be getting back to normal since he lost his friend. The teachers have been playing a big roll in obtaining normalcy in the school. Ben still doesn't want to talk about his feelings or concerns about the loss. I think he is handling it in his own way. I know what it’s like to experience loss at such a young age. So, I've given him time and space to figure out his feelings. I hope that was the right choice.
As usual, Aaron is keeping me busy with band. He has his first competition this weekend. I am concerned about his grades already this year. Actually, I’m mostly concerned with his Honors Algebra II class. He had a test which should have been just a review and he didn’t do all that well on it. He passed but that’s not saying a lot. Aaron assures me he will be able to do better. I hope he’s right because he needs to get a scholarship to go to college…
Tuesday, August 31, 2010 5:08 PM
As a parent it is difficult to watch your child grieving. Ben lost a friend last week to an unfortunate accident. He is having a little trouble dealing with the loss of his friend. A perfectly healthy 13 year old boy was killed in an ATV accident. Ben will barely talk to me about the situation. He answers my questions with some attitude which has been normal for him lately. From what I can tell of the situation, the kids seem to be using each other to get through the emotional part of the loss. There have been several councilors at the school the last few days. I have encouraged Ben to talk to one of them but I don’t think he will. Hopefully, after the memorial services the kids can start to get back on track with school. Even though it will be difficult, the kids need to move forward. I’m not sure what I can do to help Ben through this difficult process. I will continue to try to talk to Ben about his what he is feeling and hopefully that will be enough.
1st Football game
Friday, August 27, 2010 4:58 PM
It’s finally Friday and it’s a beautiful day outside. The 1st high school football game is tonight. I’m taking Ben and Jacob to watch the game tonight. I hope Jacob has some sort of interest in the game this year. I can’t wait to see Aaron out on the field with his drum. He and the rest of the kids have worked hard all summer so I hope their performance is wonderful.
I made arrangements for Aaron to go home with a friend after school today so he didn’t have to wait at the high school all afternoon. If he had went home on the bus today, I wouldn’t have been able to get him back to the high school by 5:45 PM for pre-game practice. I really didn’t want him to hang out in the band room all afternoon. The band director isn’t there at that time. That just creates too much temptation for a teenager. I do trust Aaron but why should I put him in a situation where he has to make a choice if I can help it??? Thankfully, he has some really nice friends.
Saturday, August 21, 2010 10:56 PM
I can’t believe how fast my vacation has went this week. I only have 1 more day to relax before returning to work. Didn’t accomplish nearly as much around the house as I would have liked. Oh well, it dirt isn’t going anywhere. I did manage to get the boys all ready to start school on Monday. They have new shoes, backpacks and some new cloths. Hopefully, I didn’t forget anything. I’m sure once the boys start school there will be a list of supplies I need to purchase for them.
I’m actually glad I was on vacation this week. Aaron received his class schedule on Thursday but he wasn’t placed in honors Algebra II. as he should have been. I had to send an email to the assistant principal who forwarded my email to the advisor in order to correct the error. I haven’t heard back from the advisor yet. I hope it’s not an issue for Aaron because the other students in that class received a work packet over the summer. I love how the school drops the ball on important issues such as class schedules. I had to sign a waver for him to take the honors class in the first place. As far as I’m concerned, his schedule should have been right in the first place.
Ben also had an error with his class schedule. He had Spanish last year in 7th grade. He needs Spanish this year in order for the classes to count as Spanish I for high school. This way, next year he can start out in Spanish II in high school. I had to write a note for the principal so Ben can give it to him on the first day of school. Again, hopefully this error can be corrected.
Finally, I had to meet with a committee at the elementary school on Friday to request a change in teacher for Jacob. I say a committee because it was me along with 5 other women from the school. I almost felt like I was in a court room telling my side of the story. I had to give reasons why I wanted a different teacher. There were plenty. I was extremely nice and professional and I wasn‘t even nervous. The meeting lasted about 20 minutes. I did accomplish my goal, Jacob has a different teacher. I hope and pray he has a great year.
Wednesday, August 18, 2010 11:40 AM
So far, my vacation hasn't been as relaxing as I had hoped. I've been running Aaron around all week for band and various other events. If he weren't such a good kid, he wouldn't be allowed to do half of the things he does. In addition to band, he wants to play basketball this year (if he makes the team). This means more running around for me. I really enjoy watching him play basketball, it is my favorite sport. I'll somehow figure out a way for him to play basketball if that's what he really wants.
Jacob has been driving me crazy this week. I bought him 2 Transformers for his so called good behavior while Ben watched him last week. Now, Jacob has a list of Transformers he wants me to buy for him. He has been pestering me everyday. I finally told Jacob I'm not buying him anymore toys right now and if he doesn't stop bugging me, I'll start taking away the Transformers he does have. Aren't six year olds fun???
Ben has had the X-box controller stuck to his hand all week, no wait all summer. I have tried to get him interested in something, anything...unsuccessfully. I think Ben's goal this summer was to become a couch potato which he has completely accomplished. He has gained a few pounds which has made it difficult to buy school pants for him because he is in between boys and men sizes. Hopefully, he'll get just a little taller over the next few months which will help me greatly in the pants department.
Wednesday, August 11, 2010 12:50 PM
So far, Ben and Jacob have survived being home together without supervision. I think they will be able to survive the rest of the week together. They have had a few arguments or incidences when Jacob hasn’t wanted to listen to Ben but no major problems have occurred. Ben has had to put Jacob in timeout a few times but for the most part Jacob has been listening. I actually think it’s funny to hear Ben talk about putting Jacob in the corner for a timeout. I guess he’s learned that from me. The two of them have played the X-box and watched TV most of the time. I hate that they have been spending a lot of time inside and haven’t got to enjoy the outdoors. That is going to change next week when I’m on vacation. We will be in town most of the week so hopefully we’ll get to go swimming and go to the park.
Friday, August 6, 2010 4:59 PM
This week has gone relatively smooth with Missy and Ben baby sitting Jacob. I think Missy has
enjoyed playing with Jacob all week. I know Jacob has loved playing with her. Last night, Jacob made a card for Missy to thank her for watching him. Don’t get me wrong, he didn’t spend a lot of time on the card but it was a nice thought.
I hope this morning went ok for Ben with Jacob. Jacob was up and out of bed at 7:00 AM today. Ben likes to stay up late every night. I have been trying to convenience Ben to go to bed slightly earlier because Jacob might wake up early one morning. Of course, Ben doesn’t listen to me. So, I had to wake Ben up before I left the house this morning at 7:30 AM. He was a little difficult to get out of bed. When Ben finally got up he asked me, “When Missy comes over at 10:00 AM can I take a nap”? I said, “You sure can”. I don’t think Ben will ever take a nap today because he’ll be too busy playing the X-box. Next week, my plan is to bribe Jacob with a new Transformer if he is good for Ben all week. Jacob really wants the Transformer Frenzy so I think the bribe will work…
Wednesday, August 4, 2010 5:13 PM
Aaron is at band camp this week which has brought new challenges for me. Jacob’s summer program is over and I have had my neighbor watching Jacob some of the week. The other part of the week Ben is watching Jacob which is a concern. They fight a lot about the X-box or the TV. Fortunately, I have been able to split the day between Ben and my neighbor based on her schedule. Also, Ben is there to help Missy when it’s her shift. I am concerned that there will be a big fight one afternoon. I rented Avatar for them yesterday afternoon because Missy had to leave early. Neither one of them had seen it nor is Avatar a long movie so I felt it would occupy them for a while. My plan worked and they didn’t fight at all. Sometimes…I’m so smart. Now, I just have to figure out a plan for Ben and Jacob for next week. I’m sure I’ll think of something.
A little chat!
Friday, July 30, 2010 4:50 PM
Aaron and I had to have a little chat the other day. Lately, every time I call him or send him a text I never get an answer or a response. It was really starting to get annoying. Then, one afternoon he left the house to go to a friend’s house so they could play basketball. He didn’t let me know he was going. I realize he is 15 now and wants some independence but that’s not how we do things in my house. I want to be able to trust him and give Aaron some freedom but he has to communicate with me first. He was a little upset by our discussion. I told Aaron he was being very inconsiderate of me. Since I paid for his cell phone, I expected him to answer me when I called or texted him or I would take his phone. I explained to Aaron that I needed to be able to trust him if he wants to get his license. At first, Aaron didn’t want to hear what I was trying to tell him. I wasn’t yelling at him but my voice was a little loud (there is a difference). The next day when I picked Aaron up from band practice on my lunch, he surprised me. Aaron said, “Mom, I’ve been thinking about what you said yesterday and I will try to be more considerate of you. I will turn the volume up on my phone and I will call you before I go play basketball.” I was shocked…he was actually listening to me or maybe it was the thought of loosing his cell phone. Either way…I was glad Aaron was going to try harder. I am proud to call him my son.
I need a break...
Tuesday, July 27, 2010 5:37 PM
Aaron’s band practice is starting to get to me. I’m tired of spending my lunch hour picking him up and taking him home. I wish he was able to find a ride to my office because that would save me ½ hour. I usually use my lunch to running errands. Such as: going to the bank, post office or the store. Next week I will get somewhat of a break because he will be at band camp all day. Aaron won’t get home until after 9:00 PM so he will be exhausted. I hope there’s not a heat wave next week. Those poor kids will pass out from the heat if the temperature is in the 90’s like last week.
Jacob continues to get sunburn on his shoulders from being at the pool in the afternoons. I have been reminding him to apply sunscreen every morning before I drop him off. Jacob insists he is having a teacher help him with the sunscreen. I just think it needs applied a few more times throughout the day. Soon he will look like a lobster.
Ben has become a couch potato this summer. He sleeps until noon everyday. I have to call him more than once everyday to wake him up. All Ben does all day is play the X-box and watch TV. The only exercise he has been getting is mowing the lawn once a week. He does a few household chores for me but that’s not enough. I can tell he has put on a few pounds this summer. Now he doesn’t want to play football this year. I’m not sure what I’m going to do with him.
Friday, July 23, 2010 4:56 PM
Jacob’s summer program is having a Parent’s Day celebration. I’m not sure what the children will be performing for us but I believe they will be singing for us. Last night, Jacob was comparing “Parent’s Day” to other holidays such as: Valentine’s Day, Memorial Day and Veteran’s Day. I attempted to explain to him the difference to him but didn’t push the issue. It was getting late so Jacob went to sleep and slept well. When I woke him up this morning Jacob was absolutely adorable. The first words he said were, “Happy Parent’s Day”. I was very touched by his kindness and innocence. I gave him a big hug and thanked him. I didn’t have the heart to tell Jacob there was no such holiday. Jacob then proceeded to put Aaron on the spot by asking him what today was. Aaron told Jacob it was Friday. Jacob said, “It’s Parent’s Day…dumbo”. Aaron was a little confused and tried to tell Jacob there is no such day. Apparently, the two of them had a small disagreement which was just dropped. Now, I’m anxious to see the performance for “Parent’s Day”. I’m sure it will be wonderful.
I hated to say "No"
Tuesday, July 20, 2010 5:36 PM
I don’t think I’m going to survive raising my boys. Letting go or cutting those so called apron strings is more difficult than I realized. I don’t have a husband to lean on or bounce questions of off. I’ve always made most of the day to day decisions about everything anyway but sometimes it would be nice to say, “Go ask your dad”.
Aaron was invited to go on his friend’s boat yesterday afternoon. The boy is 18 years old and of course it was his parent’s boat. I don’t know Aaron’s friend at all. No parents were going to be on the boat just a few of Aaron’s friends so I told Aaron he couldn’t go. He didn’t beg me to go but he wanted to know why he wasn’t allowed to go on the boat. I explained to him I didn’t feel it was safe to let him go without adult supervision. Aaron did try to convince me to let him go. He said, “John knows how to drive the boat. He drives it a lot.” I explained to Aaron that I would never be able to for give myself if something happened to him. Aaron’s friends are a few years older than him which is another reason I didn’t feel comfortable to let him go on the boat. I hated to say, “No” but I felt it was the right decision. Hopefully, one day Aaron will understand my reasoning.
Friday, July 16, 2010 4:25 PM
At what point do you let your child go? That is…cut the apron strings. I’m not sure but it’s extremely difficult. I realize now as an adult the reasoning behind most parenting decisions. As a child, I often said, “It’s not fair”. “It” was what my friends were doing and I wasn’t allowed to do. I think that “letting go” is mostly a gradual process. Sometimes it feels more like leaps and bounds. Yesterday, I went to the high school on my lunch to pick Aaron up from band practice. When he came to the car, Aaron asked, “Mom, can I go out to eat with my friends? They will bring me home.” My heart immediately sank. I asked Aaron where they were going. He, of course, had no idea. I told him he could go but was extremely leery about my decision. I worried about him until I knew he was home safe. Am I over reacting or do all parents have that sick feeling when their child goes out with friends who can drive? I don’t like letting my child go even though I know his is growing up fast. I have no choice…
Wednesday, July 14, 2010 12:33 PM
Jacob still has a bruise on his eye from swimming into the step at the pool last week. He must have really hit the step hard. My poor boy! At least his eye doesn’t hurt anymore. Everyday I continue to give Jacob a lecture about the pool. He’s starting to get tired of hearing the same speech each morning. Today he said, “Mom, I know, I know. You don’t have to tell me to be careful at the pool.” I guess I’ve been a little obsessive regarding safety pool. I just worry about him.
Ben has been extremely helpful lately. When he returned home from his dad’s on Sunday he was exhausted from working at his Pap’s cabin. Ben was so tired he wanted to take a nap which never happened. Ben informed me he was to tired to cut any grass that night. Even though the grass needed mowed, I didn’t push the issue. I thought we could take care of the yard the next day. Ben then spent the next hour or so cleaning off the side porch. There were leaves and small branches, etc. on the porch. He even got out the shop vac to assist in the cleaning. I was completely surprised with his cleaning efforts. I’m not sure what has gotten into Ben but I really like it.
Aaron is a great child but at times I feel he is lazy. Compared to Ben, Aaron doesn’t like to put forth much extra effort. He will usually do what I ask him to do with only a little complaining. Aaron will not usually go the extra step to do anything else. I shouldn’t complain about Aaron but at times I get frustrated with him. It’s been really difficult to get him to and from band practice the last few weeks. His dad hasn’t been helping out as much as he should be which has made the running here and there more difficult. I hope Aaron appreciates everything I do for him. He really is a wonderful young man.
Saturday, July 10, 2010 11:31 PM
Tired does not even begin to describe how I have felt all week. I haven't been able to sleep at all. I don't know why I stress about my life...maybe it's because I'm always busy. Also, some how I manage to catch a cold. Thanks to Airborne my cold wasn't that severe.
Some how I managed to accomplish everything I needed to for work by the Friday noon deadline. I did work late one night and Aaron was a big help to me on Thursday. I have been picking Aaron up from band practice on my lunch everyday and talking him home. On Thursday, he had to come back to my office so I put him to work. He whined a little then did what I asked him to do. I gave Aaron some ice cream we had in the freezer which made him happy. I told Aaron he should come to work with me once a week to help me and I would by him ice cream for his payment. He didn't seem to go for my suggestion but I thought it was a great idea.
After work, I pick Jacob up at the pool which is where he goes for his summer program. I'm not real happy with the arrangement so far but I'm not sure what I can do about it at this point. This week Jacob had a bruised eye and a hurt neck. He was there four days and got hurt twice. I'm not sure I like those odds. Jacob said no one jumped on him or hurt him. I told Jacob he needs to settle down and take more breaks from the pool. I must be crazy to think a 6 year old would listen to that advise. However, it did make me fell a little better to give the advise.
Ben has been home by himself every morning this week. He has been sleeping until noon. I've had to call him everyday to wake him up. Ben has gotten a little agitated with me for waking him but I felt he needed to be some what productive. He has done a few household chores for me everyday then he spends the rest of the day playing the X-box or playing on the computer. I guess I'm just a little jealous because I no longer get an entire summer for vacation. Welcome to adulthood!
Back to work
Monday, July 5, 2010 6:11 PM
Today is the last day of my vacation. I feel very relaxed and not stressed at all. I know that is going to change fast. Not just because I'm going back to work but because Aaron starts band practice tomorrow which continues for the rest of the summer. His dad will be taking him to practice at 9:00 AM and I will pick Aaron up and take him home on my lunch. I will also be dragging Jacob out of bed early to go to his daily summer program. Ben is the only one who will be able to sleep in. He's the lucky one. I guess I shouldn't complain yet because I'll just get stressed out. Remember...I'm relaxed.
I have cleaned most of the house while I've been home. The laundry is washed and put away. The grass has been cut with joint effort. I have our cloths ready for tomorrow. Let see...is there anything else I need to do to be ready for tomorrow. Uhmmm...oh yes, I need to pack my lunch since I'll be picking Aaron up at the high school. I'm sure I'm forgetting something. I need to cook dinner before the boys raid the snack cabinet. I guess I'm ready...let's hope.
Saturday, July 3, 2010 10:42 PM
We made it to the beach! The boys and I had so much fun. The weather was perfect with the sun shining and a nice breeze. Unfortunately, the ocean was ice cold. I only got my feet wet and no more. Jacob didn't seem to mind the cold water. He loved running into the ocean but only went in knee deep. Aaron and Ben attempted to buggy board but that didn't last long due to the ice cold water. My sister and her 3 kids came to the beach with us. Aaron passed the football with his cousin while Ben buried Jacob in the sand. Jacob looked so adorable because he was buried up to his neck in the sand. The highlight of the afternoon was seeing dolphins swim near the shore. We all enjoyed watching them them from the distance.
After we left the beach, we walked on the boardwalk and ate pizza for dinner. Then, the boys and I had water ice as a treat but it wasn't that good. I guess I picked the wrong place to buy it. I love walking on the boardwalk and going into the shops. The boys aren't thrilled with the shops unless they find something they want to buy. All in all it was a great day! It didn't matter that the ocean was cold I just love being at the beach. I think all of us would go to the beach anytime.
Monday, June 28, 2010 10:03 PM
We are having a great time on our vacation. We're all exhausted from visiting family. They have been feeding us very well. I think I've gained 10 pounds already. The boys and I went to my nephew's graduation party which of course had plenty of food and cake. All of the kids played volley ball and went swimming. It was a tiring day. We haven't made it to the beach yet because it been too hot. I know it's difficult to believe it's to hot to go to the beach but when it's 95 degrees the sand feels like it's 200 degrees. Hopefully, this heat wave will break in a day or 2 so we can go to the beach and boardwalk. My niece has an awesome pool at her house. We had a small party at her house to try to escape the heat. It was wonderful so wonderful that I think I'd rather be at her house than at the beach. Well...maybe not, I really love the beach I just hate having sand everywhere. Jacob really wants to go to the beach. That's all he has been talking about. I hope he's not disappointed.
Monday, June 21, 2010 4:38 PM
I decided to call the principle of Jacob’s school to discuss the concerns I have with his soon to be 1st grade teacher. I also wanted to know if Jacob could be moved to a different classroom. The principle is an extremely nice lady. I have known her for several years because she was Aaron and Ben’s school principle as well. Rarely have I complained to her regarding any issues the boys have had at school. Actually, I believe I have only made 2 previous complaints to her over the years. My point is she should take my concerns seriously.
The principle informed me since the children have already been assigned to their teacher for the next school year that she couldn’t just move him. I have to meet with her and all of the 1st grade teachers to discuss what is best for Jacob. This meeting won’t take place until the week before school starts. Did I mention the teacher I don’t want Jacob to have will be in the meeting. I don’t have a problem with the teacher on a personal level. I just don’t want her to be Jacob’s teacher because of the issues I had with Aaron when he was in 1st grade. I decided to go ahead with the meeting. I hope this was the right decision. Hopefully, there won’t be any backlash towards Jacob because of this meeting.
What do I do???
Friday, June 18, 2010 4:13 PM
I think you can see the difference in behavior between boys and girls. Now, I don’t have any girls but I have nieces and I am a girl or woman so I feel that I am qualified to make the following observations:
My point to this is I believe there are major differences between boys and girls just like there are difference between men and women.
When Aaron was in 1st grade he had a difficult time sitting still and paying attention in class. This caused him to constantly getting in trouble with his teacher. This behavior resulted in Aaron getting his folder marked nearly everyday. His dad and I went in for a meeting with the teacher. I explained to her that he was a bright child. The teacher wanted us to look into ADHD. During the meeting I express to the teacher that I didn’t believe that was the issue. However, I did follow up with Aaron’s pediatrician. The doctor asked how I felt regarding Aaron’s behavior. My response was I felt Aaron was fine. The doctor agreed with me. I never told the teacher about this discussion. Aaron grades were great and still are. He has always been very smart. As parents, we became really strict with him. Aaron was continually getting punished at home. It got so bad that Aaron would cry as soon as I picked him up at the end of the day because his folder had been marked. Also, Ben started asking Aaron if he got his folder marked. When that happened, I decided to not discipline Aaron for his folder any more unless there was a serious offense. We finally made it through the school year but it was difficult.
Ben thankfully managed to have a different teacher for 1st grade. If you can believe it, we had no problems with Ben. Unfortunately, Jacob was assigned to the same teacher Aaron had for 1st grade. Jacob is a lot like Aaron. I’m not sure what I should do. Should I call and speak to the principal? Should I just let it go and hope for the best? I’m not sure what to do…but I know I don’t want a repeat of Aaron’s 1st grade.
Tuesday, June 15, 2010 5:09 PM
I had a realization yesterday. First of all, it was my 40th birthday. It has been really difficult for me to accept the fact that I’m forty. I think I’ve been struggling due to my situation. Divorced with 3 boys, a house to maintain and a full time job are all tiring. I know I am extremely fortunate for everything I have including the house which frustrates me at times. My boys are healthy, smart and funny which I am completely grateful for. However, it’s not always easy for me to see my fortune. I guess I get caught up in the trials and tribulation of my life which makes it difficult to see how lucky I really am. As I lay in bed last night, I realized my mother was forty when I was born. She was actually closer to 41 years old. I know it had to be nearly overwhelming her to have a new born at the age of forty. She had already given birth to 5 other children and was in the process of raising 4 other of my dad’s children. My parents didn’t have much money and they had a lot of children to care for. This made me realize that we all have struggles and challenges in our lives. These struggles and challenges are what make us who we are. I know I need to look forward instead of backwards. I can’t change the past but I have a future to live.
Friday, June 11, 2010 4:51 PM
I picked Aaron up from his first band practice on Wednesday evening to find out there is another band expense. Apparently, the director bought new drums and stands for the band and has decided the band needs 2 new sets of mallets for each drum. He (the band director) is going to purchase these mallets with his credit card because he can obtain a quantity discount. We (the parents) need to reimburse him for this purchase on 7/6 which is the next practice. I believe these mallets are $30.00 a set. I am upset about this purchase and the way he has decided to go about it. I feel the band director should have sent me an email or letter prior to spending my money. How would he like it if I submitted a reimbursement for mileage for taking Aaron to band practice? I know that sounds really ridiculous but I am bothered that I am just expected to pay this fee because my son plays the drums. I feel the band director should ask me or give me the chance to have an opinion on how to spend my money. I am not his student!
Tuesday, June 8, 2010 5:30 PM
I felt as if I were living in a zoo last night. I was extremely upset because Ben and Jacob were fighting again. The two of them just can’t get along. I got upset with both of them for different reasons. I have been having a difficult time with Ben because he has “anger issues” as I call it. When Ben gets mad, he reacts before he thinks things through. Ben needs to start thinking and learn to calm down before he explodes. His explosions really worry me. I am considering sending Ben to see a councilor. I’m not sure how I can work counseling sessions for Ben into my schedule and budget but I might not have a choice. I was upset with Jacob because he doesn’t like to listen. Jacob is beginning to think he can do what he wants or at least as much as his brothers can do. I tried to explain to Jacob that he is much younger than Aaron and Ben therefore he can’t do the same things as them. Do you know how difficult it is to try to rationalize with a 6 year old? Let me tell you…it’s almost impossible. Jacob listened intently to my reasoning but I had the feeling it went in one ear and out the other. I guess that’s a normal response for kids.
Friday, June 4, 2010 4:47 PM
Jacob was so cute yesterday. He graduated from kindergarten. All of the children were absolutely adorable. They wore blue caps with a gold tassel and sang a few songs to the parents. The teachers made a poster with all of the kids hand prints on it. They all received their diploma and a special bag the teacher with a booklet for them to practice over the summer. I took lots of pictures of Jacob. I can’t believe he’s finished with kindergarten and how fast the time has gone by. I barely managed to not cry at the graduation. After the ceremony, the school provided snacks for the children and their parents. The next graduation will be Aaron’s from high school in 3 more years. Wow…I’m really starting to feel old. My 40th birthday is next week and I’m not happy about it. The thought of Aaron graduating certainly didn’t make me feel any better. I’ll just try to put that thought out of my mind for the weekend so I can enjoy it. Wish me luck!
Tuesday, June 1, 2010 5:43 PM
I had a really great weekend visiting my family. However, the trip was very tiring and I’m still exhausted. My sisters and I shopped and shopped. I found some great deals for me and the boys. We also took a trip to the casino. I haven’t been there in several years. It was a blast and I only lost $30.00. That wasn’t bad for hours on the slot machines. I think I’ll go back again next time I visit my family. It was nice to spend time with my sisters without constantly getting interrupted by one of the kids. It was actually a little strange to visit my family without my boys because I always take them with me. We are all going in for a visit next month but I missed having them with me. I guess I need to get out of town more often with out them. I need to learn to enjoy the time I have by myself without feeling guilty. I know they had a great weekend with their dad. He took them to their Pap’s cabin and to the lake to go swimming. So…they probably didn’t miss me at all. Well, I know that Jacob missed me. He likes to snuggle with me when he misses me. It is nice to be home.
Thursday, May 27, 2010 4:38 PM
I had to chase the bus down the road again the other day. Well, this time I actually just followed it to the next bus stop so Aaron could get on it. However, the next stop is 5 to 6 minutes away. It was still better than driving Aaron to school and him being late. I had to lecture Aaron about getting up on time in the morning. He can get ready for school very quickly but he doesn’t allow himself the time he needs. At least he is quick at getting ready. Ben, on the other hand, is super slow in the mornings. Ben sleeps through his alarm clock everyday. I have to go shut it off for him. I need to light a fire under him so he will get ready for school. They are so different but they are both frustrating at times.
I’m headed east for the weekend. I can’t wait to go shopping with my sisters on Saturday. I hope I don’t spend too much money but I can usually find great deals. My niece is having a barbecue on Sunday. It will be nice to see everyone. I hope the weather is nice because she an awesome pool with a slide. I wish the boys were going with me because they would have a blast at her house. We’ll be going in for a visit next month so hopefully the boys will get to use her pool and slide then.
Tuesday, May 25, 2010 5:21 PM
Ben drove me crazy all weekend. He was bored on Saturday because it was raining and he had nothing to do. Ben was still punished and wasn’t allowed to play the x-box at all. I told Ben to go clean his bedroom…ha-ha! Well, that didn’t happen. I felt as if I was the one being punished no tortured because I punished him! Aaron had a friend over Saturday afternoon and they played the x-box the entire time. I wouldn’t let the other boys go down stairs while Aaron’s friend was at the house. I felt Aaron deserved some privacy because he doesn’t get it often. That made Jacob upset because he likes to be right in the middle of the excitement. So, I had to listen to him whine and complain for 3 hours. I don’t know why I torture myself so much. I almost wish I had never bought the x-box.
Friday, May 21, 2010 4:44 PM
Ben’s month long punishment is finally over and he got his iPod back from his dad. However, it was short lived. I had to take everything (iPod, cell phone and Xbox) away from him last night. Ben gets really rough with Jacob sometimes. He will grab Jacob’s arm and try to drag him up the stairs for example because Jacob is trying to sneak a peek of the rated “M” video game Ben is playing. Jacob is only 6 years old. Ben is now 13 and he is very strong. I have yelled and threaten to punish Ben several times in the past. Well, last night was the night I finally kept my word. He has lost everything for a week. Ben didn’t argue with me at all and he did apologize to Jacob but I’m very unhappy about the situation. I worry about Ben and his temper. I sure hope he learned his lesson regarding the roughness, playing with matches and lying about it. I think he has a very strong personality and has anger issues. I also believe the divorce has affected him in a very negative way. Ben has trouble seeing the positive things in his life. However, there are many times when Ben shows me his softer side. I just wish it was more often.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010 5:03 PM
I don’t what the problem is but I can’t sleep again. I go through stages when I can’t sleep at all. Right now, I toss and turn all night long. Let me say that I am completely exhausted. Maybe stress is the reason I can’t sleep. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed with my life. The house, kids, yard and work all seem too much for 1 person. Work actually is a nice break for me. That’s pathetic…isn’t it?
I’ve decided to take a break and go visit my sisters over Memorial Day weekend. The boys are with their dad that weekend so I can make the trip much quicker without them. I really wish I could take them with me. However, we are all going next month when I’m on vacation but Jacob is disappointed he won’t get to see his cousins. He really loves to go in for a visit. It will be nice to actually sit and converse with my sisters and not have to play referee with the boys for once. The more I think about it, the more excited I’m getting about my solo trip. Maybe, this is exactly what I need in order to relax.
Friday, May 14, 2010 3:38 PM
I am completely broke now after paying Aaron band fees. Also, I still have to finish paying for band camp. The school doesn’t realize the burden they pass along to a single mother with the fees associated with school activities. I guess I’ll have to skip a week of grocery shopping make that 2 to be able to cover the cost of these band fees. The other option for me is not to let Aaron participate in any school activities. I wouldn’t do that…but I’d like to. I am exaggerating a little bit but it is difficult to part with my money especially since I feel the school should cover these costs.
The boys go to their dad’s house this weekend. Even though the boys make me want to pull my hair out sometimes, I wish they were with me all the time. I really miss them when they’re not home. This is the part of the divorce that sucks! I don’t see it getting any better either. I love my children and my job as their mother is to take care of them. I love spending time with each of them. I do try to use my time with them wisely but it’s difficult because there is always so much work to do. I guess I need to take time to smell the roses…
Tuesday, May 11, 2010 1:04 PM
I had a great Mother’s Day. We didn’t really have a traditional celebration. Being together is what’s important. I let the kids sleep in late then I cooked breakfast. I thought about going out for breakfast but decided I’d rather stay home in my PJ’s than waiting an hour to get a table at a restaurant. We all went to see Ironman II on Sunday afternoon. The movie was great! All of us really liked it. Jacob kept saying that it was the best movie he ever saw. He doesn’t remember going to see the first Ironman mainly because he went to sleep. Jacob thought Ironman II was even better than Transformers II. Aaron gave Ironman II 2 thumbs up! I can’t decide if I like the first or second movie better. Ben liked Ironman better than Ironman II. Either way, Ironman II is definitely worth going to see.
Happy Mother's Day!
Friday, May 7, 2010 5:07 PM
I decided to let Aaron go to the track meet. I think he would have been mad at me if I hadn’t let him go. The bus didn’t return to the school until 12:40 AM. I was exhausted driving across town to the school at that hour. It took me 50 minutes round trip to get back home. Of course, I couldn’t fall right a sleep either. I’m guessing it was about 2:00 AM before I went to sleep. Since it was so late, I let Aaron stay home from school today. However, I decide to give him a list of chores to do around the house. I am worn out but at least tomorrow is Saturday and my house will be semi clean.
I would like to take the boys to a movie this weekend. We haven’t been to one for a while. Aaron and Ben want to see Ironman II but I’m not sure if that’s what we’ll see. Also, since Sunday is Mother’s Day I think we’ll go to breakfast. I know Aaron will want to go to iHop. If I can talk Ben into iHop then that’s what we’ll do for breakfast.
Happy Mother’s Day!
Should I or shouldn't I
Tuesday, May 4, 2010 5:32 PM
Track is also most over. This is the last week with 1 more meet left for Aaron. Unfortunately, it’s out of town and he won’t be back until after midnight. I’m seriously considering not letting him go because he has school the next day and I have to get up for work. He is a great young man and does fantastic in school so I feel as if I should let him participate. He wants to miss school the next day but I feel he needs to drag himself to school… if necessary. If Aaron wants to run track then he needs to suck it up and go to school even if he’s exhausted especially since its Friday. School sporting events should not interfere with school. My rule is that school comes first. I believe the kids shouldn’t be allowed to get home so late on a school night from a school event. I’ll probably decide to let Aaron go to the meet and pay for it the next day. So, Aaron and I will look like zombies on Friday. Well, I know I will anyway. We’ll see what happens…
Friday, April 30, 2010 4:03 PM
I had a very small party for Jacob last weekend. He is six years old. My baby is six…I can’t believe how fast the time went. I offered to have a party for him and invite his friends from school but he said, “No, I don’t want my friends to come”. I was completely shocked. Jacob told me he wanted just his brothers to come to his birthday party and not his friends. I asked Jacob if he was sure. He said, “Yes”. He also told me he wanted my sisters and their kids to come to the party. I told Jacob they all live to far away to come to his party. I wish we lived closer to my family so we could get together for birthdays and holidays. I guess I have to live with the decisions I’ve made. So that’s what we did, had a party with the four of us. A woman I work with made Jacob a cookie cake like he wanted. So, we had cookie cake with ice cream. Then Jacob opened his presents and played with his brothers. I felt so bad but that’s what he wanted and Jacob had a great time. In the end that’s all that really matters.
Thursday, April 22, 2010 4:40 PM
Well, I broke my almost new lawn mower. I ran into the drainage pipe in the back yard. It was difficult to see and I hit it hard. I am so upset about the fact that I broke the mower. I have to be mad at myself and can’t even blame the boys. If I don’t replace it soon, I’ll have a jungle in the back yard. I’m having a difficult time finding a mower I want (well…I don’t really want one) for the price I’m willing to pay. Push mowers are extremely heavy especially the self-propelled mowers. I have a fairly steep hill in the back yard and it makes it difficult to mow. The self-propelled mowers are still the better option. So, I’m on the search again for a new mower. I want something light weight but not too expensive since mowers seem to be disposable for me. I’ve looked online a little but I believe the best way to purchase a mower is in the store. So, that’s my plan for Saturday…shop for a new mower. I can’t wait!
Tuesday, April 20, 2010 5:40 PM
I knew Ben was lying to me about the matches but I needed reinforcements to catch him.
So, I spoke to Ben’s dad about the matches I found in his backpack. Ben’s dad questioned him about the situation which ultimately led to the truth. Supposedly, the boys had the matches to light a candle. I’m not sure if I even believe that one. The end result was that Ben lost his IPod for 1 month. I explained to Ben that he could have gotten suspended from school for having the matches or he could have accidentally caused a fire. I hope he listens to my concerns. I’m not at all happy about any of this. I don’t think Ben will be going to his friend’s house anymore. However, this is the first time in a long time my x-husband and I actually worked together to resolve an issue with the kids. I’m sure there will be many more issues but hopefully not for a while.
Friday, April 16, 2010 5:27 PM
I am really concerned about Ben. I found a pack of matches in his backpack. Ben had already gone to bed. I was searching for a pencil for Aaron. Not just any pencil a lead pencil for Aaron. He needed one for school and apparently we were out. So, as I looked in Ben’s backpack, there they were. I was shocked to find matches. Then I became angry and finally concerned. It played on my mind all night. I wanted to go wake Ben up, yell at him and demand to know what he was doing with a pack of matches. However, I didn’t give into my anger. I waited until the next morning before I approached Ben. I thought having the element of surprise on my side would be beneficially. I called Ben into the kitchen, held up the pack of matches and asked, “Where did you get these?” His eye got really big. Then, Ben told me that when he was at his friend’s house last week they found the matches in the woods. He also said, “We didn’t do anything with them mom”. I tried to stay calm and explained to Ben that the matches are extremely dangerous (he does know this) and he had no reason to have them or to take them to school. Ben was surprised I found the matches but he acted like he wasn’t hiding them also. I’m not sure if he found them in the woods or not but I’m sure glad that I found them in his backpack.
Tuesday, April 13, 2010 5:48 PM
My ex-husband’s uncle passed away last week. He was really a nice man. I didn’t know him extremely well but he was always nice to me and the boys. The memorial service was on Sunday and it was my weekend to have the boys. Ben expressed to me that he would like to attend the memorial service. I asked Aaron if he would like to attend and he also wanted to go. As much as I wanted to go, I didn’t want to go. I hadn’t seen my ex-mother-in-law in almost a year. I have spoken to her on the phone but I would be surrounded with all of my ex’s family. I was also hoping my ex-husband wasn’t there. The thought of the crowd made me a little nervous. I finally decided on Sunday to attend the service with the boys.
My plan was to arrive at 4:00 PM which was the beginning of the service so we could leave quickly. It took about 45 minutes to get the funeral home. We didn’t actually arrive until 4:45 PM. There were already a lot of people at the service. Everyone was really nice to me and the boys but I still felt awkward. We really weren’t there long but 35 minutes seem like forever. My ex wasn’t there so that was a relief. I am glad I went with the boys. I’m sure there will be many more events in the future that I will need to attend so I better get used to it.
Friday, April 9, 2010 4:40 PM
Aaron didn’t arrive back at the school until 11:20 PM from his track meet on Tuesday night. By the time he got to his dad’s house it was 11:45 PM. He catches the bus to school at 6:25 AM. He was completely exhausted the next day and had to run again at track practice. Aaron was so tired by Thursday he overslept and missed the bus. I think it is absurd for the kids to get home so late on a school night. The schools need to start the track meets earlier so the kids can get home at a decent hour. There are laws regarding the hours children are allowed to work especially during school. So why aren’t their rules regarding the time kids are allowed to return from school events on school nights? I think it’s crazy. Not only are the kids out late so are some of the teachers because they are the coaches. The parents also have to pick their child up at the high school and most parents need to get up for work the next day. What in the world is the county administration thinking…oh wait, there’re not!
A wonderful Easter
Tuesday, April 6, 2010 5:04 PM
It took a lot of effort but I did it. We made it to church on Easter Sunday. Aaron and Ben didn’t mind going but they didn’t like the fact that I made them wear a tie. They complained that no one else was wearing a tie. I was surprised that very few men were wearing a tie on Easter. I explained to Aaron and Ben that I wanted them to look nice and they were wearing the tie for me. They still complained but they kept them on. Jacob looked so adorable in his suit. He complained a little but managed to wear it all morning.
After church we had an egg hunt in the front yard. Even Aaron and Ben participated in the hunt. I thought Aaron or Ben would think they we to big for an Easter egg hunt and ruin it for Jacob. I was happy they joined in the fun. Jacob was thrilled to find the egg with the money in it. After that, we ate lunch. I had baked a turkey while we were at church that morning. Ben doesn’t like ham but we all love turkey so that’s what I made. By 1:30, I had made blueberry muffins, ironed our clothes for church, went to church had an egg hunt and made and ate our meal. It was a very productive morning. I wish I could accomplish that much everyday!
Friday, April 2, 2010 1:24 PM
The weather is absolutely beautiful outside. We have all moved into our new office building and we have windows! The boys and I are going to go for a walk/jog again this evening. We went to the middle school track last night. It was nice for all of us to get out and enjoy the sunshine. The boys have been home all week on spring break. Since I have to work, Aaron and Ben have been sitting Jacob. All they have done this past week is play the x-box 360. I feel terrible that I’m not able to take time off work this week so the boys and I had more time together...
I stopped going to church a few years ago when my x-husband and I separated. It was just too difficult at that time with 3 young boys. Lately, I have wanted to start attending church again. It seems as though I keep putting it off for some reason. I am going to try extremely hard to attend church on Easter. I believe the boys need religion in their life now and in the future. We are going to try a new church. I have heard the pastor speak before and I really like him. I hope it goes well.
Tuesday, March 30, 2010 4:59 PM
Friday evening was crazy. I picked Ben up from his friend’s house around 8:00 PM. Prior to this, I had gone to the grocery store. When went got home, we started to unload the car. Ben disappeared into his bedroom. Next thing I know, he ran into the kitchen yelling, “Help me, I need help! I cut my finger on my pocket knife”. I said, “Are you ok?” Blood was dripping everywhere. I had Ben put his finger under cold water, then wrap it in a paper towel and apply pressure. I finished unloading the car. By that time, 5 or 10 minutes had passed. Ben’s finger was still gushing with blood. So, I drove to him to Med Express which is approximately 10 minutes away. When we arrived the bleeding had stopped but I took Ben in anyway. They were closing soon so we didn’t have to wait long to be seen. All the nurse did for Ben was have him clean his finger. All the doctor did was put a butterfly stitch and a band aide on his finger. That was it and we were done. I felt extremely silly but I let the doctor know that the cut was deep. Since Ben’s finger stopped bleeding he didn’t want to stitch it. The doctor said it would take 7-10 days for the cut to heal. I told Ben that was the most money I have ever paid for a band aide. He needs to be more careful. However, I confiscated the pocket knife so we won’t have a repeat of that night.
No sleeping in for me.
Friday, March 26, 2010 4:55 PM
I have to get Aaron to the high school at 6:20 Saturday morning so he can catch the bus to his track meet. It doesn’t start until 10:00 AM so he has quit a long bus ride but I guess he’s use to that. I’m just upset about getting up so early on a Saturday morning. I have no idea what time I’ll have to pick him up. Hopefully, it’s before the WVU basketball game. I don’t want to miss a minute of the game. The good part is I can listen to Tony Caridi in the car on the way to pick up Aaron form the HS. I am going to be completely exhausted on Saturday since I’ll be up so early. I think I’ll leave Ben and Jacob a sleeping in the morning. Ben is 13 years old now and I think he can watch Jacob for an hour…especially since Jacob will be sleeping. The only other choice I have is to wake Jacob up and take him with us. Jacob doesn’t get up that early during the week for school. So, I’ll let Ben and Jacob sleep and I’m positive they will still be sleeping when I get home.
Let’s Go Mountaineers!!!
Tuesday, March 23, 2010 5:07 PM
I have a small fortune invested in Aaron’s track apparel. I bought him a track suit, running spikes and 1 pair of compression shorts. My total expenses so far are over $150.00. I don’t remember having that kind of expense when I was in high school. I know it’s been several years since then but I feel that is a bit extreme for a 2 month track season. Especially, since the track coach had the boys try on the women’s track suits in error and now all of the track suits that were purchased are too big for the boys. The school did provide the boys with their team uniforms and they are providing transportation to the track meets. I guess it could be worse.
Ben and Jacob have been getting along a little better lately. I think since Ben has been walking to the elementary school after track practice it has helped their relationship. Jacob has continued to read his books to Ben in the afternoon. Jacob is starting to read very well. He is also learning to add and seems very excited about it. Ben, on the other hand, tries to take all the short cuts he can with his school projects. Ben has been able to get way with this in middle school but I believe he is in for a big surprise when he gets to high school. We’ll have to wait and see!
Spring is here.
Friday, March 19, 2010 5:05 PM
It is so beautiful outside. Spring has finally arrived! I wish I had the boys this weekend so we could get out and enjoy the weather. Unfortunately, the boys go with their dad this weekend. Initially, it was difficult for me to get use to not having the boys all the time. I have adjusted some what to the change but it is still difficult for me at times. I hope the boys get to go to their grandpa’s cabin this weekend. They can go fishing and ride the four-wheeler there. It will be the perfect weekend for it.
I’m planning on doing a little yard work this weekend. There are lots of sticks and a little garbage in the yard which needs to be cleaned up. I might also attempt to clean the garage, it is a disaster. I just want to spend all day out in the sun on Saturday. Hopefully, the flowers will start to bloom soon. That is my favorite part of spring. I can’t wait!
Tuesday, March 16, 2010 5:23 PM
I’ve had a very stressful few days. It’s not easy being divorced with 3 children. I really feel bad for the boys. I know they love both me and their dad…as they should. I just wish their dad didn’t continuously try to put the boys in the middle of our disagreements. Doesn’t he realize that he is making the boy’s situation more difficult then it needs to be? I wish I didn’t have to have any communication with him at all but unfortunately I will have to deal with the X for several years. I’m not trying to bash my x-husband but if the shoe fits! Is there any hope that Aaron, Ben and Jacob won’t be like their dad? I am extremely happy that I made the decision to get divorced. Hopefully, that choice will help the boys see the best in both of us.
Friday, March 12, 2010 4:57 PM
Jacob is finally backed to normal after his stomach virus. It took him several days to recover from his ordeal. He is eating well and playing fine. As a matter of fact, he hasn’t even been getting in trouble at school all week. He had a lot of makeup work from school and I was surprised because he only missed 1 day. He was a trooper though. Jacob didn’t complain once about having to do the work. He just wanted to go play the x-box and knew I wouldn’t let him until he finished all of his school work. Good boy!
Ben’s attitude has been much better recently. He has started running track this week. Ben’s practice is over at 4:30 PM so he has to wait on me to pick him up after I get off work. Since the elementary school is not far he has starting walking there to wait on me. Jacob stays at the elementary school for the after school program everyday. When I arrived to pick them up, Jacob was reading his homework to Ben. It was so nice to see Ben helping Jacob without WWIII going on. What a relief!
Aaron and I have figured out the bus schedule, at least until I move to my new office across town. He has ridden the bus 4 days now and it’s working out great for us. Sometimes trial and error is needed to be successful. Having Aaron ride the bus has been a huge help to me. Maybe instead of getting his driver’s license, Aaron can just ride the bus around town. I don’t think I’ll be able to convince him to do that. There are a few other kids from the high school who ride the bus so maybe I’m not the worst mother in the world after all.
Lost on the bus
Tuesday, March 9, 2010 5:15 PM
I am the worst mother in the world. My poor son, I hope he doesn’t hate me. I have been trying to figure out how I’m going to pick up all 3 boys in the evening now that track has started. My brilliant idea was to have Aaron ride public transportation to my office. It’s not far, maybe 20 minutes on the bus. Well, the first day we were attempting to do this was the day Jacob was sick so I wasn’t at work. So my plan changed quickly. I told Aaron I would pick him up at the depot. Well, in my mind the depot was at a different location then where the bus dropped Aaron off. It really wasn’t a big deal but Aaron didn’t call me he got on another bus instead to try to get to my location. Before I figured out what was going on, I was a mess! I lost my son! Too make a very long story short…Aaron spent 11/2 hours on the bus and I had to pick him up at Wal-mart across town. It all worked out and was a learning experience for both of us. However, I still feel like a terrible mother. Fortunately, Aaron wasn't angry with me.
My sick baby
Saturday, March 6, 2010 1:06 PM
I woke up the other morning to Jacob vomiting in my bed. What an awful way to wake up. I felt so bad for him because he got sick every 11/2 to 2 hours all night. My little baby was terribly sick with a stomach virus. By the morning, we were both exhausted. It was really a bad day for me to miss work. It was my busiest day of the week for me but I had no choice but to stay home with Jacob. He needed his mommy and I wanted to be there to care for him. I just hope I don’t get the stomach virus from Jacob. I have an extremely busy week at work next week and can’t afford to miss another day.
The next day, I had no choice but to send Jacob to school. He hadn’t vomited for 24 hours and didn’t have a fever. I had to go to work on Friday. I felt like the worst mother in the world. He’s only five and is still my baby. I know he didn’t feel well that morning because he hardly ate any breakfast. I wish I could have stayed home with him 1 more day but unfortunately I couldn’t. He survived the day and now has the weekend to rest up. Hopefully, he’ll be back to his ornery self in no time.
Tuesday, March 2, 2010 5:41 PM
The boys and I had an extremely busy day. We had a great time at the WVU basketball game on Saturday. We had to arrive early to find a place to park and it started to snow during the walk back to the car after the game but it was well worth the effort. It was a much needed win for the Mountaineers. The boys had ices and soft pretzels during the game. However, it was a long afternoon.
After the game, we went to Sam’s Club and Game Stop. I just recently received my membership to Sam’s Club so I was excited to go shopping there. I bought Ben’s birthday cake there and it was delicious. I also purchased a rotisserie chicken for dinner. The boys love rotisserie chicken. I was just happy that I didn’t have to cook dinner after a long day.
Next, we went to Game Stop. I hate that store. Ben had several games to trade in at the store for credit. I felt like I was being ripped when Ben traded in a game and the store gave him $2.00 for a $60.00 game I bought new 2 months ago. Well, that’s a little exaggeration. It just seems like such a waste of time and money when we go there. I will however continue to shop at Game Stop because all of the boys love that store and I think it would be more torturous to not take the kids there. So, I limit my trips to Game Stop and I’ve had my full for a looong time!
Finally, we went home for the night. It was an exhausting day.
Thursday, February 25, 2010 5:03 PM
I can’t believe we’re getting more snow. My kids are extremely excited about the possibility of no school. They’ve had enough snow days for this year and the next several years. Apparently, I haven’t had them shoveling enough snow. They will be with me this weekend, so they will be shoveling lots of snow.
We are planning on attending the WVU basketball game on Saturday. We can’t wait for the game. Hopefully, WVU will win…wait of course they’re going to win. It’s going to be exciting but WVU really needs a win. Aaron and Ben are thrilled about going to the game but Jacob is more excited about the snacks he gets at the game. Jacob will cheer for WVU but is still learning the rules of the game. I hope the snow we’re getting this weekend doesn’t interfere with our plans. I hope the storm will have passed by game day.
Tuesday, February 23, 2010 5:04 PM
Aaron and Ben both want to run track again this year. I really want Aaron to tryout for track but I’m not so sure about Ben. Last year, he hardly participated in any events. I think he was unsure of himself and didn’t want to fail or be made fun of. What he hasn’t learned yet is that no one likes or wants to fail or fall short. I just can’t see letting Ben run track to not run track when I have to jump through hoops to pick him up from practice and to make it to Ben’s meets. Both Aaron and Ben need a physical in the next week or so. Hopefully, I can find a place to get them in on short notice. Since the weather has been severe and the boys didn’t have school for nearly 2 weeks, I’d think the coaches will be a little flexible on the allotted time for the physical forms to be completed. I don’t even have the form. I told Aaron he might have to ride the city bus home a few days a week if he runs track especially if Ben runs track as well. I’m just concerned because my office will be relocating in about a week and I’m not sure what I will be able to manage. I will be dealing with a lot more traffic on my commute to and from work. I guess it will all work out. Hopefully…
Friday, February 19, 2010 4:12 PM
I stopped by the DVM yesterday to pickup a driving instruction manual for Aaron. He will be 15 next month and would like to start studying for his permit test. I think I’ve repeated that sentence in my head 1000 times!!! He’s studying for what? I can’t believe Aaron is almost old enough to drive. I like to believe that he’s a responsible young man but driving, I’m not sure. Hopefully, when the day arrives and Aaron actually takes the car out for the first time by himself, I don’t follow him down the road. However, there is a good chance I will follow him. I’ve considered not allowing Aaron to drive yet but it’s difficult to make your child wait longer then the required age to their driver’s license. I remember how excited I was to get my drivers license. Were I grew up, I had to be 17 to drive. I wish that’s how the law was in WV. Not only am I worried about his safety; I’m worried for the safety of everyone else. I need to check into a driver’s education class for him. That is probably the best plan for Aaron and I will save a little on my car insurance…I hope.
No more snow!!!
Tuesday, February 9, 2010 4:43 PM
I am sooo tired of the snow. I shoveled and shoveled this past weekend. I even had to shovel a path in the snow for my dog. Of course, the boys have been with their dad every time we’ve had a large amount of snow this winter. They could really be a big help to me shoveling the snow. Also, we have a great sled riding hill in the back yard that is just waiting on them. They haven’t got to go sledding all winter. I don’t allow them to go sledding when I’m not home because there is no one around if they get hurt. Aaron and Ben are also Jacob’s babysitters. I know if they start sledding, Aaron and Ben would forget about Jacob and he would get hurt. Jacob hasn’t had the opportunity to build a snowman either. I hoping the boys will be able to play in the snow this weekend. According to the weather forecast, I believe they will have lots of time to play in the snow. As for me, I can’t wait until spring.
Saturday, February 6, 2010 10:14 PM
I have been really busy planning for this huge snow storm. So I haven’t had the opportunity to discuss the WVU game. It was a great basketball game. The boys and I had a great time. It’s a shame that the students got out of control. I’m just glad that WVU won. I had a difficult time at first explaining to Jacob not to repeat all the bad words he would hear. Jacob asked me, "Why would a mountaineer fan use bad words?" I tried to explain to him that it was a way of expressing their anger. I think he understood what I was telling him. So when we got to the game he was trying to figure out the chanting. He came up with USA, USA, USA...so that’s what we went with for the entire night. It was so adorable and Jacob felt like he was part of the crowd. It all worked out for us and we had a fun night!
Let's Go Mountaineers!
Wednesday, February 3, 2010 4:57 PM
The boys and I are looking forward to the WVU game tonight. I hope they beat Pitt!!! This is going to be such an exciting game. I hope Jacob can make it to the end of the game. Let's Gooooo Mountaineers!!!
Tuesday, February 2, 2010 5:13 PM
Even though it was a quick we trip to Buckhannon last weekend we had a nice time. Ben did extremely well on Friday night. He had 4 matches between Friday night and Saturday morning and won 2 of them. I was enormously proud of Ben. So now, I have learned a few things about wrestling. I’m still not a big fan of wrestling but I do appreciate it much more. The kids really work hard and it’s physically demanding. There was a boy who had to be taken out on a stretcher due to a neck injury that occurred during his match. I don’t know who the boy was but I hope he is ok. This is one of the reasons that I’m not a big fan of wrestling. I am very thankful that Ben wasn’t the one on the stretcher.
The weather was good on the way down to Buckhannon but on the way back it was horrible. It was snowing and the roads were icy. I just took my time driving home but it was a little disconcerting when I saw several trucks and SUV’s wrecked on the side of the road. I tried to remain focused on the road and I drove slowly. It helped that Jacob was watching the portable DVD player in the back seat. So there wasn’t any arguing going on in the back seat. Fortunately, we made it home safely, tired but safe.
Friday, January 29, 2010 3:58 PM
Well, it’s off to Buckhannon this weekend for Ben’s wrestling tournament. I’m not really excited about it but I’ll try to act like I am for Ben. He seems to really like wrestling. I’ll have to let you know how it turns out. I think Jacob will be quit a challenge for me this weekend. It’s difficult to go places with him for any length of time. Jacob gets restless and tired after a long day. I think I get restless and tired also which makes Jacob more challenging. However, Aaron can be a big help to me with Jacob most of the time. I hope that is the case this weekend. Hopefully, the weather cooperates with our little road trip. I can honestly say I have never been to Buckhannon. I guess I can add this to my list of first. Nothing against Buckhannon, I just hope my list gets better…
Which is harder to raise...boys or girls
Tuesday, January 26, 2010 10:38 AM
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Monday, January 25, 2010 4:54 PM
Have you ever arrived at work in the morning and don’t remember your drive to work? I’ve done that a few times. I guess I’ve had a lot more on my mind recently. The other day, I was driving to work but I was supposed to take Jacob and Ben to school first and I passed the entrance to the school. I must have been daydreaming. Suddenly, I heard Ben say, “Mom, you just passed the school!” You can imagine what I said…so I had to turn around and went back to the school. I couldn’t believe I passed the school. What an idiot I thought to myself. Actually, I almost passed the school the day before but realized the boys were in the car. The boys had been very quite that day but apparently I was paying more attention to my surroundings. I remembered they were with me in the car and I took them to school. Maybe I need more sleep or maybe I’m just overwhelmed with all the responsibilities I have. Either way, I need to pay more attention to what I’m doing.
Friday, January 22, 2010 4:51 PM
The boys and I went to see the Harlem Globetrotters on Monday afternoon. The show was terrific. The Globetrotters were very funny. They really got the audience involved with the show. We went to see the Globetrotters 2 years ago but Jacob didn’t remember going. It was nice to be able to take the boys again. I had to explain to Jacob what the Globetrotter do. I told Jacob the Globetrotters do tricks with the basketball. He was so cute and said, “Oh, I get it”. He really had no idea.
The show lasted about 2 hours which was just the right amount of time. The place was packed inside and out. It was a good afternoon, the kids didn’t have school and only I worked part of the day then went to the show. I love spending time with my boys. I hope my boys realize how lucky they were to get to go to the Harlem Globetrotter show. We had a restful night then it was back to the grind the next day. Why is it that the things we love to do go by so quickly and the things we dislike take forever to get done?
Tuesday, January 19, 2010 5:45 PM
Thankfully, no one else in the house got sick over the weekend. However, Ben had a fever Friday evening and wasn’t able to make it to his wrestling tournament on Saturday. His fever was gone by that morning but I felt it would be too much on him to wrestle that day. I know he was disappointed but as bad as he felt, he didn’t complain at all.
I took Jacob to his basketball game Saturday morning. They lost the game but had fun anyway. Most of kids are learning the game now and are still so adorable! Aaron didn’t want to get up early to go to the game. Jacob was a little disappointed but that didn’t last. Saturday evening Aaron had a friend spend the night but not before I had him do lots of cleaning. I think that’s a fair exchange but there’s still much more cleaning to be done. I really need to get into Jacob’s room. It looks like a bomb hit it. He has soooo many toys! Some of them he inherited from Aaron and Ben and rest are his. I’m not sure what to keep and what to give away. This is definitely a project for when Jacob isn’t around!
Sunday, we all went to see “The Blind Side”. Wow! It was a fantastic movie. If you can’t make it to the movies to see this one…make sure you rent it. I’m really glad I decided to take the time to see the “The Blind Side”. I hope it had a great impact on my boys especially Ben. He is the one who is always worried about what he doesn’t have or what someone else does have. My kids are sheltered from the real world and it’s my fault. I had a difficult childhood so I tried to protect them from life. Until the divorce, they were even more sheltered. Now, I’m trying to find ways to educate the boys so they are prepared for their future. I hope this was a start.
Wake Up Call!
Friday, January 15, 2010 4:55 PM
You will never guess how I was woken up this morning. It was absolutely horrible. Ben was vomiting in the bathroom at 6:28 AM. I think I had already hit the snooze button on my alarm clock but only once. I was still pretty out of it. While I was dragging myself out of bed, I managed to mutter, “Who’s getting sick?” The reply was, “It’s me, Ben.” I asked him if he was ok. Ben said, “I’m ok.” Then, Ben then informed me he had gotten sick in his room on the carpet, the light tan Berber carpet. Ugh! Don’t get me wrong, I’m not upset with Ben at all. It’s just not fun when you have to scrub vomit off the carpet at 6:30 in the morning. I hadn’t even had coffee yet. Maybe… that was a good thing.
I hope no one else in the house gets sick this weekend. We have lots to do. Ben is supposed to have a wrestling tournament this weekend. I’m not sure if he will be well enough to participate. Jacob has a basketball game on Saturday and Aaron wants one of his friends to come over. Let’s not forget about the cleaning and shopping that needs done. I guess most of that will get done as long as I don’t get sick. I would also like to take the boys to the movies on Sunday. I’m hoping to go see “The Blind Side”. That is, if it’s still paying in the movies. I’ve heard it’s great. I’ll let you know.
Tuesday, January 12, 2010 5:06 PM
Jacob came home from his dad’s house on Sunday evening and was so wound up. He was literally climbing on the furniture. Then he kept complaining that no one would play with him. We were all watching one of the “Harry Potter” movies but he really wasn’t interested in it. Ben was sitting there quit content for once. Jacob wanted to play the x-box 360 so he kept whining. I had told all of the boys when they got home not to turn the video games on because I hadn’t seen them all weekend. I think that was reasonable. During the week we are so busy it’s difficult to find time to spend together.
After a while, Aaron snuck down to the family room to play the x-box. I didn’t say too much to Aaron because he had been reading a book but Jacob kept bothering him. Finally at about 8:00PM, I gave Jacob a shower, dressed him for bed and had him brush his teeth. He started complaining about how it wasn’t his bed time and he wasn’t tired. The boy is never tired. I told Jacob he was going to bed anyway because he hadn’t listened very well that evening. Jacob whined some more but went to sleep about 2 minutes after his teary, eyed, head hit the pillow. What a relief!
No more snow!
Friday, January 8, 2010 5:09 PM
I am so tired of the cold and snow. I’m ready for spring and sunshine! My boys are enjoying their snow days. They only had school 1 ½ days of school this week. In addition, they had 10 days off for Christmas break. I guess I’m just a little jealous of them. They don’t realize how lucky they are to be young. On the flip side of that…I’m not looking forward to cutting the grass in the spring either. I guess I want the best of both worlds.
Recently, I have become a little worried about the kids being home so much themselves. All they do is play video games and watch TV. Since they have been home together more, I have noticed the boys have an issue keeping their hands to themselves. Aaron and Ben are constantly hitting, poking or grabbing each other. Now, Jacob wants to get involved in the “game”. Jacob gets a little out of control because he thinks it’s fun…in the end…he’s the one crying! I’ve yelled and taken things from them but nothing works. I’m not sure what else to do. I feel like I am living with wild animals. Any suggestions???
Happy New Year!
Wednesday, December 30, 2009 3:29 PM
The boys have been home by themselves all week. Aaron is the guy in charge while I’m at work. Aaron and Ben are used to staying home but now Jacob is there. It’s a whole new world for the boys. Not only do Aaron and Ben have to entertain Jacob, they need to get him breakfast and lunch. It’s a big job but I think they can do it. The boys have had 3 pajama days in a row. So far, no one has gotten hurt and nothing is broken. I call that a successful 3 days.
I decided instead of sitting home on New Year’s Eve this year with the boys that we are going on a road trip. We are going to spend New Year’s Eve at my sister’s house. I don’t usually travel out of town this time of year but I am tired of not spending the holidays with my family. Even though it’s a long trip, I think the boys will enjoy spending time with their cousins. I just hope we don’t hit a lot of traffic like we did at Thanksgiving. I’m leaving early in the morning so I should be ok. I’m also praying for good weather there and back. We’ll be returning on Sunday so it’s difficult to tell what the weather will be then. Wish me luck. Happy New Year!
Tuesday, December 29, 2009 12:31 PM
I didn’t really create any other holiday traditions with the boys this year. The boys came home at 2:00PM which was a little difficult for me this year. However, I survived and will survive the next time it happens. We opened our presents and I took pictures of the boys. I think they were all happy with their gifts. I did make a turkey for Christmas dinner. We all like turkey better then ham so we were happy. We also watched “Monsters vs. Aliens” for the first time. It was really a cute movie. Jacob has wanted to see that movie for a while but we missed it when it was out in the theaters. I bought it for him for Christmas. So we had a nice evening.
On Sunday, the boys and I went to the movies with my friend and her family. We went to see “Alvin and the Chipmunks the Squeakquel”. It was cute and all the kids enjoyed it even Ben and Aaron thought it was funny. We got a large popcorn for the 4 of us and ate it all. We were such pigs! Then, after the movie we all ate pizza. I guess what really matters is that we all had fun! Now the boys are off from school all week. I wish I was back in school! Well, not really!
Tuesday, December 22, 2009 5:23 PM
I have finished all of my Christmas shopping despite the snow storm we had over the weekend. I just have a few presents to wrap. I baked more cookies on Saturday since I was stuck in the house due to the snow. I even hid several cookies from the boys to make sure we have cookies for Christmas. It’s a good thing I did. I have a bad cold now and I wouldn’t have wanted to bake anything with this cold. I actually wish I would have stayed home from work yesterday. I felt lousy! At least, I have almost everything ready for Christmas.
The boys were with their dad last weekend so it was a little easier for me to accomplish my list for the holidays. I will miss not having the boys this year on Christmas morning. This will be the first year ever that I haven’t been with them. It is extremely disappointing for me. I will go to their dad’s house to be with them but it’s not the same. Of course, Santa will visit my house also. I just hope that we all still have a wonderful holiday even though it will different.
Friday, December 18, 2009 11:48 AM
I made about 12 dozen Christmas cookies on Sunday. If we’re lucky there is one dozen left. The kids and I have been eating them night and day. They are delicious! I guess I’ll have to make more cookies before Christmas so Jacob and I can leave cookies for Santa. Maybe I should only make a few dozen cookies or I won’t be able to fit into my cloths after Christmas!
Jacob had his holiday program at school the other day. I searched and searched for white sweat pants and shirt. The kindergarteners were snowflakes and needed to wear all white. It was extremely difficult to find white pants especially for a boy. I had to order them on line. It was a little crazy to have to buy boys white pants so he could wear them for 5 minutes. But all of the kids looked adorable. They only sang 1 song, “Feliz Navidad”. When I picked Jacob up at the end of the day…he had blue paint on his white shirt and pants from making dream catchers at the after school program. I couldn’t believe it! I was so upset but I can’t do anything about it. You would think the administrators of the program would have more sense then that. Oh well!!!
Getting ready for the hoilday!
Friday, December 11, 2009 5:06 PM
This weekend is going to be extremely busy. I have the boys so it will be more of a challenge to get my list completed. I need to go grocery shopping because Ben and Jacob wiped me out of canned goods for the food drive at school. I want to take Jacob to see Santa Clause at the mall on Saturday. But first, Jacob has a basketball game that morning. We still need to decorate the house and put up our Christmas tree. I would like to take the boys to see a movie Saturday afternoon also. Do you think I’ll be able to get it all done??? Oh I almost forgot Aaron has a birthday party to go to Saturday night. I hope we can get it all done because we want to bake cookies on Sunday. I told Jacob he could help me. Ben said he just wants to sample the cookie and not help us bake them. Actually, that’s not a bad plan. I should let the boys bake all of the cookies. Oh my! Could you imagine what a disaster my kitchen would be and how burnt the cookies would turn out??? I guess I need to be the head chef and let them assist.
Wednesday, December 9, 2009 5:36 PM
I’m not that letting Ben join wrestling was a good idea. The practices are right after school which is not too bad. However, the matches are at several different locations and the school doesn’t provide transportation to the wrestling match. I work until 5:00PM and the match starts at 6:00PM and is located 45 minutes from my house. How in the world am I supposed to get Ben there? Not only that, I’m not familiar with the locations of the schools and the weather is starting to get bad especially at night. This is so frustrating for me. I feel like a terrible parent if I can’t get my son to the match. Ben’s dad said he would help with the transportation… I hope he will because I don’t want to disappoint Ben.
Jacob still loves basketball. He is so adorable but becoming a ball hog. I guess that is to be expected for a five year old. At this age it is all for fun anyway. He is doing really well in school and makes so proud of him. I hope he continues to be the sweet child he is.
Aaron is almost finished with band for the year. I think he has 1 more performance which a holiday program. I know he is disappointed to see band end. Aaron was hoping to join a percussion group at the HS school but at the last minute the plug was pulled on the group. I felt so bad for Aaron because he decided not to go out for basketball so he would be able to join the percussion group. I tried to talk Aaron into basketball with no luck. I have been trying to let Aaron make more decisions for himself since he is in HS. I guess it’s all a learning
Wednesday, December 2, 2009 5:01 PM
I had so much fun at Tuscan Tuesday last night. It was really great to chat with all of the Magic winners. I have met such a variety of interesting people. All of the winners had a wonderful experience at the spa. I also enjoyed talking with the staff at the Tuscan Sun Spa & Salon. They are friendly and enjoy where they work. I believe having a wonderful, friendly and dedicated staff is a very important part of what makes the spa so great!
The Tuscan Sun Spa and Salon offers a variety of products and services. First, there is the hair salon with a spectacular color bar. They have deep conditioning treatments that are amazing. Then, there is the Tuscan Spa which offers massages, body treatment, facials and much more. Finally, there is the Tuscan Bella Boutique. There is a selection of jewelry, handbags and home décor. It’s a great place to find a Christmas present.
Visit their website at tuscansunspaandsalon.com to see what they have to offer you and your friends for the holidays.
The longest trip
Monday, November 30, 2009 5:30 PM
Our trip back east didn’t start out very well on Wednesday. The normal 7 hour trip turned into a 9 hour trip because of the holiday traffic. I thought we were never going to arrive at my sisters. I was so tired of driving by the time we reached my sister’s house (mostly the bumper to bumper traffic). The kids were great on the during the car ride considering how long of a drive it was. However, the important part is that we had a safe trip.
The boys and I had a wonderful visit with my family. We had 3 Thanksgiving dinners while we were there and we all ate too much! We got to see my great niece for the first time on our trip. She is adorable and a great baby. We also saw my brother who I hadn’t seen in about 8 years. He and Jacob had never met before. It was hard to believe we hadn’t seen each other for so long. I guess we never planned our visits very well. We also exchanged Christmas presents with my family since we won’t see each other for Christmas. The boys thought that was the best part of the trip.
We left at 6:00 AM yesterday for our trip home. We missed all of the traffic and had time to stop at the outlets on the way home. Aaron complained about shopping but Ben and Jacob wanted to stop which was surprising. We had a nice trip but now it’s back to work…
Tuesday, November 24, 2009 5:06 PM
Aaron has been babysitting Jacob for me the last 2 days since there was no school for the Thanksgiving break. Ben has been helping him out. I’m not sure how good they really watched Jacob because it’s such a long day to try to keep Jacob occupied. Aaron and Ben wanted to play video games and do their own thing during the day. So, I told them to take turns playing with Jacob so each of them had time for themselves. I hope that worked. I have been able to go home briefly for lunch to check on all of them. So far, there were no broken bones or blood. Also, the house is still standing. I suppose things could be much worse. I thought the boys could manage watching Jacob for only 2 days. I guess they did manage. I’m off the rest of the week and we’re going out of town to visit my family. We are excited for our trip even though we’ll be stuck in the car most of the day tomorrow.
Monday, November 23, 2009 4:51 PM
Well, I new it would happen one day. I was just hoping it wouldn’t be for a few years. Aaron has a girl friend. It just happened last week. I’m not sure if I am ready for my son to have a girl friend. I no it’s not serious but one thing leads to another. I’m trying to play it cool but I’m terrified! Aaron doesn’t like to talk and share a lot of information. Actually, I’m not sure if I want him to give to many details but we need to be able to communicate. I hope I survive!!!
Ben chipped his tooth during wrestling practice a few weeks ago. I didn’t find out until last week. I told Ben he needs to let me know when something like that happens incase he needs to go to the dentist. I think we’ll skip a trip to the dentist office this time; it’s just a tiny chip. Ben has a mouth guard to wear during wrestling practice…let’s hope he actually uses it now.
Jacob has been having a great time playing basketball. The kids are so adorable. Most of the kids are still having trouble remembering to dribble the ball. The game on Sunday looked more like a football game…the kids were all over the floor and each other trying to get the basketball. The other team really outsized Jacob’s team. They looked older then kindergarten but at least no one got hurt and they all seem to have fun…I guess that’s what really matters.
3 Different boys
Friday, November 20, 2009 4:44 PM
Ben is really trying hard to not have an attitude with me. He has been listening better and is much more pleasant. I think we’re off to a good start. Maybe it’s because I threatened to make him quit wresting. I still feel that Ben needs to talk to the school councilor but I’ll wait another week or 2 before I call the school to set that in motion.
For a five year old, Jacob is really smart. He is learning to sound out words and to read. He also understands the concept of basic math. So why if Jacob is so smart can he not understand that there is no talking while the teacher is teaching? Is he just being stubborn or his he bored with the class? I tried to explain to Jacob that it is very important for him to listen to his teacher and to be helpful. Also, there is a time to talk and a time to be quite. Any suggestions…I’m all out of ideas.
Aaron, on the other hand doesn’t like to talk. He is quite and shy. Recently, I have purposely put him in situations that require him to speak and interact with others. Really, I need to do that more often. I hope this helps because he will have trouble when he gets to college if he remains so shy.
It is amazing how different the boys are. They are all challenging in their own way. Maybe that is part of what makes them so special to me.
Monday, November 16, 2009 4:44 PM
Ben had been giving me a hard time at home the last few weeks. He continuously argued with me. I would have to yell at Ben to get him to do anything. The situation was becoming very frustrating. I told Ben I would take his games, TV and phone privileges away for 1 month if he didn’t straighten up. I also told Ben I would have him talk to the school councilor if he didn’t start listening and acting better. Then, I received a phone call from Ben’s Math teacher. Ben had received 3 warnings from her which resulted in the phone call to me. Ben has been talking excessively in her class. I let Ben’s teacher know about that his father and I are divorced and that he has been giving me a difficult time at home as well. I explained that I felt part of the issue with Ben was that he wanted more attention. I also asked her to refer Ben to the school councilor. His teacher and I had a good conversation. I hope the councilor will help Ben.
After the phone call from Ben’s Math teacher, I decided not to punish Ben… yet. I had a long chat with him about his behavior. He’s upset because he is not allowed to do as much as he wants and what his friends are allowed do. For example, watch “Family Guy”. I believe his dad allows him to do and see more then what I’ll allow in my house. By the end of our discussion, I had Ben reluctantly agreeing to try things my way for a few days. So far so good but I still want him to talk to the councilor.
Jacob's first basketball game
Wednesday, November 11, 2009 4:43 PM
Jacob had his first basketball game on Sunday. Aaron and Ben even went to the game… reluctantly. Jacob was so adorable and he made the 1st shot of the game. Jacob was such a little ham. He was extremely excited when he made the shot. He jumped up and down and the crowd went wild. Kindergarten basketball is entertaining to watch especially the 1st game. The kids really have no idea on how to play the game. The ball rolled across the floor because they can’t dribble the ball. They wrestled on the floor for the ball until the referee stopped them. The crowd laughed and applauded the entire time. The best part of the game was that the kids had fun! Aaron and Ben had a great time watching the game. They got to see first had what they looked like playing basketball when they were 5 years old. It was great!
Flu...vaccinate or not
Thursday, November 5, 2009 4:51 PM
Jacob had his flu vaccine yesterday. Ben will get his vaccine on Friday. I hope this was the right decision. I spoke with the nurse at their pediatrician’s office regarding the vaccine. I was concerned since Aaron already had the swine flu and exposed the other 2 boys to the flu if it was safe for Ben and Jacob to get the vaccine. The nurse indicated they should both receive the vaccine and Aaron should not. I hope she’s right and the vaccine is safe and effective. I kept going back and forth on the decision “to give” or “not give” the vaccine. Finally, I decide in favor of the H1N1 vaccine because my children have been given all of their other vaccinations required by the state. Also, the health community is expecting this flu to get much worse as winter progresses. Hopefully, this vaccination will keep Ben and Jacob healthy this year.
Wednesday, November 4, 2009 3:03 PM
Jacob had a great time tick or treating on Halloween. He was a storm trooper from Star Wars. I wasn’t able to convince Ben to go tick or treating this year. He felt he was too old to dress in a costume and beg for candy. I disagreed with him…as usual. So Ben and Aaron stayed at the house to give out candy. We never have many tick or treaters where I live. My guess is we only had 10 kids stop by for candy on Halloween. It was a little cold that evening but at least the rain had stopped. Jacob did share his candy with his brothers and was more generous then I expected.
Jacob really loves Star Wars....just like his bothers.
Wednesday, October 28, 2009 4:37 PM
Aaron had the Swine flu last week. It started with a headache, sneezing, fever and chills. I took him to the doctor’s office the same day he started feeling ill. The doctor prescribed Tamiflu for Aaron. I also gave him ibuprofen as needed. The fever didn’t seem to go very high but Aaron would get the chills back when the ibuprofen wore off. After about 48 hours on the Tamiflu, he felt must better. Buy the 3rd day; Aaron was back to normal with the exception of a stuffy nose. The best part is that no one else in the house caught the flu from Aaron. Jacob has another sinus infection but some how managed to escape the flu. I can’t figure out how Jacob and Ben missed this one but I’m happy they did. We still have a long winter ahead of us. I am worried that the next encounter with the flu will be much worse.
Friday, October 23, 2009 4:29 PM
Ben got all “A’s” on his report card. I am very happy with his hard work. I hope he continues to have a great report card. He also got to play in the middle school football game a few days ago. I think Ben is really happy that he got to play in the game. Ben decided not to try out for basketball. I am extremely thrilled that he won’t be playing basketball. I need the break from running from game to game and practice to practice. I think Ben will run track again in the spring. At least, I hope he does.
So far this week, Jacob has 3 smiley faces on his school folder. He just needs 2 more to get the Wii game he wants. I’m not sure if he will make it but I know he is trying really hard to be better at school. Jacob has also been going to bed earlier which should help him at school.
Aaron is struggling with his grades some what. His grades are good but he doesn’t have all A’s like he usually does. High school is a little tougher then middle school and the grade scale is harder then in MS. I’m not worried about Aaron’s grades yet because he is trying to pull his grades up to all A’s. Aaron has even asked a few of his teachers if he can do extra credit. I won’t be upset if Aaron has a few B’s on his report card as long as he takes school seriously and I feel that he does.
Friday, October 16, 2009 4:24 PM
Poor Jacob, he tried extremely hard to get the 5th smiley face on his school folder so he could get a new Wii game. However, he came up short by 1 day. When I picked him up after work yesterday, I looked at his fold to see how he had done. I was disappointed to see the note from his teacher. Jacob was very restless yesterday and seemed tired. I felt so bad for my little boy because he came so close to getting his new game.
When I asked Jacob why he didn’t do well in school, he didn’t have a good reason but said he had tried to be good. Then Jacob asked me, “Can I get my game”? I had to say, “No”. It broke my heart to say no but I wanted Jacob to learn how important it was for him to listen in school. The next question he asked was, “Do I have to start over and get 5 smiley faces”? I said, “Yes”. Jacob looked like he was going to cry but he didn’t. Again, my heart broke. Hopefully, he’ll try even harder to be good at school so he can get his Wii game.
Wednesday, October 14, 2009 4:34 PM
Jacob has been doing better in school the last few days. Although, I had to resort to bribery so he would be good. He was upset because Aaron bought a new game for the x-box at game stop last week. Jacob wanted a new game also but I told him that little boys who got in trouble in school didn’t get new games. He started crying in the store loudly which was embarrassing. So, I took him by the hand…crying to the car. I told Jacob if he could be good for 5 days in a row at school without getting his folder marked and get a smiley face instead, I would buy him a game. He was excited and said he would try his best to be a good boy at school. I thought to myself there is no way he can go 5 days at school without getting in some sort of trouble. So far, he is up to 3 days in a row with a smiley face on his school folder. The teacher even wrote me a small note saying that she has seen improvement in Jacob at school. Way to do Jacob!!!
Chasing the bus
Wednesday, October 7, 2009 8:58 AM
I was like a crazy woman yesterday morning trying to catch Aaron’s school bus. We were running a few minutes late and the bus was running a few minutes early. That was not a good combination. I got to the top of the hill just in time to see the bus pull away. So, I stepped on the gas pedal and chased down the bus…sort of. There are 2 more stops close by Aaron’s bus stop. The bus had already passed the 1st stop and was moving to the 2nd stop. Fortunately for me, there were several cars behind the bus so the bus pulled off to the side of the road. I sped past it flashing my lights and hitting my horn. Thankfully, the driver stopped completely and let Aaron on the bus. What a way to start your day at 6:25 AM in your PJ’s!!!
Monday, September 28, 2009 3:50 PM
Children are so adorable at times, especially when they do something unexpected. In my experience as a mother, I have always loved watching my boys grow mentally. What I mean is when they try to figure out life. Sometimes their ideas scare me and at other times they will make me laugh. Last night it was one of those moments that put a smile on my face.
Jacob had made a flower at school from a pipe cleaner and tissue paper. He was playing with it for a while and even put it in my hair (behind my ear). Suddenly, he came into my bedroom. Jacob had the flower stem down his shirt so it looked like a boutonniere. I was sitting on the bed and he asked me to standup. So I did. Jacob immediately bent down on one knee and asked, “Will you marry me?” I was so surprised. He was grinning from ear to ear. I kissed his cheek and said, “Absolutely”. I asked Jacob if he had seen that on TV. He replied, “No” and ran off.
I thought he was completely adorable! Jacob’s proposal also made me laugh. Maybe, he was practicing for his future wife. I hope he doesn’t go around school proposing to all of the girls. Maybe I should have a talk with Jacob about not proposing to everyone. Kids are truly amazing!
Tuscan Sun Spa & Salon
Friday, September 25, 2009 11:50 AM
I had an extremely wonderful experience on Tuesday evening. I was invited to attend the Tuscan Sun Spa & Salon in Clarksburg. The spa has recently expanded to be about double the original size. The owner, Cherie, has done an absolutely terrific job with the décor of the spa. The atmosphere is very relaxing and pleasurable.
The Tuscan Spa & Salon provides numerous services. They include massages, facials, body treatments, waxing, manicures and pedicures. Also, now there is a hair salon with a color bar. The staff at the spa is well trained and very friendly. Aveda products are used exclusively at The Tuscan Sun Spa & Salon. I had the opportunity to test a few of the products. The Aveda products are fabulous!
You should make it a point to have yourself pampered with one of the many services at The Tuscan Sun Spa & Salon. Take a friend with you to share in the experience. Complimentary wine is served to clients during their visit at the spa. Check out their website at tuscansunspaandsalon.com or call 304-326-2204 to schedule an appointment for one or more of their many services. Also, you can enter to win a Tuscan treat for two at wvmagic.com. Remember, it’s worth treating yourself to such a wonderful experience.
Back to the doctors!
Wednesday, September 23, 2009 2:00 PM
I didn’t exactly have the relaxing weekend I had hoped I would. I took Aaron, Jacob and myself to the doctors for our sinus infections. The worst part is that I didn’t take us all at the same time. Friday night I took Aaron to the doctors because his cough seemed much worse then the night before. Jacob didn’t cough once that night until after we returned from the doctors. Then, Saturday morning, Jacobs cough was much worse then it had been. So, off to the doctor’s office we went again for Jacob’s sinus infection. You would think at that point, I would have had the doctor check me for the sinus infection as well. No, that would have been too easy. When I woke up Saturday morning, I felt achy and was coughing terribly. So, I decided to go back to the doctor’s office for the 3rd time in 3 days. Now, all 3 of us are taking a Z-pack for the sinus infection. Even though, I would have felt a little silly taking all of us to the doctors for a sinus infection at once, it would have saved me a lot of time. I just hope we start to feel better soon.
Friday, September 18, 2009 2:39 PM
So far, Jacob’s cough is starting to sound much better. As a matter of fact, his cough is almost gone. I wish I could say the same for me and Aaron. We still have the sinus infection cough. I will give us another day or 2 before we go to the doctors. I still think the 2 of us need antibiotics to get rid of this cough. We’ll see.
We don’t have any football games to go to this week. Yeah! Aaron does have a band competition tomorrow night. He will be riding a bus to the performance which is a few hours away. The down side is I have to pick him up at the high school pretty late. I’m not even sure what time that will be.
Ben told me the other night that he doesn’t like his clothes anymore. He expects me go buy him all new clothes for school. I just did that because school just started. I told him he would have to wear what he has for now. So, we went through his wardrobe in our minds and found out that more then half of his clothes are fine for him to wear. Apparently, there are a few items that he is not satisfied with. So, I told Ben not to wear them. He was ok with the decision. It’s not like he really had a choice.
I am looking forward to a nice, relaxing weekend. I hope I get it.
Thursday, September 17, 2009 8:23 AM
I think Jacob, Aaron and I all have a sinus infection. I have been putting off going to the doctors for a few reasons. I keep hoping that the sinus infection will go away with out antibiotics but that hasn’t happened yet. Also, I haven’t had the time to go after work because of football and band practice. By the time we all get home and eat dinner, we’re worn out. Not to mention, the cost of taking all 3 of us to the doctors and having prescriptions to fill. It’s going to cost me a small fortune! However, I think the doctor’s visit is inevitable for us. I wonder if the doctor will give us a group rate. Maybe, the doctor will write refills on the Rx. I know I’m dreaming but that helps me get through the day sometimes.
Friday, September 11, 2009 4:40 PM
I feel terrible. I missed Ben playing in the football game the other night. Since he’s in 7th grade, he doesn’t get to play much in the game. I took Aaron and Jacob to Ben’s football game. Aaron went off with his friends while I was left to entertain Jacob. After a long day at school, it can be a little difficult to occupy a 5 year old. I did my best and bought him candy. That lasted all of 5 minutes. He was restless most of the game. Ben’s team didn’t do as well as expected. So after yelling at Jacob for half the game, I was ready to leave. Jacob and I went to the car with 2 minutes left in the game. Apparently, that was about the time Ben got in the game. I missed it! I feel like the worst mother in the world. Ben has been extremely excited to play football and I missed his first appearance. I hope he forgives me. Next time I’ll make sure I stay to the end of the game.
Thursday, September 10, 2009 8:09 AM
I tried to have a relaxing, long weekend with the boys. For the most part, I succeeded. We spent most of the time around the house just relaxing. I cleaned a little and did the laundry. Aaron and Ben cut some of the grass for me. It was nice to have a 3 day weekend and not have to be anywhere or rush to pick up one of the boys. Ben and Jacob did fight a lot over the weekend. I think they are 2 peas in a pod and that's why they don't get along most of the time.
Ben had a friend spend the night on Sunday. This created some conflict with Jacob. He wants to have a friend spend the night also. I explained to Jacob that I feel he is too young to have a friend spend the night and when he gets a bit older he can have a friend sleepover. He just wasn't satisfied with that answer. So he wined and cried for a while. Once Ben's friend arrived at our house, Jacob forgot all about him having a friend over. He went and played with the big boys.
We roasted marshmallows after dinner. All of us enjoyed the marshmallows. I love mine burnt! I think we all had a stomach ache when we were finished. I didn't plan the roast very well or I would have bought supplies to make smores. Next time, I'll need to remember the chocolate and gram crackers.
Long awaited weekend!
Saturday, September 5, 2009 3:30 PM
We are all exhausted and looking forward to a long, relaxing weekend. Ben had a football game on Thursday night. They won! By the time we got home, it was about 8:45 PM. Everyone had to shower and get ready for bed. I guess that's not to bad but it's just a little difficult with Jacob being so much younger then the other boys. He gets tired and fussy. Jacob has been sleeping well though.
Friday night, Aaron had his first band perform at the 1st home football game. Again, the football team won! The band sounded great! The game started at 7:30 PM and we didn't get home until 10:45 PM. Aaron had been up since 6:00 AM and was complete wore out. He went right to bed when we got home. Jacob was in bed before any of us and went right to sleep.
Unfortunately, I was up late just trying to unwind from a long and stressful week. I also got up at 7:00 AM so I am completely exhausted. I'm hoping to get lots of rest this weekend since I have 3 days off work. But I need to clean, go grocery shopping and do yard work. My car also needs a bath. Maybe, I can convince one of the boys to wash the car. Wish me luck!
1st day of school
Thursday, September 3, 2009 8:17 AM
Jacob started kindergarten yesterday. He did great on his 1st day. Jacob was all set with his transformer backpack and shoes. He was full of hugs and kisses when I dropped him off at school. Remarkably, neither one of us cried. It was tough not to cry but I managed to be strong.
When I picked Jacob up from the after school program he was in no hurry to leave. He was playing basketball in the gym and was having lots of fun. I had to take the ball from him so we could leave. The coordinator told me that he had a great afternoon and that he was ready for kindergarten. I am so proud of him!
Aaron hasn't missed the bus since the first day of school. I've been driving him to the bus stop every morning at 6:20 AM and the bus arrives at 6:27 AM. That's way too early for a kid to catch the bus. I still haven’t received a call from the bus garage. I won't hold my breath waiting on that call.
Ben has gotten a little better at getting out the door in the morning. He still needs to get faster. Part of the problem is Ben has trouble getting out of bed in the morning. I guess he still needs to go to bed earlier. Let's just say it's a work in progress.
Saturday, August 29, 2009 12:47 PM
Aaron has caught the school bus the last few days. I feel terrible that he has to get up so early so I’ve been driving him to the bus stop. It’s not even a 10 minute walk to the end of the road but I want to make sure Aaron doesn’t miss the bus again. So far, we’re doing well.
Yesterday, Jacob and I went sitting in the car waiting on Ben so I could take him to school. Usually, the kids are waiting on me. We only waited a few minutes but I told Ben he was making me late for work. He has been a little slow to get moving in the mornings since school started. The kids aren’t used to getting up before 10:00 AM. I dropped Ben off at school and continued on my way to Jacob’s daycare. A few minutes later, my cell phone rang. It was Ben; he forgot his backpack in my car. I had to turn around and go back to the school. Ben apologized for forgetting his backpack. I’m really glad Ben notice he didn’t have his backpack right away. I told Ben he needs to get up earlier. He’s not happy about that. Fortunately, I was only a few minutes late for work.
Hopefully, next week goes better. Jacob starts kindergarten on Tuesday. I know that will be a tough day for me. Jacob will be fine because he is ready for school.
Late for school
Thursday, August 27, 2009 4:49 PM
It’s hard to believe that summer is over and school has started. We haven’t had a lot of nice weather this summer. It has finally started to get hot but no one is home to enjoy it.
We all survived the 1st day of school for Aaron and Ben but it was pretty rough! Aaron started high school and wasn’t nervous at all. He said, “It’s just school mom.” I thought that was a great attitude for him to have. The high school is a good distance from my house. Aaron has to catch the bus or he’ll be late for school. According to the bus schedule, the bus should arrive at the end of my road at 6:45 AM. I know that we should allow about 10 minutes for the bus to come early or late. My neighbor called me at 6:20 AM wondering if Aaron was going to ride the bus. Aaron was at his dad’s house but will still use the same bus stop. I tried to call Aaron’s dad but was unable to reach him. The bus came 18 minutes early the first day of school. Aaron missed the bus and was late for school. I was so mad! Although, I’m sure that Aaron wasn’t the only child to miss the bus the first day of school.
I called the bus garage to complain about the bus schedule. I had to leave a message. I have not heard back from the bus garage. I’m sure I won’t receive a return phone call. I don’t care if the bus arrives early. We just need the correct time. Is that too much to ask?
Friday, August 21, 2009 5:21 PM
Last weekend went by quickly but we all had a wonderful time at Cannan Valley Resort.
On the way back from the resort, we stopped at Blackwater Falls State Park. Aaron really wanted to stop to see the falls. I had been there a long time ago but the boys hadn’t.
We arrived at the park around 12:00PM. There are 214 steps down to the falls or should I say 214 steps backup to the top. I was a little concerned about Jacob walking back to the top but I knew we could stop and rest if necessary. We walked down and took several pictures of the falls. The water really does look black. A lot of people were visiting the falls that day.
On the way back to the top, we stopped at an overlook and had someone take our picture. I also took pictures of the boys on a huge rock at one of the lookout locations. I’m really glad we made the time to stop at Blackwater Falls. When we reached the top, we ate lunch at the picnic table. We also shopped in the trading post before we headed home. We had a great weekend!
Thursday, August 20, 2009 5:02 PM
I am finally feeling better from all the bee stings. I only itch occasionally. Now that I've finished all of the steroids, I hope I can sleep tonight. It's not looking so good!
Despite the issues I had last week, the boys and I had a great weekend. We drove to Cannan Valley Resort and spent 2 nights there. We had wonderful weather and a nice drive. On the way to the resort, we stopped at the smallest church in 48 states. I had been there a few times in the past but the boys had not. It’s such a nice place to visit. All of the kids were surprised at the size of the church.
The resort is absolutely beautiful! There are 2 pools at the resort. The indoor pool is small but sufficient. The outdoor pool is much larger and our favorite. We spent a lot of time in the pool over the weekend. There were several amenities to occupy us during our stay. There is an arcade in the main lodge. I took the boys there for a short time. I challenged Aaron to an air hockey game and won. Ben and Jacob played a fishing game.
Later that day, we played miniature golf. Jacob had a difficulty waiting his turn. He lost his ball because he played the 18th hole while we were on hole #3. So, he and I shared a ball the rest of the game. Ben complained most of the game that he was hot. We were all hot in the sun. When we were finished our game we went to the pool.
The resort has a nice golf course as well. I'm not a golfer but Aaron and Ben want to learn. They have had only a few lessons in the past even though their granddad lives next to a golf course. I let them play a game on Saturday afternoon. Since they aren't old enough to drive a golf cart, they had to walk the course. I was surprised Aaron and Ben were willing to walk it. It took them a while to play the game but they both had a terrific time. Aaron only lost 3 balls on the course!
I’d like to visit the resort again with the kids. It’s not too far of a drive for a weekend get away. Maybe we’ll go back next summer.
Friday, August 14, 2009 10:23 AM
I have not really had a great week off work. I've always heard that bad things happen in 3's. Well, I've met my quota this week. I can only hope the weekend is nice.
First, I had a little car trouble on Tuesday. Thanks to my wonderful neighbor, I think the situation has been corrected...at least for now. Aaron wasn't able to make it to band practice due to the car problem but he really didn't seem to mind. Ben was already at football practice and I was able to pick him up without any problem. So, the rest of the day was fine.
Yesterday evening, I went outside to cut some grass. I was almost finished with the section that I was going to mow when I ran over a bees nest in the ground. Let's just say OUCH! I got stung 6 times. It was horrible. I ran in the house and yelled to Ben to help me. He did and he was great. Unfortunately, that wasn't enough. I started swelling quickly so I took Benadryl. A few minutes later I felt ill. I called for Aaron and told him I needed to go to the doctors but I couldn't drive. His response was, "Well, I can't drive you there!" I wanted to laugh but had too much going on. I asked Aaron run to the neighbor's house and ask him to come over (not the same neighbor who helped with the car) because I needed a ride to urgent care. He came right over to check on me and said he would get his truck and take me. I thanked him and waited for him to return. Ben got my shoes and I went outside on the step. I was feeling worse. As my neighbor pulled in the driveway with the truck, I started to vomit. When I was finished I felt a little better so off to the urgent care we went. They gave me a steroid shot and an Rx to fill. I still feel miserable and I itch terribly. Hopefully, I’ll feel better in a day or 2.
The 3rd bad event this week wasn’t as bad. I had Aaron mow some of the grass (not where the bees are). The grass is high and the mower stalled. When he went to restart it, the pull sting stuck and the mower won't start. I guess we're not meant to cut the grass.
I think I've had enough fun on this vacation!
Friday, August 14, 2009 10:16 AM
We finally made it to Sandcastle water-park over the weekend. Even though the weather was just ok but we all still had a great time! Aaron and Ben love the water slides. Jacob loves the jungle gym and the kiddie area. He's still to little for the slides. All of us like the wave pool also. Jacob said, "The wave pool looks just like the beach". In a way, it really does just without the sand.
I was surprised to see how many people were at the water-park considering the weather. It sprinkled a few times and was overcast but the weather could have been much worse. At least, the sun peaked out a few times.
As usual, Ben and Jacob started arguing as soon as we got in the car. I had to threaten to turn around and go home if the fighting didn't stop. After a few more arguments and threats of going home, the boys stopped the bickering so we had a peaceful drive to the water-park. The ride home was better because Jacob fell a sleep. He was worn out from the water-park. Jacob slept for over an hour in the car. When Jacob woke up, he swore he hadn't been a sleep at all. Jacob has fallen a sleep in the car a few times lately but each time he says he didn't sleep. I suppose I'll have to take a picture next time.
Friday, August 7, 2009 5:03 PM
I guess I was wrong about Jacob’s teeth. They are starting to break through the gums. Both of the bottom teeth are right there now. He still looks so cute! I still believe had he not fallen and hit his mouth, Jacob wouldn’t have lost those 2 teeth already. I guess it doesn’t matter because he could have really gotten hurt.
Aaron is getting completely worn out with band camp. The camp is from 9:00 AM to 8:30 PM all week. I think the kids deserve a t-shirt that says, “I survived band camp”. He is certainly dedicated to band. Aaron still has 2 more weeks of practice after camp is over. Fortunately, that will only be for half the day. I’m happy he enjoys band so much.
Ben is getting ready to play football for his middle school for the first time. I hope he likes playing. He definitely has the attitude for football. I’m just not sure if Ben’s can handle being tackled. If he can deal with being tackled, he will be a great football player!
I feel like I need a summer vacation from the boy’s summer vacation. I have been running around like crazy. I don’t think the craziness is going to stop anytime soon.
Wednesday, August 5, 2009 6:20 PM
I don’t know how Ben got so particular regarding his food choices. He is also very stubborn. I know he gets that from me and his dad. I hope Ben grows out of this stage soon but I won’t count on it.
The other day, I went home for lunch. I called Ben to see if he wanted a double cheeseburger from McDonalds. He said, “How about from Burger King?”. I told Ben I didn’t have time to go to Burger King but I could go to McDonalds if he wanted me to. Ben said,” No thanks”. I couldn’t believe he was being so particular. Just the day before, he said he wanted a double cheeseburger from McDonalds. I think he just likes to be difficult. So, Ben didn’t get a double cheeseburger for lunch.
I know I was a picky eater when I was a kid. However, I don’t think I would have ever turned down McDonalds. I loved their Big Mac’s when I was Ben’s age. Of Course, I think there was only a McDonalds back then…no Burger King!
Pulling pants down
Friday, July 31, 2009 5:53 PM
The boys have this new thing that they’re doing to each other. I think that Aaron started it, which surprises me. They have been pulling down each others pants. They think it’s hysterical! I didn’t pay too much attention to it at first but they are getting worse. Even Jacob runs around the house trying to pull down Ben or Aaron’s shorts.
I told my sister the other day about the situation. She reminded me that this happened to my nephew when he was in middle school. But it was taken to a more extreme level. The boy who pulled down my nephew’s shorts also got a bonus…his underwear came down as well. My nephew was obviously embarrassed. The boy who did this received a Saturday detention. So, I have to tell Aaron, Ben and Jacob to quit with the pants pulling or I will ground them. I also told them what happened to their cousin so hopefully they’ll stop. I realize this is just horseplay among the boys but I need them to realize that the situation could get uncomfortable. Hopefully, they listen to me!
Tuesday, July 28, 2009 5:48 PM
Aaron and Ben each had a friend spend the night on Saturday night. That means I had 5 boys at my house. The night actually went well. Ben and Aaron friends get along fine. It’s just a little difficult with Jacob. He wants to be where the other boys are and do what they are doing. The older boys tolerate him because they have no other choice. This makes Jacob seem like part of the gang.
Jacob gets excited when we have other kids over to our house even though they are his brother’s friends. I’ve had to explain to Jacob that when he gets a little older he can have friends spend the night as well. That seems to satisfy him… for now. I do need to setup a play date for Jacob with my friend’s little boys. They are adorable and all get along great.
All of the boys played video games most of the night. They did actually play outside for a while and I didn’t even have to kick them outside. Jacob was right behind them with his army gun in one hand and his sword in the other. He really played well with the big kids. There wasn’t any fighting or arguing among the boys. They all had a fantastic time!
Friday, July 24, 2009 4:25 PM
I’ve always told the boys not to jump on the bed. However, they don’t listen to me. I remember jumping on the bed when I was a kid so I know how appealing it is for a kid. I was always told I would fall off the bed and break my neck. Obviously, that never happened to me but that is what I have told my kids would to them if they jumped on the bed.
Well, I guess I should have told the boys they would loose a few teeth from jumping on the bed. Especially, if you hit your grandmother’s rod iron headboard with your teeth. That’s exactly what happened to Jacob. The boys stayed the night at their grandparent’s house a few weeks ago. Jacob went into the bedroom to wake-up Ben. He wouldn’t get up. So, Jacob started jumping on the bed to wake Ben. Jacob fell and hit his mouth on the headboard. He did get hurt bad and didn’t loose the 2 bottom teeth right away. What a relief! They sure were loose though. He did finally loose both teeth. It took about 2 weeks for both of them to fall out. I don’t see any signs of new teeth under the gums so I guess he’ll be with out teeth for a while. He looks so cute!
I did have to explain to Jacob how lucky he was these 2 teeth were baby teeth and not his adult teeth. I think he understood what I was saying. I hope he learnt is lesson and don’t continue to jump on the bed!
Friday, July 17, 2009 3:42 PM
What is it with the middle child? I don’t understand the middle child syndrome. I believe it exists because I have one living in my house. Ben has always been difficult but I think as he gets older he becomes more of a challenge. I try to choose my battles with him but Ben believes that I’m unfair regardless.
Last night I picked up a pizza for dinner. Aaron was at band practice. It was just me, Ben and Jacob. Jacob likes cheese pizza and Ben prefers pepperoni. So I alternate between the 2 but usually buy pepperoni pizza. Well, last night I bought just a cheese pizza. Ben was upset and said he wasn’t going to eat it. I told him if he didn’t eat the pizza he couldn’t have anything else to eat all night. So a few times last night he asked for something else to eat. I said, “After you eat a piece of pizza”. Ben refused to eat 1 piece of pizza. About 10:00 PM last night, I caught him eating pretzels so I took them from him. I told Ben to eat 1 piece of pizza. I even heated up the slice of pizza for him. Do you know he only ate 1/3 of the slice? Then he wanted a bowl of cereal. Again I said, “Not until you eat your pizza”! He refused to eat it and went to bed without eating anything. He must not have been that hungry or he is just extremely stubborn!
I’m not sure what to do with him!
Run, run, run
Thursday, July 16, 2009 3:47 PM
Run here, run there, run everywhere! I feel like that’s all I’ve been doing. Aaron needs to go to the HS for band practice. I run Jacob to daycare. I run to work. I run home. Run back to the school to get Aaron. Run Ben to his friend’s house. Will it every end??? I don’t see an end insight!
Tuesday, July 14, 2009 5:07 PM
We didn’t make it to the water park on Saturday. There was a good chance for severe thunderstorms so I decided not to go. Thankfully, we never got the storms. Visit the website to check out the water park. www.sandcastlewaterpark.com/ It’s great, the boys and I go every year. We always have so much fun. I hope the weather gets better so we can go soon.
Instead, we had a movie weekend. On Saturday, we saw Transformers 2. It was a great movie. There was a little more violence in the 2nd movie compared to the 1st movie. But we all enjoyed it. I would definitely take that the kids to see Transformers. Then on Sunday, we all went to see Ice Age 3. Even Aaron and Ben went along. I gave them the choice to stay home but they both wanted to go see it. Again, it was a great movie and very funny. I asked all of the kids which movie they liked better and received the same answer from all of them. They all said, “I liked both of them. Ice Age was funnier but Transformers was great too.” Jacob actually wants to go see Transformers again. I told him he’d have to wait a while before we see it again (like when it’s on DVD) because I’d rather go see something different. Actually, I really like to see a movie that’s more for adults then kids like The Proposal. I won’t hold my breath!
Friday, July 10, 2009 5:04 PM
I was too late, Waffle has passed. When I asked the boys about Waffle, they just said, “Oh yeah, he died.” I think I’m more upset about the death of our fish then the boys are. Why is that? It must be because I was the person who cared for Waffle. I’m sure we’ll get another goldfish but hopefully not for a while.
The weekend is supposed to be nice so we’re hoping to make it to the water park one day. If not, we’ll be going to the movies or maybe we’ll do both. I’ll have to see if I have the energy to do both. Work has been keeping me extremely busy lately. We all want to see Transformers. I’ve heard its worth going to see. Jacob also wants to see Ice Age 3 but I’m not sure if I can talk Aaron and Ben into seeing it. Wish me luck!
By the way, Jacob’s watermelon which we planted a few months ago didn’t make it either. We will try again but this time we’re going to plant the seeds outside. However, I better just plan on buying the watermelon from the store…remember, I don’t have a green thumb.
Tuesday, July 7, 2009 5:09 PM
Last September Ben won a goldfish at the local fair. He had to play some game to win the fish. After a few tries he won. Ben named the fish “Waffle” but I’ not sure where he got that name from. Well, guess what…the fish is still alive! We have had several goldfish in the past but they have all died within the first week or so. I’m not sure why or how this fish is still living. I have been the person taking care of the fish all along but that usually doesn’t matter. When we went on vacation, we gave the fish to the boys’ dad to take care of while we were gone. Even he hasn’t killed Waffle yet. That’s one tough fish! I better bring Waffle home soon or he will die for sure. All of the boys like Waffle but none of them can remember to feed him (or her) that’s why I do. I wonder what that average life span is for a gold fish. I’ll have to google it and find out. As it turns out the average life span for a goldfish is 30 years! I don’t think our fish a chance at living that long giving our history with goldfish. Hopefully, Waffle will survive a while longer
Thursday, July 2, 2009 4:41 PM
The first few days of our vacation it rained at some point during the day. We were able to go to the park one day but it started to rain while we were there so we left. My sister and I decided to take our kids to get an Italian water ice after we left the park. Italian water ice is the best…but you can’t get it where I live. It was a nice treat for all of us.
The next day the boys and I meet my sisters, nieces and nephew at the beach. Again, it was cloudy and overcast. We didn’t even get on the beach until 1:00 P.M. After an hour or so the sun finally can out. The rest of the afternoon was great. All of the kids (except Jacob) boggy boarded. Jacob played in the sand and the water. He loved the waves even thought the water was ice cold. The poor kid was shaking like a leaf. I had to practically drag him back to beach to warm him up. It was a great afternoon.
After we were finished on the beach, we all walked and walked on the boardwalk. We ate dinner and shopped a little. The kids played in the arcade for a short time. I bought the boys T-shirts. It’s really difficult to shop with 6 kids. So, we did a lot of window shopping. The day turned out to be fun and exhausting. I hope we get to go back to the beach again this summer!
Long car ride
Tuesday, June 30, 2009 2:13 PM
We had a long car ride last week. Usually, Aaron sits up front in the car. That’s how we started out but it quickly changed. Ben and Jacob sit in the back seat and fight most of the trip. So this time, Ben asked to sit in the front of the car after we stopped for lunch. I decided to let him so I could have a little peace. I asked Aaron to sit in the back of the car so we could all have a little break from the fighting. At first Aaron didn’t want to sit in the back but he agreed because he didn’t want to hear the fighting either. I told Aaron he didn’t have to sit there long, just long enough for my ears to stop hurting. He ended up sitting in the back seat of the car the entire trip. I asked Aaron at one point if he wanted to move back up front. He didn’t want to move his stuff (DS, phone & MP3 player) so he stayed in the back. We all had a lot more peace and quite this trip. Aaron and Jacob did argue a little but not nearly as much as Jacob and Ben would have done. Thank you for trading Aaron. As for Ben, he thought it was great to be a front seat passenger.
My niece graduated from high school last week. Congratulation to the class of 2009! The graduation was nice but long. It was really special to see her receive her diploma. She made it! I wish her well in the future. I think the graduation ceremony was a little long for the boys. Especially since the graduation was out in the sun. Yes, the sun was shining and it was hot. However, it was well worth the long trip just to see her graduate.
Friday, June 19, 2009 5:01 PM
Jacob bought slip-n-slide with some money he got for his birthday. The boys have had one before but they break easily. So, it’s currently in the front yard killing the grass. All of the boys used it over the weekend. It looks like fun and I might have to try it but it will need to be much hotter outside first. Actually, I have used one before but it has been years and it is a lot fun. There are slip-n-slides that have 2 or 3 lanes where you can race each other. We didn’t get either of those because I was afraid the boys would get hurt. My rule is one person at a time. I could just see a few broken bones or head traumas. So we got just the single lane slide.
Aaron and Ben are enjoying their summer vacation. They have been staying up late and sleeping in the next day. I’m trying to find things to keep them busy. They usually have a list of chores to do during the day. They play the X-box, Wii, basketball and football while I’m at work during the day. Aaron and Ben are not allowed to play tackle football. I think they follow that rule. Although, I fear that one day I’ll get a phone call at work that will require taking one or both of them to the ER. Hopefully, that day will never come.
I did end up getting poison ivy on my legs which took 3 days to break out in the rash. It’s not real bad so I think the poison ivy soap must have helped. My legs are still itchy even though I have continued to use the soap. Aaron’s poison ivy is finally gone. I’m really happy about that because we are on vacation next week. It would be miserable for all of us if we had to deal with the poison ivy while we’re out of town.
Tuesday, June 16, 2009 5:27 PM
Aaron still has poison ivy mainly on his legs. So I’m not so sure that the soap worked. However, he didn’t use the soap until after he already broke out into a rash. Maybe, if Aaron had used the soap before the rash broke out he wouldn’t have as bad of a rash. Aaron did say that the poison ivy soap did help some with the itching. He also used Aloe and Gold Bond powder along with Benadryl so he could sleep. He’s not sure what worked the best or if the combination of medicines was the best choice.
Ben was using the weed wacker in the same area as Aaron but he managed to not get poison ivy. I guess he was lucky. Ben has gotten poison ivy before so I know he is prone to getting it. They have both had to take steroids in the past because their poison ivy was so bad. At least it hasn’t come to that yet but summer is just beginning.
I did a bunch of yard work over the weekend. I finally got the weed wacker operational. Ben mowed the front yard and I tackled the jungle in the backyard with the weed wacker. I only succeeded in getting half of the backyard under control. It was hot and my arms started to hurt after about an hour. I hope to finish the rest in the next few days. When I was finished, I showered and used the poison ivy soap just to be safe. It’s been 2 days since I was near the poison and I haven’t broke out yet. Hopefully, I won’t.
Friday, June 12, 2009 4:57 PM
Ben wants to design his own web page. I’m not sure if that’s a good idea. A few of his friends have designed their own web page. Apparently, there is a free site you can go to that lets anyone design their own web page. I’m concerned for security reasons. I think the computer and internet experience will be good for Ben. If I allow him to do this, then Aaron will probably want to do the same thing.
So, I’ve decided to check out the site for myself. It’s www.freewebs.com
. This is what I found out. You can post photos, videos, make a calendar and even create your own blog. It does seem really cool. There are several other options for your site as well. You can restrict access to allow only your community on to your site. You do need to provide your name, birthday and email address to create your website. The whole process seems easy and secure.
I think I’ll create my own site first to see what is actually involved with it. That way I can allow access to my family and friends who live several hours away from me. I can post pictures and videos of the kids so we can keep in touch a little easier. If I like the way the site works, then I’ll let the boys create their own site. I don’t think Ben is going to like it if I have a website before him. In the long run, he’ll be happy if he has his own website. Hopefully, this is a good idea.
Back to the doctors again!
Tuesday, June 9, 2009 5:05 PM
I had to take Jacob to the doctors last night. He has a sinus infection now. So, let see…in the last month in a half all of the boys have had a sinus infection. That’s 3 trips to the doctors and 4 different antibiotics. I guess I’m next…sure hope not! It must be that time of year. You know everything grows and releases pollen in to the air causing terrible sinus trouble.
Also, Aaron has poison ivy all over his legs, arms and a small patch on his neck. He was using the weed wacker at his grandpa’s cabin over the weekend. All that boy has to do is be within 1 mile of the plant and he breaks out. So, I guess its back to the doctors again. I sure hope it doesn’t come to that. On one of my many trips to the pharmacy recently, I bought poison ivy soap. I knew I would need it at some point but I was hoping it wasn’t this soon. Hopefully, it will work well. The pharmacist recommended the soap and I trust him because I’ve know him for years. Aaron said the soap does help with the itch and it is supposed to help dry out the poison. The soap was a little pricy but it will be worth every penny if it works. Here is the link for the website of the soap so you can try it yourself.
We’ll be on vacation in a few weeks so I’m trying to everyone in the house better before we leave town. We’ll be visiting my family. I hope I’m successful.
Rain, Rain...go away!
Friday, June 5, 2009 5:07 PM
The weather here has been terrible. I think it’s rained all week. My and Jacob’s allergies have been severe. The doctor said I could up his dosage of Claritin before we try something else which I have done. I believe we’re going to need to try something else because he is just so stuffy and has a cough that won’t go away. My throat has been sore for a week. I’ve tried a different assortment of medicine myself with no luck. Hopefully, the rain will stop and the sun will give us some relief.
The boys and I have been playing Uno in the evening especially since the rain is never ending. Jacob is so funny. He has figured out the game and gets a kick out of skipping people or making them draw cards. I still have to help him get his cards situated but Jacob has the concept of the game down. Even Aaron and Ben have enjoyed playing Uno with us. I think they enjoy the time together and the competition that is created between them. It’s difficult to find something to do on a work night when it’s raining but we all seem to enjoy playing Uno.
Recently, I also rented Madagascar 2 for the boys. We had never seen it so I thought that Jacob and Ben would enjoy the movie. Aaron even wanted to watch Madagascar 2 which surprised me. As it turns out, that we all thought it was a good movie. However, we all thought the 1st movie was just a little better. I think I’ll be renting a lot of movies this summer for Ben and Aaron since they’ll be on summer vacation. Having movies to watch will give them a break from their video games. I sure envy them having off all summer. I hope they enjoy it while it lasts.
So much for planning
Tuesday, June 2, 2009 5:32 PM
The last several days have been crazy. I like to plan ahead but sometimes that just doesn’t work out how I expect it to. I am a routine kind of person. At times, I have to break my routine because I annoy the kids and myself. However, I believe that having the boys on a schedule is important for them.
Six weeks ago when I got my hair cut, I scheduled my next hair appointment. Well, about a week before the appointment, I found out that Jacob was having his preschool graduation party the same time. No big deal, I’ll reschedule my hair appointment which was during my lunch break. So I called the salon and changed the appointment for a day earlier. I went to the rescheduled appointment and waited about 15 minutes to find out that my appointment wasn’t changed. Apparently, the salon was training a new girl the day I called and she messed up. They still had me on for my original appointment. I explained to them that I needed to change it due to Jacob’s party. The salon employees were nice and apologetic but I had to wait to the following week for my hair cut.
A few days later, Aaron and Ben gave me the date for their award ceremony at school. It happened to fall during my dental cleaning which I’ve had scheduled for 8 months. I had already confirmed my appointment with the dentist office. I had no choice other then cancel my cleaning the morning of my appointment. I felt terrible because I don’t like to leave the office stuck trying to fill the open slot. I never cancel at the last minute like I did the other day. I feel that I had a really good reason to cancel the appointment. Hopefully, the dentist understands how important it was for me to go to the ceremony for the boys.
Life is crazy at times. I try as hard as I can to fit as much as possible into everyday. That’s why it is so important for me to schedule events. As you can see, sometimes it’s out of my control.
Tuesday, May 26, 2009 6:10 PM
I took Jacob to the doctors on Friday for his 5 year old check-up. I didn’t tell him that he was going to need shots. We discussed what the doctor was going to do such as: weigh and measure him. I also told Jacob that the doctor would talk and ask him questions. Jacob was comfortable with his pending appointment. So after the doctor was finished with the exam, I informed Jacob that he was going to need shots today. He immediately started to cry. I gave Jacob a big hug and told him the shots were necessary so he could go to kindergarten. Well, that didn’t really help the situation. Then I told Jacob he needed to sit still during the shots (3 shots) so they wouldn’t hurt. Jacob was still crying when the nurses came into the room to administer the shots. They wanted him to lie down on the exam table but Jacob refused. So, I had to sit behind him and hold his arms. Jacob cried the entire time. When the ordeal was over, Jacob complained his legs hurt. The nurse told him to walk around a lot so the medicine would circulate. Jacob hobbled to the car. I felt so bad for him but Jacob did a really great job.
I thought it would cheer Jacob up if I took him to McDonalds for lunch. He played on the jungle gym for about ½ hour with another little boy. Then he ate his happy meal. Jacob didn’t complain anymore about his legs hurting. He was very happy by the time we left McDonalds and can’t wait for our next visit there.
We also made a few other stops that day. I needed to get some propane for the gas grill. So we stopped at the local tractor and supply place. When we went in the front door, there were about a million baby chicks. All you heard was “peep, peep, and peep”. Jacob was more excited about the baby chicks then he was about McDonalds. He picked up a few of the chicks and decided he wanted to take one home. Jacob asked me if they were for sale. I said, “Not today”. Then he instantly turned to the clerk and asked her if the chicks were for sale. Fortunately, she was busy and didn’t respond to Jacob. I got out of the store ASAP! I did manage to get the propane so I was happy.
Over all, we had a good day together. I felt bad that I had to take Jacob for shots on my day off work. I wish we could have spent more time enjoying the day together. It’s not often that I get spend a day with just him. He is such a blessing.
Thursday, May 21, 2009 4:16 PM
On the way home from work last night, I stopped and bought pizza for dinner. I had a really busy day at work, it was hot and I didn’t feel like cooking. All of the boys like pizza so it was a good choice for a quick dinner. I try to eat together as a family as much as possible because it gives us a chance to catch up on the events of the day. Occasionally, the boys get a little rambunctious at dinner time. In the past, I have thought that they are like caged wild animals at feeding time. It’s not as bad now as it was a few years ago because they are all older.
After dinner we all went outside to enjoy the weather. Aaron and Ben played dodge ball in the front yard with 2 neighbor boys. They seemed to have a lot of fun and no one got hurt. Aaron and Ben like the move "Dodgeball" but I'm not sure if it's age appropriate. Jacob got to play with the other boys little sister. She will be 5 years old next month. The 2 played Frisbee, blew bubbles and rode bikes. They were so cute and got along very well and no one got hurt!
The boys were all extremely dirty last night. Now that it’s getting dark later, it’s hard to get everyone inside and showered before they go to bed. I try to get all of our clothes, lunches and whatever else needs prepared done at night. I also had to wash a few loads of clothes. So, I was up late last night but I can’t sleep if there is too much that needs done for the next day. I’m hoping to catch up on my sleep this weekend.
Wednesday, May 20, 2009 11:57 AM
I had Aaron to the doctors a little more then a week ago for a sinus infection. Unfortunately, the antibiotic that was prescribed for Aaron wasn’t strong enough. He still has a horrible cough, although Aaron said he feels better then before. So on Sunday, I called the doctor’s office to ask them to call in a different antibiotic. After a few hours, I received a return call from the office stating they would call in a different Rx. The pharmacy was just closing so I wasn’t able to pick up the medicine until after work on Monday. Aaron started him medicine last night. I hope this will cure his infection.
While Jacob and I were at the pharmacy last night, I bought him more pompoms. Jacob has a book that shows you how to make animals using these pompoms. He was running low on supplies because he has a whole collection of animals. Jacob has a frog, bee, dog, butterfly, cow, raccoon, cat, sheep, and chick all with google eyes. Aaron and I have helped him make several of these animals. Jacob really enjoys making them.
Ben has another loose tooth and it’s been that way for about 2 weeks. I told him to start wiggling the tooth as much as possible because he is going on a school trip on Friday. That way there isn’t an issue with the tooth while he’s at the amusement park. I don’t think that Ben has listened to me because the tooth should be the garbage by now. Hopefully, it will fall out any day so it doesn’t spoil his trip.
This weekend will be busy with the holiday. I hope the weather is nice and we get to enjoy our time off together. I’m not sure what are plans are yet. Maybe we’ll just relax a little.
Jacob's 5th Birthday
Friday, May 15, 2009 4:10 PM
Recently, we celebrated Jacob’s 5th birthday. We had a small party at Burger King. He was so excited. There is a great indoor playland at the local BK. It’s a good thing because it rained all day. Jacob played with his little friends, barely ate and played some more. I loved watching him play, he had a great day. Aaron and Ben even had a good time. I was really surprised because they’re too old for the BK playland. However, they both like to eat and like cake.
Jacob wanted a Wall-E cake from the movie. Fortunately, I didn’t have any trouble finding a place to order the cake. I was very lucky because I forgot and didn’t order it until the day before his birthday. Wal-mart actually had the kit available so it all worked out. The cake had Wall-E and Eva robots on it. Jacob couldn’t wait to play with them. They make a delicious cake and we all enjoyed it.
Jacob received lots of presents which included some summer outfits. He skipped right over them and went right for the toys. What else would you expect from a 5 year old? Ben helped Jacob put together a few of his toys so they could play. That worked out well because they couldn’t go outside to play since it was raining. Jacob got a Frisbee for his birthday but was unable to play with it. He wanted to throw it in the house but I wouldn’t let him. He can actually throw it very well. We all had a great day. Where has the time gone? I can’t believe my baby is 5 years old!
Does that shirt fit?
Friday, May 8, 2009 2:25 PM
I bought myself and the boys T-shirts at the Hard Rock Café on our trip last week to Baltimore. The style of shirts has certainly changed over the years for the better. We all picked out the shirts we liked. However, they cost me a small fortune. Aaron’s shirt is white with a guitar on the back in blue. Ben’s shirt is red with a black guitar on the front. Mine is pink with gold lettering. We are all happy with our choice.
While I was paying for the shirts Ben asked me if my shirt was big enough. I was shocked by his remark. I told him it was the right size and that it would be fine. A few days later when I wore the shirt I approached Ben and asked him if he thought my shirt fit me. To my surprise, he told me to raise my hands up in the air. LOL!!! So, I did what he asked. Then he told me to raise them all the way. Again, I did what he wanted. I asked him, “Well, does it fit me”? Ben shrugged his shoulders and said, “I guess”. I thought this was really funny because this is exactly what I have him do when he tries on a shirt. I never thought he would want me to do the same thing.
My kids are truly amazing. I am constantly surprised with the boys. They make me laugh at them and myself. All of my children are smart and funny. This story is just proof that kids learn what they are taught.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009 5:03 PM
The boys and I went on a short trip to the Baltimore Inner Harbor last week. We had a great time. It didn’t rain at all when we were at the harbor. There is a lot to see in Baltimore. I’ve been to the harbor once when I was in high school. The boys have never been there. Ben didn’t want to go to Baltimore because he didn’t want to miss school. I told him we would have fun and it would be worth missing school for the trip.
We walked all around the harbor taking in the sights. There were obviously several ships there. Among them were a Coast Guard Ship, and the USS Constellation, a civil war ship. Aaron loves anything to do with wars and was really impressed with it. There was also a submarine and a WWII ship in the harbor. I took lots of pictures of the boys and the ships. We also toured a light house that was in use in the 1800’s. It was quite different and well preserved.
We ate lunch at UNOS Restaurant. I wasn’t that impressed with our lunch. The boys didn’t seem to care for it either. We sat in a booth over looking the harbor, so the view was great. The restaurant was nice but I’m not sure if we will go back.
After lunch, we went the aquarium. Jacob absolutely loved the aquarium. I could hardly keep up with him. He just was amazed with all of the fish, sharks and sting rays. There is also a rain forest you can walk through. The rain forest was a little hot and stuffy, but it was still nice. My favorite part was the dolphin show. They are such smart and amazing creatures. I took a few pictures of them but they were difficult to capture because I wasn’t sure where they would surface.
We ate a great dinner at the Hard Rock Café. Aaron, Ben and I have been to a Hard Rock Café before but Jacob hasn’t. We enjoyed looking at the memorabilia in the Hard Rock. I am always amazed with the items they have on display. We saw John Lennon’s personal camera and Chuck Berry’s guitar.
Over all, we had a wonderful trip. The Baltimore Harbor is a very nice area to visit. I asked the boys what their favorite part of the trip was. To my surprise, they said, “the ice cream”.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009 5:36 PM
Track hasn’t worked out exactly as I’ve expected it to. The meets are more hectic then I expected them to be. There are kids everywhere. It’s actually difficult to find your own children. The good part is when your children are done with their races, you can leave. The other night, Aaron and Ben were finished before I could get to the meet. I was disappointed that I didn’t get to see them run.
The other day, Ben managed to cut the grass before the rain rolled into town. I was actually proud of him. He had school all day. Then he had a track meet. When I told him he would have to hurry to cut the grass, he only moaned a little about it. When we got home, he didn’t waste anytime and finished the front yard. It was almost as if I had a different child. No complaining at all. He didn’t even fight with Jacob. I think sometimes children push their parents just to see what they can get away with.
All the boys have gotten along the last few days. I hope this continues for a while. We have a short trip planned this weekend. So, it would be great if there wasn’t any fighting among them. I really believe that we will have a fantastic trip! I hope the weather is good.
Monday, April 27, 2009 4:55 PM
It was a very hot weekend. I didn’t accomplish as much yard work as I had hoped. The boys and I have mowed the entire yard in the last week but we had a good bit of rain so it’s time to start all over again. It’s Ben’s turn to mow the front yard but he had every excuse in the book. He has already learned procrastinating at his age. I let him slide because it was just too hot. So we ate popsicles instead.
The only thing I feel that I did accomplished all weekend was playing referee between Ben and Jacob. The two of them fought all weekend. I feel Ben should be a little more understanding then what he is when it comes to Jacob. They fought over Jacob singing to his MPE3 Player and playing the harmonica. I know it was a little annoying at 9:00 A.M. on Saturday, but I don’t believe that justifies Ben slamming my bedroom door and locking it. I will say Jacob is very demanding and a challenge. There is 7 years between the two of them. They fight more then Aaron and Ben who are only 2 years apart in age. Maybe I should buy a whistle so when the fighting starts I can interject before it gets out of control.
It was one of those weekends that I was just glad I survived. Sometimes my children drive me crazy. I’m sure there are times that I do the same to them. Maybe it was just because of the heat. As a parent, I have to take the good with the bad. I hope next weekend is more productive and much more fun!
Going to school
Friday, April 24, 2009 12:15 PM
It’s hard to believe that Jacob will be 5 years old in a few weeks. I remember when Aaron and Ben were 5 years old and getting ready to go to kindergarten. Wow, time does actually fly. It’s also true, the older you get the faster time flies. Recently, I have been working with Jacob to get him ready for kindergarten. Registration for kindergarten is very soon. I love how kids are eager to learn at Jacob’s age. He is so cute. Jacob is very dedicated and smart.
One night last week, Aaron and Ben were doing their homework at the kitchen table. I was cleaning up the dinner dishes. Jacob was bored. He wanted one of the other boys to play with him. So he was being disruptive. After a few minutes, I decided it was time for Jacob to have his own homework. He was very excited when I suggested homework for him. I started to get out a notebook for Jacob but he wanted to use his magna doodle instead. I thought that would be sufficient for him. I proceeded to write a few words for him to practice writing. He sat there for a while eagerly waiting for more words to write. This gave Aaron and Ben time to finish their homework and was also good practice for Jacob. Jacob and I have also been working on counting to 100 by ones and tens. He forgets a few numbers but for the most part does well. Jacob knows his address and phone number as well.
I think he is ready for school. I’m not sure if I am ready for Jacob to go to kindergarten. I know from previous experience that the first day of school will be more difficult for me then I expect. I’m not sure why it’s so difficult to send my little one off to school. I think it’s because in my mind his is still so little. Children grow up so fast. Since I have to work, I believe that there is less time to enjoy my children. So, I’m trying to enjoy every possible moment with the boys.
Work vs. Play
Tuesday, April 21, 2009 12:16 PM
Last weekend was beautiful. I felt like spring was finally here. The boys and I worked in the yard Friday evening and Saturday afternoon. Aaron and Ben mowed some grass for me on Friday. I mowed some on Saturday. We cleaned up some trash and leaves that were all around the house. We also worked on cleaning up the garage. There is still a lot of work that needs done in the yard and the garage. However, we are well on our way to completing our goal. The boys complained about the work they had to do not only because they didn’t want to do it but because they wanted to play video games. I told them we needed to get all of this work done while the weather was nice because it was supposed to rain on Sunday.
After we were finished with our yard work for the day I told the boys they could enjoy the rest of the day. I had bought the boys a volley ball set recently. So on Saturday, Ben, Jacob and I put it together. They all seemed to enjoy this. Jacob had a little trouble playing because he is so much smaller then the other boys. I had to show him how to serve the ball. He tried really hard to hit the ball over the net. Then Jacob pouted when it didn’t happen.
Since we were working outside much of the weekend, we didn’t accomplish much cleaning in the house. We did a little house work on Sunday. Then we went to the movies. It did rain after all. We saw “17 Again”. It was really a good movie. We all liked it. It’s difficult to find a movie we all want to see or that Jacob can watch. “17 Again” is rated PG-13 but for the most part was watchable for Jacob. Aaron and Ben were happy they got to see the movie they wanted. Jacob was happy as well. Now I need to take Jacob to see “Monsters vs. Aliens”. Maybe next weekend Jacob and I will do that together.
Friday, April 17, 2009 5:00 PM
I broke my own rule last night. I took the boys to Game Stop. It all started because I bought Ben new running shoes on Saturday at the mall. He wore them twice and yesterday morning the shoe lace broke. We were on our way out the door (late as usual) when his lace broke. I told Ben he must have pulled really hard for them to break. He had to wear his old shoes to school. If you saw his old shoes you’d understand why this was a problem. I thought about this all day.
On, my way home from work, I picked up a pizza for dinner. Aaron and Ben did their homework. I had to assign Jacob homework so he didn’t feel left out. By this time, I was more frustrated over the shoe lace break. I decided to go back to the mall and request new laces. I still have my receipt, the box, and the bag the shoes came in. So, we went to the mall after our dinner and homework was finished. I told the boys we would go to Game Stop since we were going to the mall. I went to Sears first. This is where I purchased the running shoes. The sales associate was very nice. She told me she could give me a new pair of laces. Great! The shoe laces would have only cost me $2.11. But that wasn’t the point. The shoes were new and it was an inconvenience to me.
Then we all went to Game Stop. The sales associates must “love” me. I walked in with 3 kids all looking to buy a game or two. After several questions about various games, the boys were ready to make their purchases. Since they all had their own money or gift cards from their birthdays, every sale was separate. Combined, they bought 4 games. Then, they had to decide who would get to play first. It was Ben’s turn on the X-Box. So he won. Jacob got to play the Wii. Aaron had to wait his turn. But, it all worked out and the boys were happy!
Shop till you drop
Tuesday, April 14, 2009 5:06 PM
The last thing I want to do in the evening is to go shopping after working all day. I love to shop by myself. I try to get all of my shopping done on the weekends. At times, this is difficult because I need to go to several stores for a variety of items. It is much easier if I don’t take the boys with me to the store. I spend less money and the shopping trip takes less time. The boys hate shopping unless it is something for them such as a video game. To be completely honest, I don’t like them to go to the store with me either! I get frustrated with them because they fight or pick on each other.
The other night, Aaron and Ben wanted to go to Game Stop to buy a video game. We all were going to the store anyway but not Game Stop. Going to Game Stop is a dreaded trip for me. Now I know how the boys feel when I tell them we need to go shopping. I told Aaron and Ben that there was a possibility that we would go there once we were done the shopping I needed to do. Well, we weren’t in the store very long before all the kids found something they wanted to buy. Another reason I don’t like to take them to the store. I managed to escape the store without spending a fortune. But by this time I was completely wore out and just wanted to go home. So, that’s what we did.
Unfortunately, Ben was very disappointed. He complained and said it was unfair. I explained to him that I was very tired but that didn’t seem to matter. He and Aaron have gift cards to spend from their birthdays at Game Stop. I told them I would take them to Game Stop on the weekend so they could each get a new game. That seemed to satisfy all of them, for now. I also told them I would take them to the movies this weekend if they could get along.
Thoughtfullness at Easter
Friday, April 10, 2009 3:01 PM
Every once in a while I am surprised with the generosity of my children. As a mother, I try to teach them to share, be polite and generous. At home there is fighting and an unwillingness to give in to the other brother. Since I am a working mother and not always available for the boys, I worry that my children will be easily influenced by rebellious friends. It is nice to be complemented on the behavior and actions of my children by other parents and teachers. I feel that adults as well as children need reassurance in life.
In preschool, Jacob made an Easter basket for himself and one for each of his brothers. He was extremely happy and excited to present Aaron and Ben with their baskets. Jacob even made the boys baskets in their favorite colors. Jacob made a red basket for Aaron and blue one for Ben. Aaron and Ben were surprised and happy to get a little treat from Jacob. Not only did he make Aaron and Ben baskets, he gave a little boy at preschool some hard boiled eggs to color because he didn’t have any. I am soooo proud of him!
I wish I could have been at his preschool Easter party. However, it’s difficult to find the time to attend every event with the boys. I’ve realized I have to pick and choose the events that I am able work into my schedule. At least Jacob had a great party! Jacob and I will color Easter eggs and have an egg hunt this weekend. I can’t wait!
No more homework
Tuesday, April 7, 2009 2:48 PM
My boys do very well in school. I have always pushed them to take pride in their school work. School has always been a priority in my house. Everything else (video games, TV, and friends) is second. It is extremely hard at times to live up to the standards that I have set for my children. Sometimes I find myself slacking and breaking the rules when one of the boys has to study for a test. This is especially true, if we need to study for a test on a week night. I guess I’m just tired from working all day, cooking dinner and running to various appointments.
Recently, Ben had a math test to study for. I reminded him to bring home is math book so we could study. This can be a challenge in itself. Ben successfully managed to remember his book. He briefly examined the chapter review and stated he was ready for the test. I asked him several times during the course of the evening if we needed to study. Ben said he knew the material.
I didn’t want to study for Ben’s test. I was tired. So I let him go play the X-Box 360. About 5 minutes before bed, Ben tells me we should look over his math study guide. WHAT! At this point the last thing on my mind is studying for a 6th grade math test. Ben gets his book out…the one I told him to bring home. We reviewed for 10 or 15 minutes and off to bed he went. I was not far behind him. Ben hasn’t received his math grade yet. I hope he did well on his test. As I’ve said school is a priority in my house most of the time!
Now, I am concerned about Jacob. He will be starting kindergarten in the fall. So I will have 3 children with homework and tests to study for. Where will I find the time? Some days after work, the last thing I want to do is homework. I’ve already done my time in school but occasionally I feel like I’m back in middle school. Do you remember the old saying, “there are not enough hours in the day”? That’s how I feel today.
Friday, April 3, 2009 12:28 PM
I don’t really like going to the dentist. I am accustomed to going to the dentist as an adult but I still get nauseous at the sight of loose teeth. When one of the kids has a loose tooth I have to turn my head away. I can’t stand the sight of the tooth. It’s not that there is a lot of blood or anything. I just don’t like it at all. In the last 2 weeks Ben has lost 2 teeth. Ben, like all kids, wants to show me his prize! I have to take a quick peek and look away as my stomach turns.
In less than a week I have been to 2 different dentist’s offices. I’ve had to use my lunch break both times to have the kids seen. Aaron had an appointment with the orthodontist. This appointment was scheduled about a month in advance so it was easier to work around. He needs braces, both upper and lower. I was hoping Aaron would only need upper braces but no such luck. Then, Jacob lost a cap that he had on one of his teeth. He was eating a Starburst and the candy pulled the cap right off. Jacob was at his dad’s house when this happened. Well, I (mom does it all as usual) had to take him to the dentist so the cap could be replaced. Fortunately, this was a quick appointment and pain free. But still it’s not a great experience for me.
With all of this running around, I had to eat my lunch in the car (not really a big deal). Race across town pick up Jacob from daycare, then off to the dentist office. Next, have the crown put on and race Jacob back to daycare. Finally, go back to work! What a day that was. I hope there aren’t any dental appointments in the near future. I’ve reached my limit!
Monday, March 30, 2009 11:37 AM
It must be very difficult for kids at times to be away from their moms. I know when I first started back to work after I had Jacob he was not quite 2 years old. He adjusted very well to his sitter. I worked part time initially but a full time position became available and I took the opportunity. Then I had to place Jacob in daycare, which he loves. He has made many little friends. Now, he is in preschool at the same facility. Preschool is more structured then daycare. He is learning a great deal at the center.
Lately, Jacob has told me that he wishes I could work at his daycare center. I have tried to explain to Jacob that I would really enjoy being around him all day but I need to keep the job that I have. Jacob told me I could have a job delivering the mail at his center. I have told him that he will be going to kindergarten soon and he will no longer be at the preschool. So, now Jacob would like me to work at the elementary school. I think he is really sweet and must miss me a lot. I am amazed with the ideas the children at this age create. He must have put a great deal of thought into his plan. I miss him more then he knows when I’m at work. I believe that the times we spend together are so very precious.
I give teachers (daycare and school age) a lot of credit. They have to listen to kids cry and fight all day. These children aren’t even their own. I know there are many happy times with the children. I also realize this would be a challenging job. I know from seeing Jacob’s teachers that they form an attachment with the kids. It helps me get through the day at work knowing he is in good hands and being loved.
Friday, March 27, 2009 2:35 PM
I was so happy to discover that Jacob shares my love of watermelon.
Aaron and Ben don’t like it at all. About 2 weeks ago, Jacob said he would like to plant a watermelon so we can eat it. I had already thought of this idea and had bought a packet at the store for Jacob and me to grow watermelons.
So, I found a little planter and we planted 3 seeds. I really didn’t expect this to work because I have a brown thumb. Guess what? They’re growing. I was completely surprised. Jacob was so happy when he saw the little buds sprouting out of the planter. I explained to him that we would need to replant them into a much larger planter before we can plant the watermelons outside. He looked a little confused as to why we needed to do this. I said, “How large does a watermelon grow”? Jacob got a huge smile on his face. He figured out why we needed to replant our watermelons.
I really wish I could have a small garden outside this summer. But as I said I have a brown thumb and no time to tend to a garden. After working all week, there isn’t much time for anything else. I spend much of the weekend doing grocery shopping, cleaning and trying to tackle the mountain of dirty clothes in the laundry room. So for now, Jacob and I will enjoy our watermelons.
Just Let Me Sleep
Friday, March 20, 2009 11:13 AM
The boys and I have a hard time getting out the door in the morning to go to school/work. We all like to sleep in. Aaron can get ready the fastest. Ben, well lets say he’s slow. Jacob needs the most sleep so I wake him up last in the morning. Recently, the boys have been arguing more. Not just in the mornings but in the evenings as well. Sometimes the arguing makes it difficult for me to get ready for work. They are into name calling lately. Almost everyday, I’m the last one out the door and to the car. Sometimes Aaron starts the car when it’s cold out. This is a big help to me.
Today, I get in the car last (no big surprise) and immediately Aaron and Ben start bickering. I can’t even tell you what it was about. I’m beginning to think it’s a show just for me. They have been doing this a lot lately. The boys were calling each other names again! I don’t understand the fascination with name calling. I know they’re kids, boys at that. Well, today was the day that I had enough. I didn’t even yell at them. I’m so proud of myself. I told the boys that I was going to start fining them every time they called one of their brothers’s a name. I’m going to charge a fee for name calling. Wow, that’s a great idea! They will pay me. At first I said, “I’m going to charge $1.00 per offense”. Ben immediately stated that he is willing to part with $5.00 so he can call Aaron names. With a quick response I said, “Ok let’s make it $20.00 per name”. That seemed to be a little more effective. Let’s hope this works.
How Is This Going To Work?
Sunday, March 15, 2009 11:12 AM
Well, both Aaron and Ben have decided to run track. I have been trying for 2 years to talk Aaron into running track. Finally, he has agreed. I really think this will be a great experience for them. The exercise will be wonderful for them. It will get them outside in the fresh air and away from the video games.
The only thing that I wasn’t considering is how in the world I am going to pick them up at 4:30 P.M. I work until 5:00 P.M. It takes me 30 minutes to pick Jacob up from preschool and to get to Aaron and Ben’s school. Well let’s see, that puts me picking them up at 5:30 P.M. As Ben pointed out to me, the papers he brought home regarding track clearly state that your child must be picked up no later then 4:30 P.M. What now? Well, the boy’s dad can pick them up 2 days a week. Good, that just leaves me 2 days. So, I called a friend of Aaron’s. I spoke to his dad, he is usually very helpful. Unfortunately, they are not sure how they are getting their son from practice either. I have 1 more chance with a friend of Ben’s. His mother is a stay at home mom. They live very close to us so I am hoping she will be able to help me sometimes.
I wish there was a late bus. I think it would be unfair for Aaron and Ben not to be able to participate in sports because I have to work. When kids are in middle school, they are left on their own. In elementary school, there are afterschool programs available for working parents. When your child reaches middle school, the number of programs decreases. Then, the after school activities let out before most parents are done work for the day. This just creates more stress for parents. I wish the school administration would consider an afterschool program for middle school kids.
Tuesday, March 10, 2009 11:10 AM
I have worried about Ben playing with tools ever since he was 4 years old. What I mean is…he started taking things apart. So to this day whenever I see him with a hammer, screw driver or tape measure, I start to worry. I know that the wheels are turning in his head. My house is small and needs some TLC. One day I think he will be great with repairs.
A few weeks ago Ben entered my bedroom with a tape measure. I can only imagine what is going through is mind. I watched him for a few minutes trying to figure out what he could possibly be doing. So, I reluctantly asked him. He proceeded to tell me that he thinks we should change rooms. I have to laugh to myself. How does he come up with these ideas? “Why should we do that,” I asked. Ben has decided he wants a desk in his bedroom and he thinks my room is bigger so we should trade. I looked at him in shock and said “nice try, but I think I’ll keep my room”. Then, Ben decided he should get rid of one of his dressers in his bedroom so this desk will fit. Of course I said, “no”. He didn’t put up too much of an argument and left my room. Moments later, he and Jacob were measuring whatever they could find. Now, I have to watch out for Jacob. He is completely intrigued with measuring. What’s next?
Time For The Doctor
Thursday, March 5, 2009 11:09 AM
Recently, I took Ben to the doctors for a physical exam on my lunch break. The doctors aren’t available in the evenings for “well child check-ups”. Ben wants to run track this year with the school. I think this is a great idea. He hasn’t gotten much exercise over the winter and has put on a few lbs. However, he has a phobia with getting shots. I completely understand his fear.
So, we’re on the way to the appointment. He is reading over the form he needs completed for school. Ben starts asking me questions like what does “abnormalities” mean? Is there something wrong with me? I assure him he is fine. Then, he says, “Do I have to get a shot today”? I was hoping this question didn’t get asked before we reached the dr.’s office. So, I told him I thought he needed one. He immediately started to stress over the thought of a shot.
Well, he needed 3 shots. The poor kid! I felt so bad for him. After the doctor left the room, we had to wait 10 to 15 minutes for the nurse to appear with the injections. This gave Ben unnecessary time to get stressed out. He was so nervous and very talkative. I must say he was a very brave young man when the nurse administered the shots. Once the torture was over, the nurse said he looked pale and made Ben sit and drink juice. Wow! What an ordeal. Ben must really want to run track!
I’m glad this is over with. The next ordeal will be with Jacob’s shots for kindergarten. Yea me! That should be fun for both of us.
Sunday, March 1, 2009 11:04 AM
Hello, my name is Beth Thompson. I am a single mom with 3 great boys who keep me extremely busy. I have 2 full time jobs. The 1st is raising 3 boys as a single mom and the other is working full time. They are great kids. I’m here to share stories about my kids and our life. We have had many happy times that we’ve shared with each other. We have also shared sad and disappointing events in our lives.
My oldest, Aaron is 14 and very mature for his age. He loves video games and basketball. He also plays the drums. Ben is 12 years old. He is your typical middle child with a big heart and temper. He also loves video games and plays the sax. Lastly, Jacob is 4 going on 30. He wants to do everything is older brothers do. Jacob is in preschool and also loves video games.
It can be very difficult at times to juggle all aspects of my life. For example, one of the kids gets sick and the other has a basketball game all at the same time. What do you do? Who do you call? Is there someone… anyone who can help? Not to mention the homework! We all face these challenges as parents. I think we learn and grow from these challenges.
I hope you’ll keep checking back often to read my updates.